How did your father react when he married his daughter?

A few days ago, my niece got married and the man held a big banquet in his hometown. We took a bus for more than ten hours to go to the wedding.

My brother and sister-in-law are still talking and laughing in the car, but at the wedding scene, my brother is always deep and serious. When my niece walked arm in arm to the stage, she looked elsewhere. More importantly, when my niece stood in front of them and thanked them, her mouth was slightly sipped and her eyelids were red. She kept looking up and tried to swallow the tears in her eyes.

After the wedding, my brother relaxed and worried that his emotions would get out of control and become a flaw in the wedding. He has been eagerly asking my husband, "Did the wedding go well? Are your niece and in-laws ready? "

Seeing his daughter's happy smile and the blessings of all the guests, he couldn't help being a little disappointed for a while, but it was natural that the wedding was quite successful, so he was satisfied and relieved about his daughter's future life.

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As the old saying goes, when a daughter gets married, she has a home.

When her daughter got married, she entered a new life journey, which was the biggest turning point in her life. Since then, I have had multiple identities such as wife, daughter-in-law and mother, and I have to take care of each other, educate my parents-in-law, and get married! The hardships along the way, parents have tasted for a long time, how can they not worry and care?

From falling in love to getting married, a woman is immersed in incomparable happiness, longing for a beautiful new life every day, eager to grow wings and fly to a man who loves her.

Watching her daughter go to another man with joy, the man who couldn't wait to take off the moon and give it to you, only to let you rub the stubble, gave you the best love in the world. However, "little cotton-padded jacket" grew up to be a woman. He forced a smile to send you to get married, but swallowed his tears in his stomach.

As a father, I'm not afraid of anything. I'm afraid my daughter will get married.

The moment my daughter got married may be the most chaotic moment in so many years. All kinds of emotions are intertwined, and the emotions are the most complex, the deepest, the most lost and the most silent. The moment I held my daughter, I was even more reluctant to part with it, but I knew from the bottom of my heart that letting go was also the deepest love, and the love that cried with joy was as deep as the ocean.

There are many tear-jerking videos on the internet, about the tears of my father when my daughter got married, and many speeches made by my father at the wedding scene. It's not emotional, it's emotional. Because there is a kind of love that a father loves like a mountain, in fact, you don't know how many times he cried in his heart that day when he married a woman.

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A few months ago, a video was circulated on the Internet. A father in Qianjiang province, Vietnam, sent his daughter to get married. When he was sad, he cried with his daughter on the spot.

The father stroked his daughter's head and burst into tears. Emotional contagion, his daughter and many people present were sobbing.

But the father did not forget to pat his son-in-law on the shoulder and told him to be extremely good to his daughter. The wedding photographer recorded this touching moment, but it resonated with millions of netizens at home and abroad.

Many fathers are more sad than their mothers when their daughters get married. The reason may be that he is a man, and his disappointment is because men know men better.

Father understands the hardships along the way and his wife's hardships, and works hard and pays for the family. He knows more about men's inertia and persistence, and knows that men only grasp the direction of life, and all trivial housework and raising children need women to do it themselves.

He never gave up his wife's marriage and worked hard, repeating his wife's life day after day.

There is an inexplicable resistance in my father's subconscious. All son-in-law are "enemies" in his heart, and no one is worthy of his daughter. It's like many mothers who are mothers-in-law, subconsciously regard their daughter-in-law as an "enemy" and think that no woman is worthy of her son.

The birth of a daughter triggered the father's hidden flexibility and love. In addition to patriarchal families, in many families, daughters can be doubly loved and cherished.

As a father, he looks forward to your growth, but your growth is also his aging. How can he accept giving the treasure that God gave him to his son-in-law? He is worried about the life of his daughter and the opposite sex, that he can't protect his daughter, and that his daughter is wronged, so he really resists her falling in love and getting married.

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Marrying a woman is the separation of body, mind and emotion.

Some people say that the love between parents and children is stripped again and again.

The first stripping was born from the mother's stomach, and the second real stripping was to marry into her husband's family.

However, for a father who regards his daughter as a godsend, raises her carefully and treats her tenderly, marrying the baby he guards with his life to someone else is a living separation of flesh and blood.

The first Spring Festival when I just started working, I met a rare snowfall. Colleagues and sisters in the office got married just after the Spring Festival, and the wedding was held in the husband's family in the countryside. Because of Spring Festival travel rush and the snowstorm, my parents, relatives and friends thousands of miles away can't get married.

Years later, she brought candy to everyone. The old aunt who was rehired in the office enthusiastically asked about the wedding, and she shook her head and sighed when she learned that no one had sent her to get married.

A married male colleague even stood up from his seat with a teacup and said with emotion, "Then your parents must be very sad. If my daughter gets married, let alone a snowstorm, even if an awl falls from the sky, I will climb over. "

Everyone was amused by his appearance and burst into laughter. For a moment, they saw him with some emotion, his eyes were red and wet, his eyes were very excited, and he was mixed with a little sadness.

As a daughter, I suddenly thought of my father, smiling, and my eyes were a little moist.

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There is also a saying in the west that the daughter is the lover of her father in his last life, and the father is the last person who wants to marry her. Because her daughter's wedding day is the happiest day for her and the saddest day for her father.

As a daughter, when she grows up, she should have her own life, family and happiness. With a man who loves you, even if you leave home, you are still the concern of your parents for life.

It's just the separation of feelings that makes it hard for the man who once regarded you as a treasure and loved you deeply to let go.

Therefore, even if you become the wife and mother of others, you might as well go home more and care more about your parents' lives, because you are their child and the softest sustenance in their hearts.