"Strong woman, God forbid" Comments: Why do women struggle?

After the TV series "Strong Woman, Heaven forbid"

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At the beginning of 2020, an epidemic of COVID-19 that swept the world blocked my trip, and I was dragged into the ranks of following dramas after living at home for decades. These days, I refresh my screen viewing record at the speed of a TV series almost every three days. After the spy war and the movies in the 1990s, my interest gradually turned to urban feelings. Nothing except Bai Yueguang and If Life Can Do It All over again in the thirties ... Most of them have gone with the wind, but I caught up with an old drama "Strong Woman, Heaven forbid" five years ago, just like drinking a bowl of rice porridge and finding a cooked fly at the bottom of the bowl!

Zheng Yuqing, the powerful heroine in the play, was born in a cadre family and is an only child. When she was a child, her parents had different personalities and often quarreled and divorced, which made her feel insecure about her family since childhood. She wrapped her heart tightly, always self-centered, spending and overdrawing her parents' care at will, and longing for supplements outside her home. Zheng Yuqing was disrespectful and unfilial to his parents, turned a deaf ear to the kind persuasion and enlightenment of his elders, and even openly confronted them. Her heart is extremely empty, and she fantasizes about attracting attention and venting her resentment through some adventurous, exciting and novel actions.

Zheng Yuqing, a teenager, approached Xueba Lv Fangcheng actively, looking for warm compensation. After puppy love was discovered, she denied it on the grounds of helping each other study, and tried every means to criticize and persuade teachers and parents to be stupid. After escaping the punishment of the school, he turned his relationship into a more secret underground. Gradually, she got used to this stealing behavior, thinking that it was full of novelty and excitement and could bring her pleasure. Some viewers said Zheng Yuqing's bold and adventurous behaviors, such as risking his life to enter Jiang Xindao, making an unannounced visit to the waste oil refining workshop, and falling down from the building to take pictures of drug trafficking. I beg to differ. These are just her attempts to seek greater stimulation, fill the emptiness in her heart and cover up her restless emotions.

Zheng Yuqing is untrue to her feelings, unfaithful to her husband, extremely disorderly in life, and has no discretion in treating the opposite sex. She often can't control her feelings and let them overflow. After entering the newspaper, she had an affair with Paul Lee for the convenience of her work. Give acquiescence to Li Paul's teasing and probing, and sometimes even respond positively, encouraging him with unspeakable body language. He didn't show his attitude before Li Paul's almost confession, but looked around and said it and let him dream. From the newspaper always thought that she and Paul Lee were a pair of "golden couple" to when she got married, her colleagues were surprised why the groom wasn't Lee. Zheng Yutong concealed the fact that she had a boyfriend from her colleagues in the newspaper, and her pseudo-shrew skills of paving the way and concealing the truth were perfect.

Later, Li fell ill and was admitted to the hospital. After the marriage, Zheng Yuqing's emotion appeared blank again, so she wanted to have a baby to fill the vacancy left by Baoluo Li. However, she tried her best to get pregnant because the abortion caused by exploring gutter oil hurt her health. Finally, Lu Fangcheng took her to the place where she cheated for the first time in college-the back corner mat of the gym played the passion of cheating again before she got pregnant. I can see that Zheng Yuqing is very coquettish and has waves in his bones. Whether psychologically or physically, she prefers the emotional appeal of stealing chickens and dogs, and longs for more and stronger fresh stimulation. This hunger and thirst accumulated deviant energy in her mediocre life.

The birth of a child really filled her emotional space and satisfied her happy mother's vanity, but the burden of family life soon bored her. She quietly hid her worries, further played dumb, put on a "Secondary Two" mask, changed into a director of the news department with better prospects, but chose the director of the supplement department who was idle. So as not to attract people's attention and gossip with a bunch of men and women. On the surface, I am content with the status quo, but actually my heart is stirring and the tide is surging. She was stung and waiting for the right time. At this time, she saw through Goofy's mind, sold all her and her husband's property without hesitation, won the advertising space in the newspaper, and changed hands to make Goofy gain huge profits, which aroused Goofy's attention and admiration for herself and opened the long-suppressed emotional leakage valve.

