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After becoming a mother ... Janet, children make me a better person.

After becoming a mother ... Ja, children make me a better person. Violation of 1 year and 9 months, Sunshine Mommy JA appeared again in Baby and Mom magazine with a handsome mixed-race Egan! The last time we met, Egan was a baby held by his mother. Now Egan can not only run and jump, but also pose with mommy's movements, just like a professional little model! Want to know how Ja runs around the earth with Egan? What did Egan do in the Middle East desert to make Ja laugh and cry? The cover character of this issue takes you to find out! Many people are curious about how Ja and her husband Gee arrange their family life, one in Taiwan Province Province and the other in the United States. Ja bluntly said that from falling in love to getting married, she and Gee are used to long-distance relationships, and flying around is not a problem for them. With Egan, the couple will adjust their working hours. Sometimes Ja will fly Egan to the United States, and sometimes Gee will fly to Taiwan Province Province to take turns as a housewife and husband to take care of the children. "This way of life is a bit hard for outsiders, but our family has actually adapted. 」

Egan is independent, adventurous and loses his temper when he doesn't go out.

Perhaps because he often flies around with his parents, Egan is not afraid of life. As soon as he entered the studio, he hung out with the children in the game area. Ja said with a smile, "Egan started school at the age of one and a half and never cried at school. The only time we flew back to Taiwan Province Province from the United States, we cried for a while because of the time difference, but five minutes later, we started to be alive and kicking again. 」

Egan, who is about to turn 2 years old, looks like a combination of his father's big eyes and his mother's smiling lips, and his personality also inherits the characteristics of his parents. "Like gee, he is gentle and patient with people. When adults are busy, they will play games quietly by themselves. At the same time, like me, I am full of curiosity about the world and like to explore the environment everywhere. Always pulling us to say "outside" and "outside", I will lose my temper without taking him out. 」

Strong imitation of "this sentence" makes Ja laugh and cry.

Although Egan is still young, Gee, as a professional actor, has begun to guide his son to make some delicate facial expressions, such as "Are you condescending?" "or say" do you care "with concern? Over time, Egan also cultivated the potential of imitation. "Once I accidentally dropped a diaper full of shit and blurted out,' Oh, shit! A few days later, Egan dropped his toy. He immediately said, "Oh, shit! Imitating my expression and tone vividly makes people laugh and cry! 」

The four languages spoke in turn and sang "It's getting dark".

Egan, who is eccentric, not only inherits his parents' acting talent, but also learns the language in a good way. He sang the Taiwanese song "It's getting dark" taught by his grandparents, talked with his father in English, spoke Chinese to the school teacher and counted from one to ten in Spanish. The first thing you can say is not mom and dad, nor grandparents, but "cheers"! "Although we actively taught him to say" Daddy "and" Mommy ",he just refused to pronounce it completely. Later, when he went abroad to play, grandpa took a cup and taught him to say "cheers". Suddenly, he picked up a bottle, touched grandpa's cup, said "cheers", and his pronunciation exceeded the standard. Ja smiled.

Ja and Gee both like to travel. They took Egan around the world when he was three months old. Egan has been to the United States, China, Abu Dhabi, Indonesia (Bali), and will go to Japan, Switzerland and France next. Aren't you tired of taking children out? Weidong shook his head. "The purpose of our trip with Egan is not to relax, but to experience all kinds of novelty, to breathe the air of different countries with him, to taste all kinds of food, and to make these experiences a nutrient for his growth. 」

For Ja, travel is an indispensable existence in life; "It's hard to describe the feeling that travel gives me ... I think it should be an' expectation'. From the beginning, we decide the location, plan the itinerary, buy the plane ticket, pack the luggage and board the plane ... In a series of preparation processes, the feeling of expectation will continue to accumulate until the arrival of the destination and the beginning of the journey, reaching the peak and spewing out fireworks-like beautiful sparks. Ja said that every day during the trip, she would look forward to what would happen next and take a walk with Egan. This expectation has been magnified. " Every moment, she is looking forward to seeing his reaction to new things. "

For example, in Abu Dhabi, I went to see belly dancing one night, and Egan sneaked on the stage during the intermission. Ja tried to stop it, but the dancer shook her head and let Egan stay on the stage until the end of the performance. As a result, Egan continued to applaud and cheer after the dancers stepped down. It turned out that Egan tasted the taste of being a superstar on the stage and wanted everyone to applaud him, which also made Ja discover the other side of his son's love for the stage.

Into the desert, I am happy to climb all over the ground and ride an off-road vehicle to wash sand.

Ja will not set too many restrictions on Egan during the trip. "We will let Egan try something new as far as possible within a safe range, and then let him decide whether to accept it according to his own feelings. For example, in Abu Dhabi, Egan was very excited when he first saw the desert. As soon as he landed, he crawled around and had a good time playing with sand. However, he drove an off-road vehicle to wash sand in the desert and began to cry halfway. " We knew he was afraid and asked the driver to slow down immediately. 」

In order to accompany the children, Ja, who likes * * * *, restrained her desire for adventure. "I used to go to the beach to play paragliding and jet skiing, but now I spend most of my time playing with Egan on the beach. After becoming a mother, Ja is no longer a carefree backpacker when traveling. For her, time with children is more precious than any challenge.

