My ex-boyfriend and I got back together two and a half months after we broke up!

I haven't paid much attention to China's marriage and love consultation portal because I am busy with exams. Today, I sorted out the posts about the whole process of successfully saving my boyfriend. The recovery process in the past two and a half months has been painful and long. Sisters can have a look, which is just the feedback from Fenger (me) to the marriage and love consultation portal in China!

I have also met some lovelorn sisters, who are simply indulging their negative emotions and freely venting on all the objects within their reach. These emotions are like wild animals. Even an irrelevant person like me has a bad feeling, let alone her predecessor. This kind of person's temperament is doomed to be difficult for him to achieve his goal. You know, no matter how sad you are, the earth won't stop turning because of you, and the other person won't love you because of it. Your predecessor, you should know better than others. Analyze his weakness, what is his problem, and then prescribe the right medicine. You can vent your emotions appropriately, but don't let them affect your behavior.

Every time I feel sad, I will force myself to analyze my feelings with the rational thinking of my left brain, and the feeling of pain will be obviously alleviated. If I still pestered him as I did when I first broke up, I would have pushed him farther and farther away and stayed with that new lover. Let's skate backwards. When many sisters break up, they realize that they may be doing it themselves, so they can't wait to tell him, "I'll change, don't leave me." He can't hear you at all. He can only see your collapse and will instinctively flee. Struggled for nearly a month. Later, fortunately, my good friend introduced me to the marriage and love consultation portal in China. I read a lot of posts on this website about successful cases of saving my boyfriend, and my learning ability is also good. I became strong and rational in time, which laid a good foundation for our contact again. I got the encouragement and companionship from the marriage counselor, which made me walk so steadily on the road of getting back together. Thanks again to my good friend and teacher Fiona Fang, China marriage counseling portal and marriage counselor!

Let's retell the process of recovery:

We broke up on October 2th, mainly because we were tired and didn't love him. He is under great pressure to find a job after graduation, and his parents don't like him as an only daughter. After breaking up, his family introduced him to an elder sister, and they dated.

the network was disconnected on October 27th. My attitude is rational, and I am open-minded and free about the girl's appearance.

on November 4th, I posted a blog full of positive energy in my space. After reading it, he called me to apologize for his cold and arrogant attitude when he broke up. I said it doesn't matter. I'm watching a play. I'll hang up if I have nothing to do.

on November 8th, there was a group activity in our college. After the activity, he left soon. When I came out with other students, I just saw him walking side by side with that sister. I couldn't help it, so I followed. The girl pretended to sprain her ankle, and then they held hands. At that time, my emotions were only numb and numb. After they got on the subway, I went back to school. Later that day, after seeing my sister off, I called him and solved many of my previous problems. This sister was introduced by her family. They met two or three times. He doesn't like it yet. The reason why he brought this girl to school (in my eyes, this is clearly that he can't wait to tell the world that he has a new lover, and the rumors about him in the college are already very ugly) is because he feels that there is nothing but contact, and it is not a shady relationship, so he feels very frank. I'm speechless. I told him the current rumor, and then he realized that he had made a big scene. We felt it necessary to have a normal conversation, so we made an appointment to meet on the 1th.

I met him on November 1th. He had a tutor the night before, and it was very cold. I brought him tea to relieve his sore throat and accompanied him to the school hospital. He thanked me. At dinner, the waiter poured two glasses of warm water. I drank his cup directly, then poured the hot water with me into the cup and brought it to him. He did not refuse. Chatting and chatting, there are no big waves, family pressure, future plans, and all communication is communication. We were honest with each other and didn't quarrel. He even told me that contact with this girl is also to get out of the shadow of breaking up faster and get along with her when the girl thinks it is appropriate, even if it is not appropriate.

on November 11th, he finally received the first phone call (not counting the previous apology), but the content was simple. He was going to an interview the next day and asked me to return the book to him.

on November 12th, there was a recruitment in the school. We all went there and met there. During the normal conversation, I interrupted and walked first. After sending a text message to wish the interview a success, replying "thank you" is still very cold.

I have an interview on November 18th. I didn't pass the interview, as expected, but after the interview, a handsome guy in the same group praised me and said that I was excellent and I was sure to find a better job in the future. I am very encouraged. When I came back at noon, I sent a note. He didn't calm down when he saw it. He called me and I didn't get it. The time when I didn't receive the call was basically in sync with the time when he browsed the dynamic. I didn't come back, but then I asked him what happened on Q, and he asked me about the interview. Without a few words, I said that there was a demonstration in the evening and I had to leave.

