The First Half of My Life: Why did Zijun always meet love rat when he was surrounded by good men?

Last time I wrote The First Half of My Life, why were Luo Ziqun and Luo Zijun sisters? One was so poor and the other was getting better. The biggest reason is that they have different perceptions of many things. Luo Zijun's cognition in feelings, although it makes people hate iron and not produce, is very real. In real life, I really see many women who are unhappy in marriage, and they all have Luo Ziqun's cognition. A woman with this kind of cognition just complains constantly every day, which can neither change the marital status nor make up her mind to start over, and can only drag on for a lifetime.

Bai Guang is the most annoying man in the whole play. Even the cheating Chen Dou is much cuter than him. Therefore, never say that a man is a good man as long as he doesn't cheat. But Bai Guang was complacent, especially after Chen was cheated, he was full of moral superiority. Even Luo Ziqun has a sense of superiority. My mother advised her to divorce. She would say that Bai Guang didn't cheat, unlike her brother-in-law. In some people's eyes, as long as men don't cheat and have no domestic violence, it is commendable to be bad again. The requirements for men are really too low.

At first, Bai Guang never worked hard. She has to rely on her wife to support her. I also quarreled with her every day until my stomach was pumped. In the words of Ming Lan in Know No, this is just a soft meal. Such a man, either cut off his confession and forced him to stand on his own feet, or divorced and left, at least didn't raise a man. But Luo Ziqun can't do anything. Every time she quarreled, she said she wanted a divorce, but as soon as Bai Guang knelt down and begged for mercy, she immediately relented and went back with him.

Later, Bai Guang knew her temper very well, and she was not afraid of making big mistakes again. She told people that in a few days, the anger would subside and he would kneel down and ask her to come back. Since it works so well, he certainly has no motivation to change it. Ziqun and her sister said that the reason why they didn't divorce was that they felt inseparable from her. Many girls think like Luo Ziqun when they meet useless love rat. I think I'm very important to love rat. Whether economically or spiritually, love rat can't live without her. To tell the truth, I think highly of myself.

Later, Ziqun ran away with a man named Hui. Bai Guang was desperate and stayed at Lao Zhuo's house. On the contrary, he works hard and gets paid every month. After leaving the sub-group, people have a good life and think that they are better than before, so they begin to think about whether to continue to be with the sub-group. I often see some women complaining that their husbands don't do housework, but at the same time they make arrangements when they go out, thinking that they will starve to death if they don't make good arrangements. If you want to do this so badly, don't blame others for not doing housework. You are used to it.

They're all scum anyway. It is better to find a handsome guy who has quarreled with Bai Guang countless times. After being exhausted, Luo Ziqun met Ah Hui, the hair director. This man has a wife and children, and his monthly salary is not enough for him to spend, and he has to borrow money from his subgroup. In essence, he is no different from Bai Guang, and both want to be raised by women. Luo's mother was furious when she learned about it. Educate the sub-group, and even if she is looking for it, she should find a good one to support you and. Subgroup said: anyway, they are all scum. Better find a handsome one. The subtext of this sentence is: men have no good things!

This is also a sentence that many women like to say in real life, but I really don't agree with it and advise you not to think so. Just because you happen to meet a bad man doesn't mean that all men are bad. Just because you meet a white light doesn't mean all men are white light. It is safe to say, no, there are plenty of good men. Only if you believe that there are good men in this world, you won't live and die in a love rat, and you will have more reasonable demands on men, instead of thinking that they are scum anyway, just find a handsome one. Some people may say that there are many good men, but I may not meet them. If I meet someone else, I may not like me. There is still a cognitive misunderstanding. I think good men are elites, Gao Fushuai.

Many people don't deserve such a good man, but ordinary men, men at your level, also have many good ones. For example, the subgroup is in an ordinary class and looks ordinary. A man of her level may have no house or car, but he must have a strong sense of responsibility, be willing to work hard to support his family and love his wife. Subgroup requirements are very simple. Her standard for money is that when she doesn't want to cook, she can go out to eat and buy whatever she wants in the supermarket. Such a request can be met by a slightly normal man. Whether a person is good or not has nothing to do with whether he is rich or successful. Don't think about a good man, instinctively think that he is tall and doesn't deserve it.

