Can a circle of friends really "bask" in friendship?

Many people will use their circle of friends to "bask in" all kinds of happiness, especially holidays, which is simply a photo contest for friends.

In the circle of friends we live in, everyone has a desire to express themselves: objects, children, beautiful scenery, delicious food ..... Everyone wants to show their best and proudest side to others. Sometimes, a wonderful "sun" will gain countless praises and be full of happiness. But after the online carnival, there is actually no wave in your life. The biggest wave you can feel is nothing more than laughing after the "sun" and silently putting down your mobile phone.

Many people have learned how to "sun" exquisitely, but have forgotten how to make a real sharing.

As an advanced social animal, sharing is an instinctive reaction. In primitive society, foragers will share the prey they have been chasing all day with the old, the weak and the sick. It is this sharing based on survival that makes the human population continue to multiply and grow.

But now, each of us feels that we have many friends, and we all want them to know about our lives. So "drying" has become the most convenient way, without explanation, just a few carefully selected pictures and a few carefully carved words. A "communication" between friends is thus completed. However, true friendship has also been diluted in this simple "sun".

There are many friends around me who haven't sent QQ space dynamics for many years, and the circle of friends is rarely updated. The more reason is that everyone is gradually maturing and becoming rational. People who know you don't need your "explanation" at all, because they are by your side and spend every inch of your time with you. So from this perspective, "Sun" is obviously redundant.

I have a very good saying in Dongpo Breakthrough: Maturity is a bright but not dazzling light, a mellow but not harsh voice, a calm that no longer needs to observe others, an atmosphere that eventually stops appealing to the surrounding, a smile that ignores the hubbub, a kind of extreme indifference that washes away, and a thick and unobtrusive height, which is fermented by Apollo's lofty sentiments.

Therefore, if your circle of friends is more about honor and disgrace, then you are not mature enough.

Of course, mature people should also learn to share.

During the long vacation, a friend talked privately about the new things she saw when she traveled abroad, and suddenly felt very warm.

Knowing how to share and who to share with is really a university question. When I was a freshman, I shared an article with my friends, which was his speech at the opening ceremony of Peking University freshmen. There is a short story: when an entrepreneur was in college, there was a classmate in his class and his family was relatively rich. He takes six apples to school every week. My roommate thought it would be a person, but he found that he had one every day. Although the apple is his, no one will take it from him, but since then, everyone has been left with the impression that the child is too selfish. Later, the entrepreneur got things done, but the classmate who ate apples didn't succeed, so he hoped to join the team of entrepreneurs. Later, after discussion, everyone said that he could not be allowed to join, for the simple reason that he never embodied the spirit of sharing in college.

Once upon a time, the ancients shared time through stationery. A poem, a painting, a thoughtful article and even a tune can create the greatest friendship in the world. Wang Lun sings on the shore, Du Li sends poems to tell each other her heart, and mountains and rivers tell each other their bosom friends ... These eternal swan songs are the fruits of the intersection of heart and feelings, not the fruits of "sun".

Sharing is a very rare spirit. Feelings, thoughts, wealth, even if an apple is divided into six petals for everyone to eat together, all reflect a person's mind and realm. People who know how to share will also gain the most, because any effort is futile.

When you stop racking your brains to "bask" and simply share your happiness with your intimate friends, then you really know life. (End)