On the evening of November 19th, he had a certificate exam, which directly affected the one who was looking for a job. He failed several times, so I knew he was nervous. Two hours before the exam, I sent him a short message, insipid "Let nature take its course, come on". At nine o'clock in the evening, he called me back after the exam. I didn't say anything on the phone, just talking about my classmate looking for a job. My heart is very complicated. Last exam, the first thing he did when he came out was hug me tightly. Later, he made two more phone calls, the first one I missed, and the second one he said he knew I had seen Interstellar before and liked it very much, so he recommended me to see a play starring Interstellar.

on the morning of November 2th, we met at the job fair and stood together to chat. At this moment, a boy I don't know accosted me. In front of him, his expression was not good at that time.

in two days' time on the 2th, he will take an exam in other places. I sent him a message wishing him success, but now I am more concerned about whether this rhythm is possible, and I have never taken care of that new love. If he and his new lover are still together, do I consider myself a spare tire? My attitude towards new love is still partial. I don't think it's enough to just read the website posts, so I asked the marriage counselor for guidance. I told Mr. Fiona Fang about the experience of breaking up with my boyfriend for a month, and Mr. Fiona Fang analyzed it for me: on the one hand, I didn't really break up with him for a month, and I kept pestering him, putting him in an important position and trying my best to save him; On the other hand, it can be seen from your description that he still has feelings for you, but there are still subjective reasons, such as the opposition of his parents, the pressure of his recent graduation, and his exams. The teacher also pointed out that I didn't think from his point of view and kept pestering him. I didn't ask him to make the final choice for his blind date. I just wanted to succeed and continue to work hard to save him. And this blind girl, judging from her feelings for you, don't care so much, but believe in her more favorable side.

With the encouragement and guidance of Mr. Fiona Fang, I had the following recovery process (including some experience):

Feng Nov. 29, 214

After all kinds of consideration, I told him last night that if you didn't think clearly, you wouldn't have to come to me if you interacted with others, which was not good for her or me. He immediately said, "If you have such an attitude, then I can only draw a line with you." But he also said that he still has a good impression on me, but he doesn't want to fall in love now. He wants to be alone and want to get in touch with that girl, partly because of family pressure (she is his wife's sister). He said that if the world ended now, he had to choose between her and me. He must choose me. I don't know what he thinks, but it pains me to think that he says he has a crush on that girl. But I didn't try hard to find that girl and tell her all his actions directly. I decided to give him up. I don't want to kneel down and lick my love. I'd rather live alone with pride. Girls can't lose their self-esteem. Although they are sad, they still want to rebuild their lives.

November 3th

After he made it clear, he broke up with me completely, and I returned to the state of just being lovelorn for two days. Low and gloomy. I spend most of my time crying in bed. But this time is different. I choose to give him up. Although sad, but firm. When he asked me to draw a line, my psychological presupposition was that maybe I would never hear from him again this winter. Maybe this girl will go home with him to see her parents during the Spring Festival. After all, there is a layer of relatives. Well, then on Sunday night, I opened a bottle of wine to watch Jim Carrey's comedy and wanted to change my mood, but I got a call from him. He told me that he broke up with that girl. I feel like a dream. When I was ready to lose everything related to him, he only gave me a response two days later.

December 7th

Today, he went to Xi 'an to play. When he left, he told me that he didn't know whether his feelings for me now were just because of old feelings or whether he really loved me. If it's just because of an old relationship that won't delay me, we'll be completely separated. If it is because of true love, he will stay with me regardless of his parents' opposition and work restrictions when he comes back. Come back on Thursday and give me the answer To tell the truth, I am pessimistic about the answer that hasn't come yet. He lingered, maybe because he was immature, maybe because he didn't love me enough, or just because he didn't want to lose my kindness to him. I promised him I wouldn't disturb him for a few days. I secretly prepared for the worst.

after December 7th.

I seldom pay attention to the China marriage counseling portal, because I am preparing for an important exam in December, so my attention has shifted and I am slowly getting out of my lovelorn mood. He gave me a negative answer when he came back from Xi. At that time, all my girlfriends thought I would be very sad and wanted to hug me hard, but I didn't feel anything. I'm not surprised because I know him well. What did he say? Give me an answer on Thursday. I took him for a fool and didn't care.

as I said before, we got back in touch and he gave up his new love. So I have a strong directionality in all subsequent contacts. He has found a job, so I often ask him for help, such as preparation materials, experience in interviews and so on. To say the least, he has no feelings for me, but based on his guilty attitude, this kind of impersonal human feelings will still help.

