Why is it easy for a woman to live once she knows what she wants?

Author: Chen (rich book signing author)

An open life is to know what you want at every stage.

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The first time I went to the cinema to see the First Lady, I was deeply attracted by the beauty of Jacqueline's actor Natalie Portman.

Natalie Portman is a beautiful woman who looks good at first sight, and she can endure it. Jacqueline, the first lady in history, is the kind of generous face with sharp edges and wide eyes. She is not a typical beauty face, but she is particularly temperamental, has great taste in clothes, and speaks humorously and calmly, and is full of elegance.

In the film, Natalie Portman perfectly restored Jacqueline's life stage as the first lady, especially after her husband, President Kennedy, was killed, and her calm, brave and firm will moved people.

For example, she insisted on not changing the suit stained with her husband's blood and wearing it to the reporter's question and answer session. "I want the whole world to see what they (murderers) have done";

She insisted on inviting heads of state and actively held a grand and grand funeral for her husband. "I want people to remember him forever";

Not afraid of danger, she insisted on walking and took two children to see her husband off for the last time. ...

She did all this, so persistent and persistent that she didn't see the collapse and panic after losing her husband.

She told reporters: "We are not ordinary people. Ordinary people don't have to make a decision within hours after their husbands are killed. "

This is Jacqueline. She always knows her identity, status and status, and always knows what she should do and how to do it at a certain moment. At every stage of her life, she lived the life she wanted.

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Jacqueline, 1, 20 years old+,wants love, money, power and supreme scenery.

Jacqueline was unwilling to be ordinary since she was a child and longed for wealth.

/kloc-when she graduated from high school at the age of 0/8, she wrote "Don't be an e-housewife" in the column of life ideal.

When she was in college, she didn't like the dull atmosphere and strict school rules, so she skipped school and went to Paris to play and study. When she came back, the school expelled her, and she immediately entered a university in Washington and got a bachelor's degree in French literature.

After graduation, Jacqueline entered the newspaper office and became a street photographer.

How can such a small job satisfy Jacqueline's ambition? Although her stepfather is super rich, she can't get an inheritance in the future, so she deeply knows that her future can only depend on herself-the most feasible way is to marry a rich husband who can change her destiny.

At first, Jacqueline was engaged to a banker's son, but not long after, at a colleague's party, she met John Kennedy, a handsome son of a rich and powerful Kennedy family, who was running for the state legislature and made his mark in politics.

Jacqueline was attracted to John at once, and they started dating intermittently-as for her fiance, she immediately broke off her engagement.

In order to marry John, Jacqueline exaggerated her aristocratic lineage to John's father and showed her intelligence and extraordinary taste, which contributed to her marriage with John.

1953, 24-year-old Jacqueline married Kennedy despite everyone's warning that "John is a playboy with countless women around him" because she had a premonition that this political rookie would bring her a change of fate and a brilliant life.

1960, Kennedy was elected president of the United States, and Jacqueline took her children to the White House. She combines youth, beauty, supreme strength and infinite scenery, and lives a dream peak life.

2.30-year-old Jacqueline wants to find a rich and powerful shelter for her children and herself.

1963165438+1October, Kennedy's murder instantly shattered Jacqueline's luxury dream. In an instant, she went from a high-flying first lady to a homeless widow with children.

"How to get to the next road? Next, what does life depend on? " These unavoidable questions made Jacqueline think deeply.

After moving out of the White House, Jacqueline dated her brother-in-law and other men, but soon her brother-in-law was shot in the election.

Jacqueline woke up with a start. She thought, maybe the murderer is targeting the whole Kennedy family, and maybe her own child will be killed next.

She was frightened at the thought. She had to flee the United States to find a shelter for her children and herself.

My sister's lover, aristotle Onassis, then the world's richest and powerful Greek ship king, entered Jacqueline's sight. There is no doubt that he is an excellent choice to protect himself and his children.

So, Jacqueline did her duty and used her extraordinary fame and personal charm to pry away the ship king.

1968, 39-year-old Jacqueline successfully married 62-year-old short and ugly Greek ship king.

Her choice aroused the abuse and attack of the American people, who called her "shameless", "only dependent on men" and "only loving money".

But what they don't know is that Jacqueline did this based on her clear goal in life-to protect the safety of her children and maintain her living standard.

Jacqueline, who had been married to Greece for a long time, still lived a brilliant life, but after the death of the ship king a few years later, Jacqueline had to adjust her life direction again and returned to the United States.

