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Many people, especially some strangers who meet for the first time, often encounter the embarrassment of not knowing what to talk about. How to chat with girls and how to communicate in depth?

If you are with a girl, you don't know what others think or what she likes. At this time, my mind is full of thoughts about what to say next, whether it will be embarrassing to say the wrong thing, and so on. And my heart will start to worry, and the more anxious I am, the more confused I am. But have you ever found that if you go back to the familiar scene, you will laugh your head off. Why are you speechless at this time?

In fact, we care too much about what this girl thinks of you, so we become cautious in our words and deeds, which is a sign of caring too much about the results. The simple and obvious reason is that we care too much about what this girl thinks of you. In front of this girl, she became very concerned about her words and deeds, always thinking about how to speak, how to say, how to say it to make her like herself, and how to make the topic deeper. These are all manifestations of being too concerned about the results.

You may ask, since I like this girl, of course I care about the result of talking to her, and of course I care whether she likes herself or not. I don't care. How is that possible?

When I say don't care, I mean emotionally don't care. For example, you like a girl. Of course, if you can attract her and make her like you, you will feel happy, but if you can't attract her and make her like you, you will feel sad. Come to think of it, you gave the power to decide your mood to others. Everyone's actions, everyone's glance at you and others' failure to reply to your text messages can determine your mood. This is definitely not the characteristic that attractive boys attract girls. A boy who can be pushed around is not a boy who attracts girls. We all know this from our own life experiences.

Girls are naturally sensitive to detecting such boys. Girls do have the so-called sixth sense, which most boys don't have and never know. But this sixth sense can be cultivated and learned.

What I want to say here is that if a girl realizes that her words and deeds can affect your mood, then her attraction to you, even her previous attraction, will drop sharply. Because, for girls, this is a signal that you can be pushed around at will. Girls' perception of this signal is unconscious and automatic. This is a girl's natural ability.

Many of our brothers don't care that it's easy to talk to girls, but it's hard to see girls they like. People are naturally nervous.

I quite understand. This is what I experienced. Even if I consciously understand that I want to relax, I don't care, I don't care, but I just can't do it in practice and I can't control myself. I still don't know what I'm talking to her.

How to chat with girls There are two kinds of girls, one is shallow and the other is deep. There is no grade difference between the two, but the scope of use is different. Shallow level is easier to learn. When you are chatting with girls and don't know what to say next, this shallow keyword skill is very useful. It can help you find topics with girls immediately. The most exciting thing is that these topics are definitely of interest to girls, making you feel like the boy who understands her instantly. Those veterans who have fought many battles, they should have done this unconsciously.

The deep level seems simple, but it involves the manipulation of each other's emotions, which is very powerful. Once you can master it well and use it correctly, it can make girls fall in love with you deeply and have real feelings for you in a short time.

In-depth chat requires you to accumulate considerable social conversation experience and have a deeper understanding of people. Only mature and socially responsible people can use it. Otherwise, it was fun and powerful at first, and then it became possessed, which would be counterproductive.

Shallow chat skills Shallow chat skills are divided into three parts:

Simple approval or emotion

I think everyone knows this. This is the last sentence of most of our brothers who don't know what to talk about next, and then they don't know what to say. Let me give you a simple example.

For example:

The girl said, "Are you tired from work today?"

The boy said, "Really, have a good rest."

This situation is often that girls don't talk, and boys don't know what to say next. After saying "Really, have a good rest", the boy began to ponder what to say next. But this sentence "really, have a good rest" is a normal conversation, which will add a little relationship. Just learn the next level of dialogue and you will know what to say next.

Keyword skills Keyword skills are the most practical and best used in shallow lexical chunks. Especially when you don't know how to meet a girl or what to say to her next, this method is very useful. Keyword technique is to catch a keyword in the other person's words and then say something about you or others according to this keyword. This dialogue goes further than the first level, and you can continue your dialogue with girls.

For example, girls say "I'm tired at work today" (the key word here is: I'm tired at work, so you can choose one or both. )

The boy said, "Really, it seems like I didn't go to work today." Taking "going to work" as the key word can also be used to tell a story about going to work by yourself. Girls, including you, will be curious. After you say this sentence, you will leave the other party with many questions and ask you questions. )

The girl asked, "Why do you go to work like you didn't go to school?"

Give another example of a keyword:

Girl: This coffee doesn't taste good. (Keywords: coffee, not good to drink)

Boy: (using coffee keywords) This coffee has not been cooked for enough time. It's still about five minutes away. Cook for another 5 minutes to get the top grade.

(Question space left for girls after this passage: Do you know much about coffee? How can you understand? Why do you understand? Why will it be top grade if it is burned for another 5 minutes? Wait a minute. After you answer any question, you will give her more questions to ask you. The topic will be endless, and there can be no topic to talk about. )

You can also use "bad taste" as the key word. The boy said, "have you ever had a drink called matcha?" This is the worst drink I have ever had. "

(The question space left for girls after this passage: What is matcha? What does it taste like? Where did you drink it? Why did you drink it? Why have I never drunk it myself? )

This is the keyword technology. Simply put, it is to take out a keyword in the other person's words and talk about yourself or other things, a sentence, a question and so on around this keyword.

Summarize the methods of study and practice:

Step 1: You make an opening speech with the girl, and then choose the key words from what she said to you.

Step 2: Just put this keyword in the answer you gave her, and then listen to the new keyword from her answer.

Step 3: Every time you give her an answer, put the key words she used, and at the same time, add a little of your own words.

Once you learn to talk to her for 5 minutes, you can progress to 15 minutes, and finally to 30 minutes. Just exercise this method. Keyword skills can not only make you start a topic with girls, but also make your conversation very exciting. If you use it well, girls will be attracted to you immediately.

How to grab keywords? What keywords are better to grab? Grasping the following key words will make your conversation more interesting and make her think you are more interesting.

1) catch words that are easy to be ambiguous.

2) Easy to pun.

3) Pronunciation is easily misunderstood

4) Homophones.

Girl: "I bought this on JD.COM."

Boy: "Did my sister buy milk tea?"

JD.COM and sister with milk tea are actually words with poor correlation, but here we deliberately confuse them to further expand the topic.

? When chatting with girls at first, it is best to choose an open topic in order to prevent the chat from becoming embarrassing.

Boy: What else do you like besides dancing?

Girl: I'm interested in photography.

Boy: How do you usually shoot? Can you teach me some skills?

This is also the beginning of a deep chat. At this time, it is not just for what the other party said, but for the familiar and interesting topics of the other party to exchange their knowledge, experience, views, opinions and so on. At the same time, I show that I have a deep understanding of the topics I am interested in, that is, I show that I am an expert and I am very interested in this. I suddenly narrowed the distance between the two people, that is, everyone is one of their own.

In-depth chat, you need to deeply understand her mood at that time, analyze her emotions, think about your previous experience of similar emotions, and then give her feedback.