Why don't married men want to give up their family and choose to be with their lover?

Women want to find a good and reliable man who loves them, and then go through life safely, but love rat is always everywhere and flawless. As the saying goes, people are afraid of entering the wrong line, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong person. Women should understand that there is no age for marriage, only the feelings of marriage; Meeting love rat and living a low-quality marriage are worse than being single with high quality. How can we know who love rat is hiding bad ideas from?

1, a man who secretly raises a mistress

It is a bad thing for a married man to spend money on a third party. Use the hard-earned property of husband and wife to consume personal enjoyment experience. Once caught, it is possible to cheat his wife into marrying San Xiao. Even if this kind of man comes back, it is not out of sincerity and long-term. They are not rekindling their old love with their wives, nor are they sympathetic to their mistresses and cannot bear to hurt them. A bigger possibility is that your lust has returned to calm, or you are tired of this mistress. At this time, the deceived wife will feel that her husband is loyal, while San Xiao will feel that this man is quite decent. Therefore, when love rat, a mistress, is met, women must take timely coping strategies, and don't let him cheat.

2. Men who like to play with ambiguity

A man who plays ambiguous will do less harm to his wife than a man in emotional infidelity. Emotional infidelity is spiritual dependence on other feelings, falling in love with other women, and ambiguity is just for fun. Why are they just ambiguous and have no further development? First, lust has no desire; Second, its own strength is insufficient; Third, their own ability is not enough; The above three kinds of extramarital affairs make them unable to play with real guns.

For those naked extramarital affairs, they may be more greedy for the smell of "she still hides half a face behind her guitar from us." Moreover, most of these ambiguous men can get away with it, not only playing ambiguous, but also enjoying the warmth of marriage. Because ambiguity is a kind of mental dissociation that is not easy to convict, it is not easy for women to grasp factual evidence; The degree of harm it brings is relatively weak compared with the actual derailment, but obviously it also causes great mental trouble to the wife. If you find that your husband is playing with another woman, this behavior should not be underestimated. It is better to quickly put out the small flame; If left unchecked, it will eventually lead to great disaster. Playing with ambiguity will turn into emotional derailment, and emotional derailment will turn into physical derailment.

3. Self-righteous old man

Now many women fantasize about finding an uncle (old man), thinking that finding an uncle (old man) will harm people; Hold you in the palm of your hand, rely on you, spoil you, love you and treat you as a princess. An old man, do you think he is mature and steady because he is old and has experienced many things? In fact, not necessarily, because they are not labeled as mature men, but old men; They are self-righteous and like to talk empty words to tie up women's hearts. Their disadvantage is that they are self-reliant without money, think that life is poetry without ink in their chests, but take out the "salt they have eaten" and so on. So, don't be infatuated with the sweet words of old men. They have seen a lot of storms, and they won the heart when they got it. If a woman associates with this smooth old man, and she lacks intelligence and rich emotional experience and knowledge experience, then she is no match for the old man at all. A person's mental maturity really has nothing to do with age and experience; If a person does not know how to absorb the essence and discard the dross after the experience, then no amount of experience is just a form, leaving no experience value.

4. Young people without sense of responsibility

"Little suckling dogs" (young and loving men) are popular now. When they meet a responsible person, their marriage is naturally happy. However, it is natural for women to suffer if they encounter irresponsible situations. Many nanny-style and mother-style marriages are mostly this combination. They are born with an advantage over women, and they can easily quit the relationship without thinking too much. For women you don't love, sometimes you will possess them, but you are not really responsible. Young men who lack sense of responsibility are still not good, and often have several extramarital affairs at the same time. Because they are young, they can afford to play, let go, hide and swim, and they don't really understand the meaning of responsibility. "Sweet talk" will always be a great skill of young love rat. The promise made in advance is earth-shattering, and it will only be perfunctory afterwards. Woman, it's never reliable to see through this young man who painted cakes for you to satisfy your hunger.

5. A rich man who is good at calculating.

Some women meet rich people and think that their lives can rest easy. As we all know, the love and money of the rich are often not so easy to get. Their disadvantage is that when they are with you, they don't love you completely, but they just like your youth, enthusiasm, beauty, sexiness and figure. ...

Skillful at calculation, they will not love you completely with their own sincerity, for fear that you are interested in his money. You think you can live a more comfortable and carefree life by finding a rich man, but his money may not be as easy to get as you think. They tend to be more considerate and careful than the average person, and the direction of their property depends on the depth of their feelings for you. If you are led by their money, you will lose control in your marriage and cannot live your love life easily. Therefore, when you meet a rich man, don't just stare at the money, but also see if this man is willing to spend money for you. Of course, economic independence is always an invincible capital for women. It is better to spend your own money generously than to spend a man's money humbly.

Marriage is a turning point in a woman's destiny, but a woman can't hold the idea of changing her destiny with marriage. Love rat will not only take away your youth, but also seriously take away your life. We should cherish life and stay away from love rat.

Haruki Murakami said: You should remember those who held umbrellas for you in the heavy rain, those who helped you keep out foreign objects, and those who hugged you silently in the dark; It is these people who make up the warmth in your life, and it is these warmth that keep you away from the haze. At the same time, you should also remember the people who have hurt you in the past and caused you pain; Of course, not to annoy you, but to learn a lesson and live a better life in the future. If a woman can wisely understand the nature of love rat and avoid these five hidden love rat in time, the journey of marriage and love will be much smoother.

May every woman find a person who really loves her for life: someone understands, someone hurts and someone loves!

As for the coup to deal with feelings, according to different cases, the tactics are different. If you want to know more, you can consult your emotional tutor, make a "diagnosis" of your marriage and feelings, give you the right emotional direction, make your life happier and take action.