Take Egan abroad, one backpack, two suitcases!

Many parents go abroad with their children's big bags and small bags, but Ja has its own set of methods to simplify things. "Like steam seats, we usually rent them locally and decide whether to bring them according to different environments. When we went to Abu Dhabi (desert) and Italy (slate road), we basically used baby carriages instead of carts. The same is true of toys that many parents regard as a magic weapon to appease their children. " We usually only take one or two, because for children, anything can be used as a toy. For example, Egan likes to play with plates and bowls on the plane, so don't worry that he will have no toys to play with. 」

Besides, carrying mom's bag is too heavy. Ja usually only prepares a carry-on backpack, stuffs everything of the couple and Egan into it, and then distributes Egan's luggage evenly to the couple's suitcases. "So, if you go abroad, you just need to carry a backpack and a suitcase, and you can take Egan everywhere." 」

When it comes to raising children, Ja admits that Gee is more careful and attentive than her. Ji is ready to be a father. Egan has been eating, drinking and sleeping since he was born. I didn't help Egan bathe for the first time until the full moon. Ja recalled that at that time, she felt that the baby would not be dirty, just wash it with water. Unexpectedly, Gee rushed over and said, "No! Lift your armpit to wash the ball, and wipe your nostrils and eyes with a gauze towel, otherwise it will be unclean! 」

"Maybe it's nature! Gee entered the role of father shortly after the birth of the child, which naturally produced fatherly love. I remember Egan, when he was three months old, Gee always liked to hug him and kiss him. At that time, I seriously asked, "Why have you been kissing Egan? Later, I found out that this is the "love" that parents naturally show to their children, and I later understood it. 」

Training Egan slept all night, quarreled with his mother and collapsed.

The couple rarely disagree on Egan's issue, and even if there is an argument, it will soon end. "On the contrary, in order to train Egan to sleep for the night, my mother and I had a big fight. At that time, Egan would wake up and cry every two or three hours, which would make Ja collapse and make up his mind not to hug, so that Egan could establish his own sleeping habits. But Ja's mother couldn't bear to part with it, and rushed to the bed as soon as she heard her grandson crying. The mother and daughter argued repeatedly about whether to sleep or not, and finally Ja's mother compromised. " Although we have different parenting values, we know that we are all doing good for Egan. Ja lamented that it is difficult to know the role of parents with children.

Talking about husband and wife getting along "This time is the best time to communicate!"

Many couples become more and more indifferent and even drift away after the birth of their children, but Ja and Gee have no such problems at all. "I think the relationship between husband and wife is usually not that there is no time to be alone, but that there is no active communication. Gee and I often share the big and small things in each other's lives after the children fall asleep. This time is a good communication time. Ja bluntly said that couples don't have to plan specific trips when they get along. A simple chat is enough. Deliberately setting a time for "dating" will put pressure on the other party. " But this is the way I get along with Ji. If we both want to do something, such as watching a movie, that's fine. No matter how to warm up feelings, the key is that both sides can get happiness and satisfaction from it and be happy with each other, so as to really improve the quality of feelings.

For the second child, Ja has always taken a natural attitude, but in an interview with the media a while ago, she revealed the news of abortion in mid-May. Restoring the scene at that time, Ja revealed that she was pregnant intuitively and discussed with Gee to surprise her mother. I didn't expect to go to the hospital for examination, but I got the bad news that the child had no heartbeat. "At that time, I was afraid that my mother would be sad and cried and said I was sorry. As a result, my mother comforted me and said,' It doesn't matter, since the child is unhealthy, this is the best result. 』?Ja recalled that hearing what her mother said made her cry even more, and then she decided to let the child flow away naturally.

Ja admits that sadness is inevitable, but she hopes that mothers will not take it as their own fault. "Abortion is like breaking up and having a bad job. It's normal. If you deliberately suppress it, you will be under great pressure. She stressed that the probability of pregnancy abortion is as high as 1/3. If you don't take drugs, smoke or drink, you don't have to be too hard on yourself. She hopes that the second child will come healthily. " I hope the next child is a girl, with my brother. " 」

Relax and feel the parenting process.

Ja has a deep understanding of the role of "mother" from pregnancy and delivery to the child approaching 2 years old. "It is inevitable that there will be many doubts in the process of becoming a mother. At this time, you can look up books, find information online or ask others for advice, but in the end, you have to go back to your heart and listen to your inner voice. Many times, the answer is often not on others, you know what is best for children. 」

For a novice mother like her, Ja wants to say, put your heart down and feel the process of raising children. Even if the child cries, screams and is mad, these bits and pieces will become precious memories in the future. Only by accepting your true side in parenting will you become better and better.

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