After Zheng Yuqing became president, he hated the mediocre husband and his feelings drifted to the high-flying side with a successful career. Gao Fei read Zheng Yuqing's hints, captured her subtle emotional changes, got the news that Zheng Yuqing returned to the city in advance from Hainan, deliberately fabricated reasons for not meeting friends, and went to the airport to meet them in the rain, which narrowed the distance between them. Later, I hooked up further by passing by or meeting with the newspaper. Zheng Yuqing also actively cooperated, avoiding her husband, leaving her daughter in kindergarten waiting to go home, and secretly ran to the suburbs to have a tryst with Gao Fei. From then on, Zheng Yuqing often used the excuse of avoiding her husband meeting Gao Fei privately to discuss work, talk about his ideal life, and even talk about the "control" of men without restraint. Liu Fangcheng noticed the appearance of Zheng Yutong and clearly expressed her dissatisfaction with her private date with Gao Fei. Zheng Yuqing, on the other hand, played dumb and continued to raise the banner of "Secondary Two", totally ignoring her husband's feelings and dating Gao Fei privately at will. She covered up her decadent, dirty and dark heart with a simple appearance, as if she had been wronged.

Zheng Yutong denied that she was having an affair, saying that she needed to consult Gao Fei on some work issues. This reason is obviously untenable. Gao Fei is neither a newspaper consultant nor a media expert. He just needs to abandon his family and his daughter and hold a secret meeting at night. We can talk about some things in the office during the day. Is it necessary to stay up late and sneak around? In addition, some suggestions given by Gao Fei are mostly ingenious, and some are even despicable. If Zheng Yuqing is still the head of the department as before, it may be effective to deal with some trivial matters, but at this time Zheng Yuqing is already the president of the newspaper and should be concerned about major decisions such as the reform and development, transformation and upgrading of the newspaper. After fine locking, it can be handed over to relevant departments for handling. It is really impossible for a newspaper to have a party Committee, an editorial board and a large group of people, and there is no need for her to take charge of it herself. Besides, Zheng Yuqing's husband is also a financial high flyers, and his knowledge level can't compare with scum like Gao Fei. This can be judged from the two plans that Zheng Yuqing requested at the beginning of his tenure (Gao Fei suggested writing a good speech, and Lu Fangcheng suggested looking up three tables). Zheng Yuqing can ask her husband's advice, but if it is really not possible, she can invite her husband. Three stinky bags can make a Zhuge Liang. Deliberately hiding from her husband can only show that JUNG WOO has a ghost in his heart, and there is no doubt that his thoughts are derailed!

Zheng Yuqing got pleasure and excitement from this furtive tryst with Gao Fei, as if she had found the feeling of a girl's first love, and she couldn't extricate herself. The "double bed room" incident marked the escalation of her relationship with Gao Fei and the beginning of her physical infidelity. If Zheng Yuqing didn't add Goofy's name to the order, the hotel wouldn't know that she was flying with Goofy, and wouldn't call Lv Fangcheng's mobile phone to make a "double bed room" explosion. Hunger, tension and infinite expectation before the derailment made Zheng Yuqing's thoughts wander and confused. By mistake, I filled her and Goofy's names in my room list, indicating that she is going to use this business trip and Goofy to realize the integration of spirit and flesh. The plot does not further show the accommodation of Zheng Yutong and Gao Fei in the hotel, but Zheng Yutong's conversation with the front desk staff undoubtedly gave Gao Fei a great psychological hint. Goofy was divorced at this time and was in a state of extreme sexual hunger. Now that his coveted prey has come to you, he obviously won't let go. This evening may really be like Lu Fangcheng's guess. Even if they changed rooms, the two colluded to break through the moral bottom line together. After all, hotels are not prisons, so it is impossible to block their communication. It's not hard to understand why Zheng Yuqing hasn't answered Liu Fangcheng's phone since he came back, and he hasn't given her husband any explanation. She deliberately concealed the truth and continued to pretend that she was guilty of cheating, fearing that she would accidentally spill the beans!

