Boyfriend, who has just fallen in love and has never met, always asks me to give him money to buy cigarettes. What should I do?

I think you should choose to let go instead of being stubborn. He doesn't like you and regards you as a pulling tool.

When you meet people who "consume" you, you should use these methods to stay away.

I once read such a passage: "In this world, there are always people who want to hurt you, but there are always people who will love you."

People who hurt you never care about you, just regard you as a stepping stone and a "post-it note", hoping to squeeze out every available place like sugarcane juice.

This kind of harm is manifested in intentionally or unintentionally "consuming" you. Once you encounter it, you should use these methods to stay away.

In the face of people who consume your emotions, learn to block, turn a blind eye, and listen without hearing.

People often say: "Birds of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups." He also said: "The Tao is different and there is no accomplice."

No matter in the workplace or in life, there are always people who "naturally" don't like you, think you are not pleasing to the eye, and then want to "consume" you, find fault with you and launch rounds of attacks on you.

Take one of the most common scenes in the office as an example.

What some people who are obsessed with flattery love to do is to form a "small circle" and constantly crowd out others, so that their "all talk and no action" behavior "gets the upper hand".

Therefore, they often echo each other, pick out those who are "not fellow travelers" and vilify and attack them.

For example, if you take your work seriously, spare no effort to complete the task and get good grades, they will say that this is what you should do. How can you get out without this ability?

Then, even if the credit is not above them, they will ramble and describe themselves as "people who make suggestions and make great achievements" and take credit everywhere shamelessly.

For example, when everyone goes to the canteen to eat together, it happens that there is no money on your meal card, and you look embarrassed. They will immediately express sympathy for another colleague who has no meal fee, and immediately take out their own cards for the other party to "swipe their cards".

In contrast, I just didn't say a word: "I'm glad to see you so down and out."

As for working together, don't count on it. In addition to changing their tricks, they just blow their beards and stare at you, set up artificial obstacles, and are anxious to see you make mistakes and make jokes.

These people behave like bugs and flies, buzzing all day. If their emotions are disturbed, they will not be able to do their work well, and they will be angry because of resentment, which will make people around them feel very nervous and the atmosphere will become depressed.