What can I do to completely control my emotions?

Control the fluctuations caused by your emotional changes.

When the mood fluctuates greatly, let yourself calm down and learn not to make yourself and others unhappy because of the change of mood.

Learn to relax and take a deep breath when you are in a bad mood. Forget those bad things as soon as possible and ignore their existence. If you keep thinking in your mind, it will only bring you repeated aftertaste, deepen their impression and make your mood fluctuate more and more.

Do something that can ease your mood and make you happy. In life, emotions should not fluctuate greatly because of certain things, so as to ignore their own existence. We should be good at adjusting ourselves and our mentality. Know how to call it quits. Learn to tolerate. Every time I meet someone who makes me angry, if it is my family, I will use my family to resolve it and hurt the people I love. In the end, I will be hurt by myself. If you are a friend, you should understand with a broad mind, and you will not come back without your friend's friendship; If you are colleagues, forgive them generously and you will win respect; If you are a passer-by, you should laugh it off, because it reflects your noble character and personality charm. If you are wrong, just admit it directly, so that you can make more progress.

Consciousness adjustment: people's consciousness can adjust the occurrence and intensity of emotions. Generally speaking, if they can clearly understand the root causes of their emotional fluctuations, they can adjust their emotions more effectively.

Language adjustment: Language is a powerful tool to influence people's emotional experience and expression, and emotional response can be caused or suppressed through language. For example, Lin Zexu hangs a banner with the words "Control Anger" on the wall, which is an example of using language to control and adjust emotions.

Shift of attention: shift attention from negative emotions to other aspects. Russian writer Turgenev suggested that those who are headstrong and quarrelsome should turn their tongues in their mouths ten times before speaking.

Action transfer

This method is to turn emotions into motivation for action, that is, to turn anger into motivation for science, culture, study, work, art and sports.

Release method

Let angry people say unfair and indignant things frankly to dispel their anger, or punch them in sandbags and heads to relax their nervous function.

Learn to relax: When you feel too nervous, worried or scared, you can take a deep breath to relax yourself, that is, breathe in deeply and exhale slowly to relax your body and mind. You can also use self-suggestion methods, such as anti-ego.

Learn to transfer: When the internal heat rises, consciously changing the subject or doing something else to divert attention can relieve the mood. Playing ball games, walking and listening to pop music also help to transfer unpleasant emotions.

Learn to vent: when you encounter unpleasant things and grievances, don't bury them in your heart, but tell or cry to your intimate friends or relatives. This kind of venting can release the inner depression.