Sex and thought are one. Since Zheng Yutong had sex with Goofy, her heart was naturally not on Lu Fangcheng's side. She has ulterior motives, completely disregarding her husband's feelings, leaving her family and children behind, fooling around with Gao Fei more frequently, and occasionally letting her husband catch her red-handed, which greatly disappointed her husband. Zheng Yuqing is confident that she can control her weak husband and continues to pretend to be a bitch. On the one hand, she concluded that Liu Fangcheng would take care of her feelings for more than 20 years, forbearing to pierce her mask face to face; On the other hand, although she enjoyed the excitement and pleasure of cheating with Gao Fei, she was a person of status before the competition and still needed the cover of her family, because at this time she was not strong enough to openly challenge the moral bottom line and bear the charges of cheating on her marriage and abandoning her husband and children. The first derailment improved Zheng Yuqing's taste. She wants to seek greater excitement, completely abandon her husband and Gao Fei to play a vigorous love scene. She and Lu Fangcheng were deadlocked in the Cold War, pressing hard step by step, constantly stimulating and torturing Lu Fangcheng, hoping that he would take the lead in proposing a divorce.

The pregnancy test stick incident was a fatal blow to Lu Fangcheng by Zheng Yuqing. Obviously, she didn't live with her husband for half a year, but after she came back from a private meeting with Gao Fei, she sneaked into the drugstore and bought a pregnancy test, which made Fang Lu very angry! In the play, Zheng Yuqing did not give any explanation to Lu Fangcheng. In her explanation of Liu Suying, she argued irrationally that she suspected that she was pregnant six months ago. The explanation is that there is no silver here, and I'm afraid she can't believe it herself. Imagine a woman who once gave birth to a child, don't you know what it's like to be pregnant for six months? Do you still need a pregnancy test? In this regard, Liu Suying mercilessly poked her mask. She began to pretend to be B again, saying that such an event could happen to her when a person is pregnant. I was so angry that Liu Suying denounced her as a shameless Bai Lianhua pseudo-bitch!

Through emotional torture, Zheng Yuqing constantly touched Liu Fangcheng's bottom line and forced her husband to file for divorce. After avoiding the moral condemnation of cheating on her husband, abandoning her family and children, she immediately became strong. She dressed herself up as a disgruntled woman who was emotionally hurt and abandoned by her husband, and found a perfect excuse for finding a new home for herself. She simply moved out of the family, leaving her sick mother-in-law and young daughter to her ex-husband, and confidently accepted the guest room booked by Gao Fei for her, and paired up with Gao Fei, with no one watching. She even allowed paparazzi to take photos after their stalking, turned a deaf ear to the gossip information posted on the Internet, and even openly cuddled with Gao Fei at the gate of the newspaper office, which was extremely shameless. She also publicly told people that Goofy didn't take advantage of people's danger, but volunteered. She also said that there was nothing to say with Fang Cheng before marriage.

Zheng Yuqing's impudence is also manifested in her ruthlessness to her daughter and cruelty to her ex-husband. She would rather get rid of her daughter's parents' meeting than give her "daughter" with unclear ethics to her lover as a parent; The daughter learned about her mother's online scandal from her classmates, speculated that her parents might divorce, and then threatened to die, but Zheng Yuqing had no regrets. If a lie can't save her daughter, put it on her ex-husband, let Lu Fangcheng tell her well and let her understand her. When her lover was in hospital, she sent her ex-husband to take care of him like a dog to show her concern for her new love and indifference to her ex-husband's daughter, trampling on her dignity and torturing her feelings. Even shamelessly told his lover that he hoped to live with Fang Cheng and Wu Ling in the future. A woman's heart is so strong, I'm afraid Pan Jinlian will sigh!

