I am the source of everything

Everything in life is determined by ourselves and our mental model of facing life. Therefore, stop complaining about society, the environment, your parents, and your family. Keep "I am the source of everything" in your heart, reflect on yourself often, cultivate your mind, and believe that one day, the flower of success will bloom for you.

The master once said: "There is no way to move mountains in the world. The only way to move mountains is: If the mountain cannot come over, I will go over." There is no smooth sailing in life, there are too many ups and downs in life. He Ruyi is like a "big mountain" in nature, standing there motionless. Often times, we can't change them. The only way to get over these "big mountains" is: If the mountain can't be overcome, I will go over it - since things cannot be changed, we must change ourselves.

Many students have complained to me:

? “He doesn’t like me and often targets me!”

“Obviously I am reasonable, but the leader is Don’t listen to me!”

“The company’s products are not selling well and customers are unwilling to buy them!”

“It’s so unfair, why can’t I succeed?”

Whenever I hear these complaints, I feel heartbroken for these students, not because they are in trouble now, nor because they are being treated unfairly at the moment, but because: they simply are not The real source of these difficulties and frustrations has not been clarified.

? If others target you and don’t like you, the root cause is that you cannot make them like you;

? If the leader does not listen to you, the root cause is that you are not persuasive enough;

? If customers are unwilling to buy, the root cause is that you have not discovered the customer's needs;

? If you have not succeeded, the root cause is that you have not found a way to succeed.

? Therefore, I remind everyone from the bottom of my heart: I am the source of everything!

There was an old man who had been living in a small town for decades. After retirement, he played chess with people every day on the road that he had to pass to enter the town.

? One day, a young man passed by and saw the old man chatting leisurely with others, so he asked: "Old sir, do you live in this town?" The old man slowly raised his head. , glanced at the young man, and replied: "Yes, I have lived here for decades." The young man then asked: "Then you must know this place very well. That’s right, I’m moving here because of my work, so I want to get to know the customs here first.”

The old man looked at the young man in front of him and asked, “You lived here before. How are the people in the place you’ve been?”

The young man waved his hand and shook his head, showing an expression of pain and contempt: “Don’t mention it! Those people are all hypocritical, and they always behave in person. They treat you well on the surface, but they actually make things difficult for you behind the scenes. No one is really good to you. When you live there, you must be careful in everything and beware of everything. ”

The old man listened to the young man's words silently, and then said: "The people here are more hypocritical than yours!" The young man left in eclipse.

A few days later, another young man came to the town and happened to ask the old man: "Old sir, do you live in this town?"

The old man slowly raised his head, glanced at the young man, and replied: "Yes, I have lived here for decades."

The young man asked again: "What about the people here? How are they?"

The old man looked at him silently and asked the same question: "How were the people where you lived before?"

The young man looked satisfied and happy. Expression: "It's very good. Everyone is very enthusiastic and cares about each other. If someone has something to do, everyone comes to help. We get along very harmoniously, just like a family." The old man looked at the young man with a smile : "Don't worry, the same is true for our people here. Everyone's heart is full of love, and they are also very enthusiastic and helpful. You will definitely be very happy here."

This story vividly illustrates It explains a truth to us: "I am the source of everything."

The same place, the same residents, but the old man in the story gave completely opposite descriptions to the two young people. Because there are negative, dark mental patterns running in the heart of the first young man. Under the guidance of this kind of mind, no matter where he goes, he will encounter hypocritical and cold faces; while the second young man has a positive and beautiful mental model running in his heart. Under the guidance of this kind of mind, no matter where he goes, he will encounter hypocritical and cold faces. Wherever he goes, there will always be sincere eyes and warm smiles waiting for him.

In fact, the place and the people have not changed. The only difference is: the mentality the parties use to think and face the surrounding environment. In fact, the real root cause lies in ourselves.

This story inspires us: Each of us must inject beautiful things into our own mental structure and build a beautiful mental model. Then our mood will always be happy and the people around us will always be beautiful. of.

