What have we learned from the breakup between He Han and Tang Jing?

About the TV series My First Half Life, what I want to say is the relationship between the two characters in the drama, that is, why did He Han and Tang Jing, who have been entangled for more than ten years, fail to make a positive result and finally break up? The explanation of two people in TV series is that they don't love each other enough. I think this is a relatively shallow reason, even a reason imagined by two people. The real reason is that neither of them actually realized it. Many people watch TV plays just to watch the excitement, and think that the characters in the plays are "works", but there are deep-seated reasons behind each kind of "works".

I think the most fundamental reason is that He Han and Tang Jing have a variety of relationships intertwined at the same time, which makes them too nervous to handle it properly.

First of all, He Han is Tang Jing's mentor and her career guide. Tang Jing is his most proud "work", so their initial relationship is a further mentoring relationship than their colleagues. Because it is a mentoring relationship in the workplace, it is actually a superior-subordinate relationship, especially in Bianchi. He Han is indeed Tang Jing's boss.

Secondly, they have a growing affection for each other because of each other's teaching, which leads to such a sensitive office romance, which adds a feeling of mutual admiration to the relationship between superiors and subordinates. In fact, many companies don't allow office romance, because two employees suddenly become colleagues and lovers, and these two relationships will inevitably affect each other. Imagine that the workplace should be business-like, but who can guarantee that the relationship between lovers will not be lenient?

So He Han chose to leave Bianchi, so he and Tang Jing are no longer colleagues or bosses, but the mentoring relationship still exists. So they actually want to make the relationship between two people simpler and purer, but it backfires. He Han left Bianchi but joined his rival Chen Xing. As a result, their relationship became a competitor again. As the saying goes, shopping malls are like battlefields. As competitors, it is difficult to give in to each other.

Because of a project, He Han made sacrifices, and as a result, the two became partners again.

Because Tang Jing grew up, she needed equal dialogue, and with the turning point of two people, the relationship between lovers stumbled into a friend relationship. Therefore, it is not difficult to see that two people have a mentoring relationship at the same time, which used to be a superior-subordinate relationship, a lover relationship, a competitor relationship, a cooperator relationship and a friend relationship. Such a complicated relationship can't be handled at the same time, but it will eventually affect each other and make each other very tired.

From He Hanhe's emotional development, we can realize a truth, that is, both of them expect a relatively stable relationship, and perhaps only one relationship is more appropriate at the same time. It is also very enlightening to our real life. Why are two people either lovers or friends? The so-called confidante and confidante are all strange relationships. Colleagues, especially between superiors and subordinates, may also affect their work if they call each other brothers regardless of public or private interests. Some companies also require both husband and wife not to be in a competitor's company, because they can't be husband and wife and competitors. There should be many such examples.

I thought of another famous American drama House of Cards. You may think that the relationship between the two protagonists, Francis and Claire, is also complicated. For example, they are both husband and wife and colleagues, but they seem invincible. In fact, there is only one relationship between them, and that is cooperation. The so-called relationship between husband and wife is just to maintain the public image. In the first season, Francis was a female reporter as her lover, and Claire had a photographer as her lover. They know each other, but they don't interfere. Different from colleagues in ordinary offices, they are all politicians, and they need to use, support and cooperate with each other to reach the peak of power, so in fact they are just partners.

Francis and Claire have handled their relationship well, that is, cooperative relationship, and each has a clear purpose, rather than the intertwined relationship like He Han and Tang Jing. Knowing this, we know that He Hanhe is doomed to break up unless they can reduce so many relationships to only one, but they haven't done it for so many years, so there is no solution.

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