Zheng Yuqing's empty soul, overflowing emotions and her constant pursuit of excitement and adventure doomed her to be short-lived with any man. After living together, the lover separated from him for work reasons and could not take care of himself. He didn't even care about such simple housework as cooking and washing clothes, and the novelty of stealing chickens and dogs soon disappeared. Goofy doesn't like her at all. When eating steamed buns, he ate all the meat and kept a pile of steamed buns for himself. At this time, she thought of her ex-husband's tolerance and consideration, and felt very lost. When I first entered the Gaos' home, Grandma Goofy disliked that she was a wild woman recruited by Grandpa Goofy. Considering that Gao Fei's father gave birth out of wedlock but left the blame to his son, Zheng Yuqing realized that such a dissolute and dirty family might bring a shadow to her later life, and she did not guarantee whether Gao Fei, who was born in such a family, could be absolutely loyal to the family marriage. Originally, a daughter and a mother-in-law made her unbearable. In the future, she will have to face crazy grandma Gao, her parents-in-law, Goofy's son, illegitimate daughter who has lost her ethical seniority, her own daughter, ex-husband and Goofy's ex-wife ... those messy but unavoidable people short-circuit her underdeveloped brain cells. This kind of life is heavy, even a powerful Bai Lianhua like her can't bear it. Zheng Yuqing attended the anniversary celebration of Goofy Enterprise without any difficulty, broke off his doomed love with Goofy in the form of one-night stand, and then played the so-called "soul mate".

Zheng Yujing's working ability and the performance level of metropolis daily are really lacking. As the chief official, she sticks to her post, stares at a newspaper when the paper media is shrinking, muddles along by collecting some old accounts, advertising fees and government rewards, does not think about the transformation and development of newspapers, does not take the initiative to connect with the Internet, and does not plan for the future outlet of newspapers. Her so-called reform is nothing more than reducing the burden, letting the old, weak, sick and disabled workers be laid off and diverted, outsourcing the canteen, separating property, and transferring distribution ... She is overwhelmed by trivial things every day, and the slightest thing will fly high. At best, Gao Fei is a private enterprise boss. Which private enterprise has made a fortune without guilty blood? Can those illegal acts of stealing chickens and dogs be replicated in state institutions?

Before leaving the newspaper, Liu Suying and other colleagues persuaded JUNG WOO to return to the ordinary. But now that she has broken up with Goofy, can Lv Fangcheng and her daughter's family still hold her? She told Liu Fangcheng that she had broken the relationship with Gao Fei and used "grafting, immortality" to test Liu Fangcheng's tone. However, Lu Fangcheng saw through her pseudo-shrew nature and said, "Are we made for each other?" Laughing at each other and saying that she is suitable for being an official is really a piece of official material. The circuit has been broken and Zheng Yuqing feels very lonely. As a daughter, as a wife, as a mother and as a daughter-in-law, she is really poor and has never had one. She can't turn back, can't find the way forward, and can only let fate push herself to continue streaking on a powerful road.

Zheng Yutong's boyhood lover and later husband, Lu Fangcheng, was born in a single-parent family, but there was no lack of family care. The young widowed mother did not remarry, and worked hard to bring up Fang Cheng's brother and sister. He inherited his mother's kindness, diligence and tenacity. When he was young, he was a typical schoolmaster and was very proud of his mother. Lv Fangcheng is considerate of his mother, knows how to be grateful, and tries his best to repay the kindness of his family and his mother. But his character is honest and frank, lacking flexibility and good face. He loves his wife so much that he will do whatever Zheng Yuqing says. He found out very early that his wife's appearance was not communicated, because she was kind and stopped in time. Later, as an ex-husband, Zheng Yuqing asked him to go to the hospital to take care of his beloved "buddy" and his ex-wife's lover, Gao Fei. He didn't know how to refuse. He chose patience and waited for his wife's conscience to return, but what he was waiting for was a heavy cuckold husband. Lv Fangcheng cares about her daughter's growth and progress. Even in the most difficult times, she still smiles and accompanies her. When he joined the work, Lu Fangcheng entered the unit with the title of number one scholar, but his fate was ill-fated. He met the wrong person, and his colleague Xu Wenjun kept getting in the way. He made many mistakes in his work, and he was crushed. After Zheng Yuqing was suddenly promoted to the top of the newspaper because of an accident, the family burden completely fell on Liu Fangcheng. Disappointed with work, the burden of family, and the apprentice of his wife's cheating "good buddy" made him despair of Zheng Yuqing, ending his marriage and quitting his job in lightning speed. From then on, he didn't believe in love, marriage or even women. Following in his mother's footsteps, he became a full-time father, found business opportunities in his own company, owned his own career and regained his confidence. Rejected Gao Fei's attempt to buy out his feelings with money, refuted Zheng Yuqing's temptation to expect him to return (which may be very different from the novel), and he has achieved a new transcendence.

