Loneliness is a romantic freedom.

Loneliness is my friend.

I saw it when I was a child, but I don't remember what it looked like.

It will come to see me occasionally, but only occasionally, it will stand in the corner and look at me without talking.

Whenever I am sad and feel that the world doesn't love me; Whenever I bury my head in tears and feel that no one understands me, I know that loneliness is behind me.

But I don't want to see it.

Because it is terrible and ugly, let me see my own smallness and fear.

But it was only when I was young.

Later, slowly, when life again and again, from quiet to lively, and then from lively to desolate; When I am the only one in most life pictures, I finally understand that loneliness is inevitable, and it is the place we will eventually reach no matter how many turns we take.

You are lonely, aren't you?

What is your understanding of loneliness?

To this end, I went to ask some friends about loneliness.

Summer said:

Xiao Bei said: "Loneliness is that no one understands and confides."

Ann said: "Loneliness is that all the people around you suddenly have different circles and lives from you."

Xiao Pu said: "Loneliness means that you are still alive, but when you want to tell, there is no listener."

Jin said: "Loneliness is a constant expectation."

Summer night said: "loneliness means that when I am writing something, I don't know who will read it, maybe I am the only reader;" When I took a great photo, I would laugh happily, but when I turned around, I found no one to share it with. Crossing the whole city, thinking silently, I won't think of anyone saying hello, only myself. "

Others said: "Loneliness means that you think that if you find someone together, loneliness will disappear, but when someone is around, you will enter another kind of loneliness, because people always want more."

It sounds that loneliness is mostly related to others, no one to share and accompany, no one to listen and understand.

However, these are often derived from emptiness and loneliness.

I remember that Liu Tong published a book called "Your Loneliness, Though Defeated".

In my opinion, loneliness is not failure, and there is no such thing as glory.

Loneliness is innate. With the growth of age, self-awareness becomes stronger and stronger, and it becomes more and more independent, which will become more prominent.

Loneliness is a normal state, and you and I are both facing it, or escaping, or getting along.

In many people's minds, loneliness is bad, bad and shameful.

So we are all trying to escape loneliness, cure loneliness and establish various relationships to make ourselves complete.

However, there is no external relationship in this world that can make us complete.

Loneliness is fate and the return of another life form.

When we look at the world, what we actually see is our own shadow.

There is no one else outside, only yourself.

So, can you see yourself?

Have you ever heard your inner voice?

Have you ever been with yourself when you are sad and given yourself time to heal?

Did you take good care of your body to prevent yourself from overeating? Instead, did you let TA find a comfortable environment, calm down in a comfortable posture, ask yourself what happened, slowly digest adversity, and then get her own nourishment?

Loneliness means that all your problems will come back to you.

If your inner voice is not heard and your inner desires are not satisfied, you will enter a deep loneliness, and sometimes you will blindly seek comfort.

However, if you are unable to cope with your own shortcomings, what can others do?

No one can know that you like yourself.

Two thousand years ago, the ancient Greeks carved "Know Yourself" as an inscription on the doorpost of the Temple of Apollo as a motto to warn future generations.

Therefore, the meaning of loneliness is to know yourself, find yourself and be with yourself.

After all, life is a journey of self-discovery.

The one who can accompany himself to the end is himself.

When loneliness becomes the most natural state of life, we also begin to embark on the road of harmony.

So from the beginning, we should accept ourselves, our bodies, our looks, our present situation and all our imperfections.

Stop attacking and evaluating yourself, and slowly, soothe those pains. When they strike again and again, spend time with them and give them enough patience and love.

Let those divisions caused by other people's judgment, other people's negation and the noise of the outside world slowly recover.

When self-doubt and longing for affirmation, tell yourself:

"I am the source of love, that is, perfection. It doesn't need outside help. I am myself. Everything I need can be satisfied by myself. I'm fine. I have no defects. "

Then, we will find that the so-called lack, the shadow of childhood, and the denial and harm of others can all be healed from self-awareness and self-healing.

? After self-awakening, is the awakening of life.

Born to be human, we came from nothingness, walked a short way in this world, and will return to silence.

So, what are you going to do in this limited life?

How do you want to spend your life?

What kind of state do you want when you leave, or how do you want future generations to pay homage to you?

Really lonely people will not curl up in their own small world and do nothing, nor will they be very dissatisfied with the status quo and don't know how to change.

Lonely people take their eyes back and put them on themselves. They learn to satisfy themselves, know what they want, and they will pursue it.

So lonely people are exploring a better life on the road of self-realization.

They won't let others define their lives.

So we often see that those who have realized themselves, those who dare to think and do, and those who really love themselves are lonely, but they are also free.

When we really find ourselves and can get along with ourselves calmly, our internal relationship model has changed, and we will get along with ourselves, nature and the world.

The external relational schema is a copy of the internal relational schema.

How we get along with ourselves determines how we get along with others and the world.

Therefore, if we don't want ourselves, stop attacking ourselves and have a high degree of acceptance of ourselves, it is easy to accept others.

When we exist as a mature and complete individual, we naturally attract another mature and complete individual.

At this time, you will have a high-quality relationship. You don't attack each other at the same time, demanding each other, denying each other, and eager for each other's affirmation.

It will not bind each other tightly because of fear of losing, and become an existence attached to each other. In the end, both sides were scarred and wiped out, and then broke up in discord.

Even if you are not so demanding to meet someone, you may never be alone again.

Because I have long accepted loneliness and enjoyed it, I know better that even if another person appears, it will not fill all the vacancies in my life, let alone plunder and occupy the space that keeps me.

The best emotional state is, "I feel happy because I kept you, and I also kept myself, so I feel at ease and free." "

Just like the lyrics in milk tea "I dare to be alone in your arms":

Therefore, loneliness is also the road to freedom.

Loneliness is a state, a state of harmony.

When a person is lonely, his thoughts are free and he is facing his true self.

A lonely person, no matter what kind of environment he is in, can keep himself quiet. He can find perfection and enjoy himself.

Douban netizen Bei Qi Fei said:

Don't be confused about your loneliness, don't feel ashamed and anxious about it, and try to escape.

This is an opportunity to lead you to freedom and perfection.

May you and I both have the freedom of loneliness.

(Note: The picture comes from Petal Net Photographer: Hong, Appearance: Nini. )