Did you discuss it with me?

On the weekend night, Xiao Bei was sweating from outside, and went to the kitchen to find food as soon as he came back. Mother urged: "Take a bite quickly and we will leave."

"where are you going?" Xiaobei's mouth is stuffed with meat buns, and her cheeks are bulging and she asks her mother.

"aren't you going to round the lock? Take you to make a micro-movie. " Mom said with a smile, expecting him to jump with excitement. To her mother's surprise, Xiaobei stopped chewing and stared discontentedly and asked, "Did you discuss it with me?"

Xiaobei's father was preparing to leave with his car keys in his hand. When he heard Xiaobei's questioning, he stood still at the door.

Mom froze: "Baby, don't you want a round lock? I want to make a microfilm for you. I want to film your class, basketball and street dance in the microfilm, so that relatives and friends can watch your life clips on the big screen. How wonderful! I have agreed with the cameraman that it costs more than 2 yuan to shoot such a video. Mom and Dad are willing to give you money, but aren't you willing? "

"I'm not going. This is my birthday and I don't want to shoot it. " Xiaobei replied firmly, but Ren's mother tried hard to persuade her for a long time without convincing her. Helpless, Xiaobei's mother had to call the photographer to cancel the plan. She can't figure out why this child who has been obedient to her since childhood is so today.

Xiao Bei has his own ideas. The most talked about topic at school these days is round lock. Many students in the class will celebrate their 12th birthdays this year, and he has been there twice. When he went to physical education class for free activities, he and several good friends discussed the first important event in their lives-round lock under the basketball stand.

briefly, round locks are similar to "weak crowns" and "clothes", which are a custom in Henan, Shanxi, Inner Mongolia and Shaanxi. When local children are over 12 years old, they hold a big banquet and take off the longevity locks they wore at birth, marking their growth. It is said that when children are underage, their souls are incomplete. After they are born, they lock their lives with the zodiac made of noodles. When they are twelve years old, they will hold the unlocking ceremony. This is the round lock.

"have you heard? Li Yu escaped by playing in the secret room with her classmates on her birthday. What are you going to do? "

Zhang Huapeng asked Xiaobei, who bowed his head and thought for a moment and said, "I don't know, these are all arranged by my mother."

Zhang Huapeng curled his lips and said, "How old are you, and let your mother arrange it? This is our own business, we can make our own decisions, and how do you want to play? "

"Yes, you see what extra-curricular classes I attend. My mother asked me to sign me up with my consent." Hao Youyou next to him said.

Xiaobei's eyes widened with surprise. Since childhood, his life has been arranged by his mother, who has never discussed it with him. He also thinks it is natural, but now he knows it is not the case by chatting with his friends.

"My deskmate invited me and said that it would be fun to have a cosplay at her birthday party." Zhang Huapeng said with great expectation.

"I want to make my own invitation, invite my classmates, have a big meal, and then go to the playground." Hao Youyou said his own ideas.

Xiao Bei's heart was also heated by what they said. Thinking that he can decide his own affairs, his little face is flushed with excitement and excitement, and he is also thinking about how to spend this special birthday.

The next morning, when the children were sent to go class, Xiaobei's mother called her good friend and told her about yesterday. The friend listened and said, "This is normal, which means Xiaobei has grown up. Congratulations."

"But I feel very surprised and have no mental preparation." Xiaobei's mother said.

A friend asked her, "Why doesn't Xiaobei want to make a micro film? Is there any reason?"

Xiaobei's mother was stopped again. No, she tried to persuade Xiaobei from beginning to end, but she didn't ask Xiaobei why she didn't want to go.

"This is your biggest problem," the friend said word for word. "You have never asked your children how they feel. This is your biggest problem. You must discuss with him about the child's affairs and get his consent, so that he feels respected. "

"Why didn't I think of that? I always thought he was a child and didn't need to discuss with him."

"From now on, he is not a child, and he begins to have self-awareness." My friend said enthusiastically on the phone. I don't know why, Xiaobei's mother is a little empty. It's really a little uncomfortable for her to think that her obedient son will no longer do what he says.

My friend continued to give him advice. "Now you should talk to your children more. They also have their own ideas, and they can understand everything we say. Have a good talk with him about round locks. Does he want to organize other activities besides eating? At the birthday party, what performance he wants to do makes him feel that he is the protagonist of this matter, so that he will have an opinion in the future. "

Xiaobei's mother nodded again and again. This friend has a good way to educate her children. Her daughter is a senior three in a key middle school, and she never stays up late to attend extracurricular classes. Her grades are still among the best. She often exchanges her parenting experience with this friend, and this time she is also deeply inspired.

In the evening, Xiao Bei's mother and Xiao Bei went for a walk in the park, and the breeze was slow. She asked Xiao Bei what she thought of her birthday. Unexpectedly, Xiaobei opened his mouth and said, "Mom, I want to send invitations to my classmates. I wrote them myself and gave them a street dance at the party that day." The street dance I danced at the get-together last year was very popular. What do you think? "

Xiao Bei's mother looked at the little boy in front of her and couldn't tell whether she was happy or surprised. The child has grown up inadvertently and become a big boy with ideas and cheerful sunshine.

"Of course, your idea is very good. When you grow up, will your mother listen to you in everything she does? " Xiaobei raised her face and looked at her mother and smiled happily.

There is some scientific reason why the "round lock" is set at 12 years old. Children of this age begin to have self-awareness, like to be with their peers, and love to sing against their parents. In fact, they are independent from their parents' dependence and admiration. He is our child, who comes from us and does not belong to us. Give them more respect and some space to be their best.