Jacqueline, 40+ years old, wants a stable job and a quiet and ordinary life.

After returning home, Jacqueline returned to her old job and became a special edition of herself in the newspaper.

Countless people satirized her: "Look, she is just pretending, and she will soon find another rich man to marry. She depends on men. "

But Jacqueline didn't do what they thought this time. She started a business in a down-to-earth manner and tried to become a senior editor from my series.

She began to enjoy ordinary and fulfilling work and peace.

Although she always had a boyfriend who lived together, she didn't intend to get married until she died at the age of 65.

This is Jacqueline's ups and downs and colorful life.

Young, she pursued money and status and got money and status; In her later years, she pursued serenity and dullness, and got serenity and dullness.

She is a clever woman. At different stages of life, she always knows what she wants most, and actively uses all her talents, scheming, resources and charm to win and get it.

Although the world's evaluation of her is polarized, for Jacqueline herself, this life is undoubtedly refreshing, chic and open.

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Why is it easy for a woman to live once she knows what she wants?

This is because women are emotional animals, and they tend to follow their feelings in the process of growing up, and they are easily confused by various statements around them, so they are uncertain; It is easy to "accept fate" and "follow fate", and it is easy to give up when encountering difficulties. I feel that I am working hard, but I don't know what I really pursue, and I lack goals. Slowly, looking back, the golden period of excellent development has passed.

A girl said, "I want to find someone."

But what kind of object are you looking for? What convenience do you want to check for him? What can I do to see if you are working together? How to know his family background from all aspects, so as to judge whether he is suitable or not?

A girl said, "I want to work first."

What kind of work do you want to do? Can you do it easily, or have enthusiasm to improve your comprehensive ability? Do you want a monthly salary of 3000 yuan, or do you want to make a counterattack in your life even if it is difficult at first?

Some girls said, "I want to live a good life."

What kind of "good life" do you want? Is it 9: 00 to 5: 00, and you can drink tea and watch TV dramas after work? Or spare no effort to work overtime and spend all your free time charging and learning new knowledge and skills? It is easy for you to shout, but have you thought about it?

Zhang Ziyi is undoubtedly the representative who knows what he wants best and adjusts his goals according to the actual situation at different stages of his life.

Because of this, her life is particularly wonderful and open.

When he was young, Zhang Ziyi pursued fame and wealth and the status of the entertainment circle. In order to achieve this goal, she can bear hardships and be hard on herself, and strive to seize every opportunity, hone her acting skills and climb up.

She was questioned as being too utilitarian and lacking in femininity; She was ridiculed for leaning on a man and sitting on Jackie Chan's lap. She was accused of loving money and power, and she talked about the rich second generation or Warner executives. She was called a mistress, splashed with ink, and her career fell to the bottom. ...

But none of these voices and valleys can stop Zhang Ziyi from moving forward firmly and forcefully.

Because she has goals, she is stronger than men and more optimistic than any woman. She kept her initial heart, persevered, practiced acting hard, spoke with her works, and approached the peak of her heart step by step.

In the 20 13 movie "The Grandmaster", Zhang Ziyi won nine best actress trophies in one breath with the role of Gong Er, which created a miracle.

Since then, her life has reached its peak with her career. As a dancing girl from an ordinary family, she realized her expectations. In the arduous struggle all the way, she saw herself, the world and all beings.

If you are successful and calm, what will you do next in life?

Our Zhang Ziyi, brave and smart, adjusted her life direction and entered the stage of realizing her second goal-to find a home for her feelings and be a mother.

Zhang Ziyi has always loved children, and being a mother is a necessary part of her life.

In the past, she always fantasized about marrying a rich man or a top actor to get career opportunities and a rich life. But after she succeeded, she no longer took such a fancy to these things, but wanted to find an ordinary person to talk to. She chose Wang Feng.

Wang Feng's fame and strength are far behind Ziyi, but it doesn't matter. He can give Zhang Ziyi what she wants now: love and marriage.

Seeing that Zhang Ziyi is more grounded, calmer and happier after her marriage, especially after becoming a mother, we will know that another of her life goals has been successfully achieved.

This girl with "ambition written on her face" is determined to go all the way with her persistence in her goal. When she works hard for her dream, the whole world will make way for her. This is the power of goals and the magic of dreams.

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Some girls may ask, "My family is poor and my starting point is low. Is there a chance? "

Of course there is.

No matter how low your starting point is or how poor your background is, as long as you know what you want early, are willing to exclude public opinion, put down your posture, win your heart and go out, you will eventually change your destiny and become a winner in your life.