Zheng Yutong's lover Gao Fei is a hypocritical hypocrite. She is not only her middle school classmate, but also her husband Lu Fangcheng's "good buddy". Goofy was born in a dirty and chaotic family. Grandfather was unfaithful to his family and to women. After his death, Grandma Goofy held a grudge and never forgot it. Father's private life is even more unsightly. I have an illegitimate daughter outside, and I have the cheek to blame my son. Gao Fei is a typical academic scum. He only got a junior college entrance examination. I quit my job soon and made some money by dishonest means. Later, I got a loan from my good friend Lu Fangcheng, and I got a sum of money from the advertising business that Zheng Yuqing changed hands. Gao Fei is also a secret admirer of Zheng Yutong. He has been secretly coveting for more than 20 years, always waiting for the best opportunity to attack. He and Lv Fangcheng are friends for only one purpose, that is, to get close to his good friend's wife, destroy his family and take away his love at the right time. Just suffering from his early years, Zheng Yuqing didn't take him seriously, and he really didn't have the ability to compete with Lu Fangcheng. His business grew bigger, and with the status of money, the greedy nature of local tyrants soared rapidly, and the beast extended its claws to Zheng Yuqing, the grass beside the nest. He got the information that Zheng Yuqing came back early, made up a lie to pick up his friend and tricked him into getting on the bus. Then he dragged Zheng Yuqing to a remote suburb by passing by or running into a newspaper, deliberately missing the time when Zheng Yuqing took his daughter home and invited him to have dinner together, as if he and Zheng Yuqing's mother and daughter were the real family. Turn a blind eye to my best friend's anger and don't even say hello. Since catching up with Zheng Yutong, Gao Fei completely kicked off his good friend Lu Fangcheng and directly asked Zheng Yutong to be a mistress, which made him dependent and slipped into his arms unconsciously. Flying together made him completely break through the bottom line, and he was even more unscrupulous after he completely controlled Zheng Yuqing. All the pictures of Gao Fei in the play are saturated with Zheng Yutong. It seems that he really worked hard on Zheng Yuqing. However, Gao Fei's love for Zheng Yutong is not eternal. At best, he just thought about a knot in his youth. The other is the psychology of local tyrants playing with corners and celebrities. Play and you will earn money. Cheating a woman like Zheng Yuqing, a newspaper tycoon, into bed is definitely the capital for him to wander the rivers and lakes and show off his charm in the future. Fortunately, Zheng Yuqing didn't at this time.

"Secondary Two" stopped their relationship in time, otherwise the ending would be even worse.

At the end of the story, a few lines of text pop up on the black background; The words "Zheng Yuqing takes a higher leadership position and assumes greater responsibilities, but she will not change her mind" are highly compatible with the title. God is determined to keep the Virgin Bai Lianhua strong, and no force can stop her.

The strength of women should be more than just the infinite scenery in career. A truly powerful woman should have a place of her own soul, sit upright, do right, take good care of her family and live a good life. A woman who is "polished" by life, a wife who is cared for by her family, and a mother who is dependent on her children are truly strong. I pray that God will recover this powerful and prosperous Bai Lianhua in time, and don't let her continue to harm the world!