Marriage customs in Shanghai

In fact, in Shanghai, it is not that there is no gift money, and it is common for men to buy jewelry for women. Of course, if the man wants to buy a house, then the economy will definitely be tight, because houses in Shanghai are expensive, you know. In this case, it is understandable to negotiate with the woman to reduce the gift money or not to give it. But jewelry is a must. It's everywhere. In today's society, although customs are not absolute, as long as the other party has certain needs, they should also respect each other's customs and habits. After all, this is also a matter of interpersonal relationship and some face, which can be based on mutual consultation. In fact, Shanghainese are very realistic, or smart as others say. I am a local. Personally, my wife is not from Shanghai, but I do all the bride price and bride price, and I fully respect her meaning. In fact, in a word, there is no absolute custom in today's society, but mutual respect is needed.

Finally, give the landlord a suggestion. In fact, if your hometown has such a habit, you can discuss it with your boyfriend. You should discuss it with him first, and then he can communicate with his parents. Finally, you should discuss it together. You know, since you have good feelings, you should consider each other and be considerate of each other. Of course, this is mutual. As for the attitude of the man's parents, only you can grasp and handle it yourself.

Let's talk about the supplementary problem of the landlord. It's okay to have a premarital check-up before marriage. Responsible for both parties and responsible for the next generation. This premarital examination is also very simple. Then hold a banquet with a certificate. All this is very logical. But as for the gift money, the man's mother said she was not interested. In fact, this may be her personal meaning. Because she or her family are not interested and don't want to do it. As you said earlier, if you communicate with her, she is afraid that you will give it away in case something goes wrong in the future, but this problem cannot be said to be the saying and habit that there are no gifts in Shanghai. Second, about the house, it seems that you don't work in Shanghai now, but I think you will go back to Shanghai to live one day. The problem of the house is actually a complicated problem. After all, it costs a lot, and house prices have been rising, especially in places like Shanghai. In fact, the man doesn't want to buy a house because he is worried about whether there is uncertainty in the future of the two of you. Now that you are working in a foreign country, that's all the more reason not to buy a house. Third, jewelry such as rings is necessary, but the man's parents didn't say it, so won't your boyfriend think of it? Even fools have seen wedding rings on TV, right? You always know this, of course, not only rings, but also necklaces and other jewelry. Don't talk about marriage, and do you want the woman to ask for a ring again? As for the wedding photos, it's a small matter. You two can take them yourself. I want to tell you that Shanghainese are very realistic, too realistic and smart at the same time. Sometimes some places will make you unacceptable, so you should be mentally prepared. What I said above is purely personal. How to deal with and treat this series of things is entirely up to you. If you think you need to fight for it, you should communicate with it. What you think is understandable and sloppy, let him go. In a word, it all depends on your own mentality.

It's hard to input by hand. If personal analysis can help the landlord, I hope it can be adopted. I wish you happiness!