During this time, I fully expressed "I need your help" and praised him. Well, men will be very useful. Men need women to ask for help, which can make them feel a sense of accomplishment and unconsciously start to care about you. Girls don't have to doubt that. But girls should grasp the degree and don't work hard on others at once. After all, he is no longer your boyfriend, and friends can help you. If you add a little provocation during the period, the effect will be very good.

After that, I successfully passed the initial test and the second test, and now I am preparing for the final written test. I hope it's still great Because this position and his work place are in the same city, I really worked hard to prepare, but I also left everything to fate. Fortunately, I don't care about missing it. Correspondingly, his attitude towards me is getting hotter and hotter. However, during this time, I have been contacting him. Although he responded enthusiastically, he seldom contacted me. So I think, in fact, he doesn't like me at all. At most, he is just a little sentimental and unloved. But because I was busy preparing for the exam, I didn't feel too sad.

it is also a lucky thing to have no time to be swayed by considerations of gain and loss. Because it's useless to be swayed by considerations of gain and loss except to affect your mood.

December 29th

Everything went well, but suddenly something went wrong. I'm thinking of making an appointment with him on New Year's Eve. On this day, he was hospitalized with acute appendicitis and was taken to the hospital for surgery in the early morning. His father arrived that day, and I was not his girlfriend, so I had to visit others as an ordinary classmate. I couldn't take care of him there. Seeing him lying in that weak state, I was really weak and uncomfortable.

Because of his poor health, he seldom answered my phone calls, and all he received was a tired or indifferent tone. And he will go straight home after he leaves the hospital. I may not see him until the beginning of next semester. I can only text him every day. I have the opportunity to ask a friend to help me bring the Kindle to him. On the one hand, I am afraid that he will not get tired of playing with his mobile phone, on the other hand, I will remind him of me as soon as he sees the Kindle.

January 1st, 215

I thought New Year's Eve was the hardest time, because there was no one to accompany me. He is still in the hospital, but fortunately he is accompanied by his family. So on the evening of 31st, I bought a ticket for Zhejiang Satellite TV's New Year's Eve party, and I was pleasantly surprised to meet my school sister. So we listened to Wang Leehom's New Year's Eve songs together and came back happily with our senior sisters in the evening. On the first day of the new year, the sun is shining brightly. A younger brother who likes photography called me and took a group of warm photos for me on campus. The junction of 214 and 215 passed happily. It also made me realize more deeply how important it is to have my own life and friends. Finally, I came out of the depression in these two days. After taking pictures, I found that he called me, told me about his situation in the past two days, and told me that he could leave the hospital on the 3 rd. I obviously felt the change in his attitude.

January 5, 215

During this time, he was at home for illness, and I was preparing for the exam. There is not much contact between the two. I don't know if he has feelings for me yet, but it doesn't hurt me anymore. I've been trying to convince myself that he doesn't like you, and now I can accept this reality happily.

At the beginning of p>215, the weather in Guangzhou has been very sunny. On the way to the library today, I remembered the moment when he first touched me, and my heart was full of wonderful taste. I think I have reached the best state of mind: all I have left are good memories, but I am not sad. In the evening, I sent a circle of friends: meeting love is a good thing. Recalling the feeling of the initial heart, the corners of the mouth will still rise; I always have a bad memory for negative things, which is also my advantage.

January 6, 215

This morning in the library, he called me and said he saw my circle of friends. I'm a little surprised and shy, because he seldom goes to WeChat. I posted it in a circle of friends just because I thought he couldn't see it. In one day, he uncharacteristically called me four times, all because he had nothing to say. On the last phone call, I asked him, why did your attitude suddenly change so much? So he told me: I felt uncertain before, but I finally got it today. He said that after breaking up, he was actually reluctant; He said that this is a hurdle between us, and now he finally has the courage to cross it; He also said that he would sing the song that excited me for the first time.

this has been the case since October 2th. It feels like a dream. But I know that the days ahead are still very long, and we still need to communicate and run in with each other for the problems that exist when we get along. Feelings are always between two people.

PS: My brother took a picture of me before. He right-clicked it and saved it in the computer. When he looked at my photo at home, his mother saw it. His mother asked, "This girl is very nice. Why not develop it? " Then he smiled.