People with negative thinking will always find negative explanations for things, and can always find excuses for themselves to complain. In the end, they will get negative results, and then their negative results will reversely strengthen their negativity. emotions, which in turn makes him more negative - clinging to a negative mental model.

Positive thinkers are just the opposite. They can always find positive explanations for things, then seek positive solutions, and finally get positive results, and then the positive results will positively strengthen them. Positive emotions, thereby making him a more positive thinker - adhering to a positive mental model.

In this regard, I proposed the "123 Mind Navigation Theory":

1 represents: an objective thing.

2 represents: two mental models.

3 represents: three inevitable results.

For a known or unknown objective thing, if you hold two different mental models about it, then this thing will extend or lead to three different inevitable results.

Holding a positive mental model extends or leads to a positive and inevitable good result;

Holding a negative mental model extends or leads to a negative and inevitable bad result. Result;

This thing has nothing to do with oneself, and extends or leads to an inevitable result that will not affect oneself.

For example, if someone else encounters a disaster, if you pay attention to it out of compassion, then this matter will inevitably affect some of your views and ways of doing things. But if something happens to someone else, and you know it, but you think it has nothing to do with you, just ignore it. Then, this matter will not affect you, your heart, or your way of thinking. From this point of study, I learned that anything that happens is irreversible. Once it has happened, it is irreversible. The final outcome of things is related to our mental model.

The concept of "2" is a mental model. The same thing will produce two completely different mental models, leading to the above three results. Therefore, all results are related to our minds.

So, I want to ask: As "2", who is the subject that controls the mental model? That is, who has this mental model?

I believe everyone has clearly understood: Who is the subject of "2"? Of course it is ourselves, ourselves.

What I said above once again confirms this sentence - I am the source of everything!

Here, I use the mental model of "things" instead of "events", because I think the "heart" in the mental model is "mind", which not only includes "Ideology" also includes "mind and thoughts."

Therefore, my personal understanding of "mind" and "mental model" is:

"Mind" - mind Intelligence is the state presented by the subjective reaction of mental thoughts on intellectual ability.

People's inner thoughts, ideas and concepts have an important impact on the analysis, judgment, behavior and ability of various objective things they encounter and experience. They are the subjective influence of psychology on the objective world. reaction.

"Mental model" - the inner standard of mental intelligence; it is an inner standard of inner self that produces subjective reactions in the ability of mind and thinking to analyze, judge and behave.

Once a mental model is established, oneself will defend and defend this inner self-righteous standard very strongly. Mental models are deeply rooted in people's hearts. They not only affect people's thoughts and understanding of the world around them, but also affect people's attitudes towards work, study and life, and the rules that people follow in dealing with interpersonal relationships. Influence people's behavior patterns and behavioral habits.

"Mental Navigation": It is to establish mental standards, improve mental models, cultivate spiritual wisdom, develop inner potential, be aware of telepathy, and explore oneself through the implantation, guidance, updating, and correction of correct thoughts. Blind spots, discover where the true self is, realize the value of life, reach the pinnacle of success, reshape the life system, and create intellectual miracles.

Let’s take a look at the right side of things:

This is an ancient story:

In ancient times, two young scholars went to Beijing to take the exam together. .

On the way they passed a village, where someone happened to die. Seeing the gloomy coffin from a distance, one of the young people felt bad. A thought suddenly flashed through his mind: "It's over. What a pity. I actually saw a coffin on the way to the exam. It's probably not a good sign!" So! , my mood plummeted.

During the exam, I kept thinking about the coffin, and the ominous premonition lingered. As a result, I could never concentrate, and I couldn't remember anything I studied on weekdays. In the end, his name was lost to Sun Shan.

Another young man also encountered the dead person and saw the coffin. However, he was happy from the beginning and kept hinting to himself: "This is a good sign. The coffin represents both the dead and the dead." I have an official position and I have wealth. It seems that God is giving me a hint that I will definitely get a top spot in the exams this time, and I will have a prosperous official career and a lot of money in the future."