Director Liu, a writer, talked about a girl in the article, who was born in the countryside, was dark and had a high school education. Although the starting point is low, she has a big dream-to marry a foreigner, because when I was a child, I saw that foreigners in English books were particularly handsome, and she felt that marrying a foreigner was her ideal life.

After graduating from high school, she came to Shanghai alone because there are many foreigners here.

In Shanghai, she lived in the basement, served dishes in restaurants and tried to teach herself English-in order to talk to foreigners. In her spare time, she often goes to bars crowded with foreigners and chats with others in broken English.

Later, her English level improved a lot, she switched to sales, and her income increased a lot, so she didn't live in the basement. When a man from China pursued her, she kept her goal in mind, refused everything and only talked about love with foreigners.

Later, when the World Expo was held in Shanghai, she smelled the opportunity, signed up as a volunteer at the first time, and seized the opportunity to contact the foreign staff of various museums, just like a "blind date" posture.

In the Swiss Pavilion, a young engineer caught her attention. Gao Fushuai, who has no marriage history, is a perfect couple. After the engineer asked her out several times, she took the initiative to invite others to travel.

In a different place, the Swiss handsome guy has always booked two rooms, but she lives in someone else's room at night and simply gives others "pajamas".

Back in Shanghai, the two confirmed their love relationship and got married a year later.

Now, she lives in a big house at the foot of the Swiss Snow Mountain, with two children and three dogs, and lives a leisurely, rich and happy life.

Her husband loves her dearly and his eyes are full of love.

This is the story of an ordinary girl attacking Futai, Switzerland.

Although many of us don't think that marrying a foreigner is the pinnacle of our life and a great thing, for this girl personally, she realized her dream and lived her dream life through hard work, seizing opportunities and creating opportunities. She's very successful. She's great.

Some people say, isn't this a "green tea bitch"?

No, as long as it doesn't violate the law and moral standards, there is nothing wrong with a girl working hard for the life she really wants.

Her persistence in the goal, her determination not to give up easily, and the warm light in her eyes have formed her powerful personality charm and connotation, and this confident and energetic charm will naturally win the appreciation and favor of excellent men.

Do you know how many girls live a soft, muddled life?

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In the movie, Jacqueline said: "There are two kinds of women in the world, one wants to be in power in the world, and the other wants to be in power in bed."

Yi Shu said, "Give me a lot of love or a lot of money."

A woman with a good life and a wonderful life is a woman who knows what she wants. A woman who knows what she wants is firm, stubborn, optimistic and confident, indomitable, unable to achieve her goal and struggling.

Woman, do you want love or money and status? Do you want a beautiful career or a stable family and a harmonious marriage?

In fact, you can have anything you want, but you can't be greedy.

You can't have everything, at least, at every stage of your life. Want everything, but it is a kind of aimlessness and uncertainty, which will make you confused.

Woman, you should have a clear and definite goal, which is your ambition and your motivation to keep moving forward. You should be firm in your goals and make efforts for them that ordinary people dare not or despise. You should dare to gamble.

Don't give everything to fate, but to luck, talent and fate. It's just a grandiose excuse for people who are stupid, lazy, muddle along and drag out an ignoble existence.

How do you know you can't do it without trying?

You haven't tried your best, and you dare to fight for talent?

For the strength and expansion of Qin State, Mi Yue can trap and kill his beloved person and destroy Yi Qu State.

Elizabeth I, the "virgin queen", by virtue of her married status, can never marry in order to deal with other countries and benefit Britain.

Tamia Liu can quit the show business for love and family in the golden age of his career, and he can also return to the rivers and lakes without hesitation when he needs to go out. ...

In this life, no matter what a woman wants, as long as she works hard, there is almost nothing she can't get.

No matter what you pursue, whether you pursue food or vegetables, love, fame or profit, please remember that you can't be weak, you can't back down, you have to be brave, you have to persevere, you have to stride forward, you have to be confident and have confidence.

Woman, please don't waste time, please fight for yourself once, in exchange for a lifetime of no regrets.

The pictures in this article come from the Internet.

About the author: The signing author of Chen,/kloc-0, born in 1985, holds a master's degree in literature. She loves life and beauty, and is willing to share some thoughts and feelings about life with you. Her explosive article "Girl, don't marry a man who is chasing you hard" was read by Weibo, Jane, Zhihu @ Chen Xiyue. This article begins with Franklin Reading Club (ID: Franklin Reading Club), and millions of new middle-class life colleges.