How to read other people's micro-expressions? What body language should we pay attention to?

Many years ago, I saw an American drama "Lie to me", which mixed various micro-expressions into various cases and analyzed whether what he said was true by observing other people's physical behavior.

Many details of the play are scary, and anyone who can read his inner thoughts feels a little scary. On the other hand, if we can judge and master each other's psychological activities and understand each other's inner needs when communicating with others, it will undoubtedly increase the success rate and improve the efficiency of communication.

First, micro-expression

A face has 43 muscles, which can combine 1000 expressions. Almost all human emotional changes can be conveyed through subtle changes in the face. The face is so mysterious

1, surprise: both humans and animals keep the same expression. When people encounter unexpected stimuli, they will stop all activities, look up, open their eyes, lift their eyebrows and open their mouths slightly at the moment they receive the stimulus information, which is very, very short.

2. disgust: when people are disgusted, their facial expressions are almost the same all over the world. They squint (meaning don't look), wrinkle their noses (meaning don't smell), bend their mouths back, and may even stick out their tongues (meaning don't eat).

Darwin thought it was an instinctive reaction of human beings, that is, the rejection of rotten food. Because ancient ancestors ate rotten food, which caused strong discomfort, when they saw and smelled rotten food, they instinctively rejected these things.

3. Anger: The stimulation of anger is usually evaluated as an evenly matched object by emotional holders, so the expression of anger will take several unified forms: first, frowning indicates strong concern; The second is to try to raise your eyelids and carefully observe the every move of the stimulus source. Anger also has a remarkable feature, that is, eyes stay, breathing is aggravated, muscles are tense, and everything is prepared for the next offensive action.

4. Fear: This is the oldest human emotion. Because human beings did not have the advantage of hand-to-hand combat in ancient times, they belonged to the lower part of the food chain, so when encountering carnivorous beasts, fear appeared far more than anger. The expression of fear has three basic typical characteristics: the eyebrows gather in the middle and rise, the eyes are wide open and the mouth is open.

When people are afraid, there will be a physiological escape reaction: blood will flow back from the limbs to the legs, ready to escape. The micro-expression of the hand will get cold first, which is a very short process, usually within one fifth of a second.

5, sadness: people will feel weak when they are sad, and their facial expressions are generally downward. Sad expression is directly related to crying, and the first action after falling to the ground is crying. Of course, the crying of babies is not only used to express sadness, but also to express all negative emotions such as anger, disgust and fear. The typical action features of sadness are frowning, drooping eyelids and downward lip angle.

6, pleasure: wrinkles similar to eagle claws will appear in the corner of the eye, cheeks will rise and bulge, and the muscles around the eye socket will be pulled, representing true happiness or joy. Some people blink when they laugh, which means they really think of something happy. Because there are generally no wrinkles in the corners of the eyes.

Smile is the most complex and appropriate expression in human social interaction. The two parts most associated with laughter are the eyes and mouth, and the most typical one is "the corner of the eye is down and the corner of the mouth is up".

Second, body language.

So what body language needs our attention in life? The following will focus on five common body languages to help you judge each other's psychological activities by observing their hand movements in daily interpersonal communication.

1, tray gesture-interested in each other

Most people who use this gesture are women. If the opposite man is quite exciting to them, most women will involuntarily put one hand on the other, then hold their chin with both hands, slightly raise their heads and face each other. It feels as if they regard their faces as works of art, hoping that the other party can savor them.

Tray gesture itself has no negative color, and it can often play a positive role in expressing love to the right person.

2. Hands akimbo-inner protest

Hands akimbo is an inner protest. Some observers call it "everything is ready", but "challenge" is its most basic meaning. Many times we see people arguing with each other, and many men use this gesture to show their courage and strength. But if women use this gesture, they often feel fierce.

3. Hold your chest with your arms-distance hostility

Holding your hands on your chest is a good barrier to stop threats. Therefore, when a person is nervous or hostile, he will naturally hold his hands on his chest. This posture often appears between strangers. At the same time, this gesture also represents self-protection and strength. We usually use this gesture when we want to protect ourselves and distance ourselves from each other.

This kind of person is very alert and defensive, because there are many important and very fragile organs in his chest. When chatting with girls on the first date, the gesture of holding your arm also shows that girls don't accept you from the heart. Maybe you need to change it. In addition, the action of holding arms and chest also means demonstrating: if you dare to attack, I will fight back.

4, steeple gesture-confidence

That is, open your fingers, touch the fingertips of one hand with the fingertips of the other hand, and then make an action similar to "crossing your hands", but the fingers don't cross, and the palms don't necessarily touch each other, forming a steeple-like gesture, just like the towering steeple in the church. The steeple gesture is the most confident action, which shows that this person is very confident and often appears in conversations between superiors and subordinates.

In addition, there are two kinds of steeple gestures: one is the steeple that is lifted, which people usually use when expressing their opinions; The second is to put down the steeple, which people often use when listening to other people's opinions. Relatively speaking, women prefer to use the downward steeple gesture.

5. The other person imitates your body language-agrees with you.

When two people get along well, they will imitate each other's gestures and actions. When your best friend crosses his legs, you will do the same. If your date goes well, you will make the same gesture. Barbara frederickson, a positive psychologist, said that this is because when we are in contact with each other, we imitate each other.

Especially when the other person is not very familiar with you, but the body language is very similar, it means that they have a * * * sound with you, and this recognition will be unconsciously reflected in the body language, indicating that your conversation is going well, either the other person likes you or the other person hopes you like him. This information is especially useful when you negotiate, because you will know what the other party really thinks.