So he was very excited. , in the process of answering questions, his thinking was quick and he made full use of what he had learned in daily life. As expected, he was named on the gold medal list and was chosen as a good son-in-law by the prime minister of the dynasty.

The same thing is not right or wrong in itself. You can regard it as a good thing or a bad thing. Different mental models lead to different results. If two scholars see the funeral procession and disapprove of it, think it is normal and have nothing to do with them, and continue to go to Beijing to take the exam, then the coffin they see will not affect their lives.

A positive mental model brings a good mood and produces beautiful results, which in turn strengthens the beautiful mental model. On the contrary, negative mental models form a negative psychology, bring about failure results, and then strengthen the negative mental models.

In this story, the first young man was "disheartened" under the guidance of negative mental models, and eventually "must lose his reputation". The second young man had a positive mental model and was "in high spirits". In the end, he was "really named on the gold list" and was finally selected as a good son-in-law by the prime minister of the dynasty.

Let's look at the object aspect:

A magical experiment that shocked the world - water knows the answer.

Dr. Emoto Masaru and others from the IHM Research Institute in Japan have been using high-speed photography technology to observe the crystallization process of water since 1994, bringing us "water information". After years of research and continuous experiments, they have proven that water is a mirror of our thoughts. Our thoughts, emotions, words, and prayers will all affect the crystallization of water molecules.

Water can indeed sense the human mind and the heart waves emitted by the collective. When good messages such as "kindness, gratitude, and holiness" are included, the water will crystallize into beautiful shapes, while bad messages such as "resentment, pain, and anxiety" will cause discrete and ugly shapes. And whether it is words, sounds, thoughts, etc., they all carry the energy of messages.

At 2pm on February 2, 1997, 500 people were thinking about a glass of water in the doctor's office. From all over the place, at the same moment, everyone was thinking, "The water has become clean, thank you!" As a result of the experiment, when people saw the exquisite and beautiful photos of water crystals, all the researchers were moved to tears.

The thing itself does not affect you, but the mental model you hold about the thing will affect yourself.

We can't control the direction of the wind, but we can at least adjust the sails;

We can't change the weather, but we can at least change our mood.

We can’t control today’s results, but we can at least prepare in advance for tomorrow’s results!

In the "123 Mental Navigation Theory" I proposed, we know that the results of the development of all things are caused by the mental models we hold. Therefore, the establishment of a very important mental model starts from this - "I am the source of everything!"

Understanding the above truth, no matter what happens in the future, we will immediately think of this Sentence - "I am the source of everything". You will no longer look for reasons from other aspects, but instead look for yourself, thereby constantly improving your mental model. If you have the courage to take responsibility and face it head-on, no matter how difficult or thorny the problem is, you can quickly solve it in the shortest possible time.

However, too many people today have become accustomed to evasion, buck-passing and irresponsibility, and the results can be imagined.

In addition, "I am the source of everything," is also an effective tool to adjust your mentality.

For example, when you are extremely angry, you silently say to yourself ten times in your heart: "I am the source of everything, I am the source of everything..." Then, you immediately feel that you The angry mood gradually calmed down. This will help you see the essence of the matter rationally and handle it in a reasonable and appropriate way.

Thoughts determine actions. Success and failure, suffering and happiness are often just the difference of a thought.

Why are many uncomplicated problems in companies, teams, and families today so difficult to deal with and solve? Why are there so many losers and mediocre people in life? Mainly there are problems with the way mental models are managed and handled.

At my training site, I often lead students to do a simple "arm wrestling" training project.

This small project is very simple to implement. It requires each student to find an opponent at random and then compete in two rounds of "arm wrestling". Each round lasts only ten seconds.

