If you don't pass by, I wish you peace.

Recently, a word has been frequently mentioned because of a tragedy. The news media reports it, psychologists comment on it, and the general public talks about it. I saw it in the news, in my circle of friends, and even my husband who turned a deaf ear to things outside the window wanted to use it to talk to me about child rearing. This hot word is-not being loved.

The suicide note left by a young photographer who committed suicide by jumping into the sea tells the story of his short life of longing for love but not getting it. There is a famous work on the same subject in Japan, called The Life of a Pine Nut I Don't Like. The difference between the two is that one is true and the other is a story. However, where does the story not come from life? It can only be said that everyone longs for love, but there are also many unfortunate people who are not loved.

This world is so unfair. Some people were born in Rome, some people lived in Rome all their lives, and some people didn't even find Rome. Some people blame others for this injustice, while others blame themselves.

Many people think that I was unloved when I was a child or I am unloved now because my parents were negligent in discipline, the people around me were not good, or I was not good enough. Anyway, this unloved knife will stab itself if it doesn't stab others, and it will never fail.

But why do you have to hold this knife?

Why do we have to find the cause instead of the solution for the painful things?

Why do you have to stop in the abyss of pain and analyze the pain clearly and clearly, instead of fleeing as soon as possible?

If others don't love you, it must be someone else's fault or yourself's fault? Is it possible that his task here is only to lead you a long way and teach you a life topic, which doesn't include loving you at all?

Excessive dependence makes people greedy and demanding. The psychology of wanting to return makes people demand fairness, which in turn leads to resentment. However, fate is neither fair nor just. People who are not loved can only learn to make peace with themselves.

God won't help you, and Buddha won't cross you because they trust you. In real life, who doesn't toss themselves and row themselves?

If your parents are shallow and you believe that your parents' task here is just to welcome you to this world, then you have to complete other tasks. Although you can use legal constraints and moral condemnation, you have to admit that the main body of their lives is not yours. Just as fate will lead you to complete your mission, it will also lead them to other places.

We can't ask others to stay with us forever, just as we can't stay with one person forever. Life is dynamic, so are we.

Think about it this way, can you accept that you are not loved by people around you? There is nothing wrong with you, and there is nothing wrong with them. You just haven't found a circle that loves you.

Just like the gap in your heart is round, but surrounded by a triangle, you can't fill it in anyway. So you should go to the bigger world to find your circle, instead of stopping there because a bunch of triangles can't fill your pain.

So you should love yourself, take good care of yourself, and also take the initiative to love others, and make your love sound so that your circle can see it.

Bound by blood and feelings, we take it for granted that we must get love from the people around us. In fact, it is also possible to give our loved ones a distant place, and we have to set out to find it.

Put the knife down, admit that you are not loved, and tell yourself that it doesn't matter. I just went to the wrong room, and now I'm going to the right room.

Life is a journey. From birth to death, we have to walk a long way and meet many people. We can't choose when to be born, so we will bring a group of people. When we grow up, we will meet a group of people, including ourselves. Some people travel with you, some people can only walk halfway, some people only have time to give you a hug, and some people leave in a hurry without saying hello. It is not that they are not good, nor that you are bad, but that fate has given them other tasks that must be completed.

Therefore, cherish when you meet, let go when you don't get a response, be indifferent when you are not accepted, be calm when you can't accompany, and say goodbye when you leave.

If you are not on the road, goodbye and wish you peace!