Subgroups often comfort themselves by saying that everyone is making do. The question is, how do you know everyone is making do? Just like some people always say that men cheat, all marriages are full of holes. Actually, it's not. Some men don't cheat, and some marriages are just very happy and sweet. Don't fantasize that everyone is not doing well, which has no effect except comforting yourself to continue living in the mud. Who wants me to do this? After zijun's divorce, you can find Laojin and He Han. Zijun and Luo's mother have been persuading Ziqun to divorce Bai Guang and find another one. Subgroup said to her sister: you are pampered and well maintained, of course you can find it. But my hard work is written on my face. Who wants me to do this? In this world of looking at faces, it is indeed more advantageous to look good, but not looking good does not mean that you will lose.

Moreover, the most critical issue is that all subgroups, sisters and mothers think that women must find a man, even if they are divorced, they should find another one immediately. Zijun just got divorced, and Luo's mother whispered in her ear every day, telling her to find a good man and what class to take. Finding a good man is better than anything. Even though Chen has just learned a lesson from men's unreliability, he is still habitually looking for men to rely on. Ziqun thinks that divorce is to find the next man, but she is not sure whether the next man is better than Bai Guang, so she dare not divorce easily. Many unhappy women feel the same way. They always feel that they may not find a better job after divorce, so even if their marriage is worse, they will survive.

Luo Zijun and Chen Dou graduated from the same famous university in Shanghai. Luo Zijun used to be a schoolmaster. A person who can be admitted to a famous university needs to be diligent and have a smart mind first. After all-round study in the university, Luo Zijun still has a good eye when choosing a partner. At least she won't choose soft rice. Luo Ziqun is different. She seems to be very casual about her studies, feelings and life. As long as men like her, even if they just say that they like this kind of thing without cost, she will be full of joy. If there are difficulties in life and economy, she feels that she can still rely on her sister and mother.

Luo Zijun's first husband was Chen, but he was really not a bad person. Chen said "I support you" to Luo Zijun from the bottom of his heart. Luo Zijun really got rich from Dignā ga, and he enjoyed it both mentally and materially. Luo Ziqun's first husband was Bai Guang, who was really poor. Sometimes poverty is not terrible, the most terrible thing is laziness and violent tendency. However, Luo Ziqun is always soft-hearted. Every time he divorced Bai Guang, he couldn't stand Bai Guang's repeated complaints and knelt down to get along. Luo Ziqun has no education and can only support Bai Guang and his children by doing odd jobs. She was exhausted in this marriage.

In fact, Luo Zijun broke up with Chen because Luo Zijun didn't make progress with Chen. This sentence is not entirely correct. Luo Zijun is not a lazy fool. Honest Chen told her, "You don't have to work, I will support you." Luo Zijun chose to trust him and wanted to be a beautiful young wife. So she works hard to keep fit, maintain her skin, study how to wear clothes and practice makeup techniques. This is also a kind of diligence, but the flow of time is different. Luo Ziqun envies her sister very much. Even after divorce, she is still young and beautiful. Luo Ziqun is Luo Zijun's sister, but she looks older than Luo Zijun.

Luo Zijun's first marriage failed, and she deeply realized the crux of the problem. That is, a woman's life can only be her own, never a man's. As a salesman, although her salary is meager, she is much calmer than when she asks Chen for living expenses. She is in no hurry to start another relationship. Although he is in his thirties, Luo Zijun is still very attractive. When I first arrived at the company, the boss Duan wanted Luo Zijun to be a lover. Luo Zijun asked him contemptuously how much money he could earn every month. Duan said that he can earn about 20,000 yuan a month. Luo Zijun told him that her ex-husband earns more than one million yuan a year, and it is still difficult to support two women, not to mention that you are only 20,000 yuan a month.

Laojin pursues Luo Zijun. In fact, Lao Jin is a down-to-earth person. Many women want to marry Lao Jin, but Lao Jin despises others. Luo Zijun tried to get along with Laojin for a while, but when he found that he was not the same person, he decisively refused Laojin. He Han, who once hated Luo Zijun the most, also fell in love with Luo Zijun, because she felt very real and relaxed with her. But because He Han is the boyfriend of his good friend Tang Jing, Luo Zijun refused He Han.

On the other hand, Luo Ziqun didn't learn the lesson of his first marriage at all. Without divorcing Bai Guang, I fell in love with a married man, the design director of a barber shop. She can't stand the sweet words of the hairdresser A Feng. She is reluctant to spend hundreds of dollars on clothes at ordinary times, but she is willing to spend two thousand dollars to be a member of a barber shop. Luo Ziqun's choice of the other half is really short-sighted and bottomless.