Arm wrestling" In the competition, all students must motivate themselves loudly and keep shouting: "I can do it, I will win! "When the ten-second pause was called, I conducted an on-site survey on the actual winning situation. About 10 to 20 percent of people would win. There were also 80 to 90 percent of people who used all their strength to win. In the end, we got the result of neither losing nor winning.

However, all the students present were flushed, panting, and exhausted.

Then, I asked the students to conduct a second round of "arm wrestling" competition after changing the rules. In this round of competition, all students must speak loudly and sincerely to encourage their opponents, and keep shouting: "You can do it, I will let you win!"

Ten seconds to stop , when I conducted an on-site investigation on the actual winning situation, we found that everyone in the audience had won 100%, and within ten seconds everyone had won thirty or fifty times very easily and happily!

The purpose of my simple "arm wrestling" training program is to make everyone aware of the different results caused by different mental model management and problem-solving methods.

This question extends to business management, team management, family life, interpersonal relationships, parent-child education, career development and other fields, triggering deep thinking——

Most people put their first priority You do things in an "arm wrestling" way, and the result of winning over the opponent is to prove that you are right.

You are right, just because you are right, do you know how many people you have hurt?

You are right, just because you are right. When you have a dispute with your parents, you always say that you are right. Do you know how they feel?

You have been doing what you think is right. You have always used force to prove to your parents that you are right. Your mother is crying silently behind your back, and your father is crying in the corner. Smoking cigarettes and sighing.

You are right, just because you are right. When you have a quarrel with your lover, you say you are right. Do you know how much it hurts her feelings? As a result, your lover chose to leave you.

You are right, but just because you are right, you reach out and hit the child for no reason. Do you know that children have the ability to distinguish right from wrong? He didn't even know what he had done wrong. The result is that the child is afraid of you and avoids you everywhere.

You are right, just because you are right, you will argue with your colleagues and friends that you are right. When it hurts others, what can you do if you are right? The result is that your colleagues and friends distance themselves from you.

Think about it, if you cannot understand this truth throughout your life and still stick to the mental model that you have to prove "I am right" everywhere, then what can you do if you are right? What can you do if you are right? What can you do if you are right? ? What did you get in exchange for it in the end? What you will get in the end is the loneliness, loneliness and desolation in your heart! The result is that when you grow old, you will not have any relatives or friends around you!

Just to prove that you are right, stubbornly stick to what you think is right, cannot listen to any different voices, and do not accept any opinions that are different from your own, regardless of the other party's purpose and starting point. For everyone's common goal, or to make your life better. In order to prove that you are right, how many times and for how many years have you fought like this with colleagues, friends, relatives, family, and parents? Fighting again and again has brought them harm again and again. Have we truly understood and listened to others' statements and reasons? How much harm have we caused to our families because of our self-righteousness and willfulness? And there are some injuries that cannot be undone in a lifetime!

And when you can change your mental model, you will find that you can actually easily and happily work together with the people around you to create brilliance.

Cudis, the world’s number one motivational guru, has no legs and was born with a disability. Doctors said he could only live to be two years old. But the fact is that he has survived to this day and finished high school tenaciously.

After graduating from high school, he started looking for a job. Because of his physical disability, he was repeatedly rejected. However, Kudis is not discouraged. He firmly believes that he can find a job that suits him. Finally, his persistence, perseverance, and perseverance moved some companies. A company offered him a job. In order to do this job better, Kudis not only learned the skills of the job, but also learned to drive.

Today, Kudis is no longer an ordinary employee, he has become a world-class motivation master.

In a speech, Kudis said loudly: "In the face of difficulties and rejection, I can't change the world. I can only turn to myself, constantly strengthen positive reinforcement, and strengthen my positive mind! Positive! My mind has changed, the world has changed, and my destiny has also changed.

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Through this story, what I want to say is: put down your complaints, take action immediately, and create your own wonderful life, because - the reason is in me, the action is in me, the success or failure is in me, I am both the cause and the Result! ——I am the source of everything! In the maze of everything, what we need is mental navigation!