For a 25-year-old man with a bottleneck in the workplace, you need three self-help guides.

Yesterday, my friend sent me a WeChat appointment. I thought she just jumped ship and wanted to have dinner together and share some interesting things about the new company.

Unexpectedly, she just sat down in the restaurant and began to complain. "I want to come to the big platform from a small company, and I can play well. It took two months to leave. "

"There are many old employees in the new department. Although I am not a newcomer, I have become a handyman. There is no room for me to give full play to my strengths. I have worked for three years and am now an intern. I am very depressed. "

After working for 3 years, there are still many bottlenecks.

I don't know when it started. Working for three years has become a hurdle. If you don't get promoted, even if you fail at the beginning of your career. Seeing that people around them have increased their job-hopping income, everyone is eager to move.

The location of the big factory is tight, and there is no news of modifying the resume. Naked resignation is too anxious at home.

I found that the new environment can't solve the old problems, and I can't leave immediately, so I can only endure it for another year.

If you can't do great things, don't try to do small things. When I am depressed, I sometimes wonder why people in the workplace usually encounter bottlenecks at this stage.

I think there are three main points:

1. I don't like my job, and I have no direction to change careers.

2. Lack of ability, low salary, and I don't know how to improve.

3. Stress and heavy tasks make the relationship between colleagues and bosses tense.

Do you have the same confusion? Let me share with you the ways I learned from other big coffees to fight career bottlenecks.

Sun, the founder of Waiwai Business School, is a female entrepreneur whom I admire very much. At the age of 30, she was already the director of a top human resources consulting company. She could have continued to be a partner in the company, but one day she was suddenly caught up in her work.

"I suddenly found that the consulting company has a very clear career development channel. I have been climbing the established route in full view of the outside world, but when I finally reached the top after walking for 8 years, I didn't feel what I wanted. What do I want? I have no idea. "

95% of China people's career problems are not about work, but about themselves and their families.

Like Sun Juan, we are easily influenced by our families in the choice of schools, majors, jobs and places. We may wait until we are in our twenties and suddenly find that we have not made independent decisions and don't understand our true values.

Therefore, if you want to find your real passion again and make a systematic exploration, you must use the "iceberg model" to analyze it.

According to this model, how much value you can create depends on three internal factors: knowledge and skills above the iceberg, and talents below the iceberg, including personality, motivation and values. Talent has little room for change for adults, and it is hard to observe, but it has a far-reaching impact on the results of our work.

When Sun Quan discovered his talent, he used a method of self-insight. For two weeks, she has been sitting at her desk every morning recalling the most exciting and disgusting moments in her life in the past eight years, and asked 10 friends and colleagues about their impressive personality and work characteristics.

After half a month, she spent 10 hours writing down all the things she wanted to do in 10 years on an A4 piece of paper, and finally she wrote down more than 100 things.

After that, you start chopping one by one, leaving only one, and you may not be able to do anything else in your life.

"If you can't tell anyone about it after you do it, do you still want to do it?"

"If it takes five years to earn money, you need to find another job to support yourself first. Do you still want to do it? "

Finally, she left a note on the paper, that is: influence and help others grow.

"I am extremely excited to think that I can directly help a person with knowledge and experience instead of serving the enterprise." A few months later, Sun resigned from the company and became an off-campus business school to help professionals improve their leadership.

Many people think that only an elite like Jobs will have their own "talent", but in fact, each of us will have potential talent. Try to think about our own values and interests, so that we can get rid of complaints and entanglements faster and find a more suitable career direction.

What is the competence circle?

If you want to achieve a certain goal and gain something, the most reliable way is to make yourself worthy. If you want to be promoted from junior college to supervisor three years after graduation, are the positions and salaries you are aiming at up to standard in your competence circle?

A friend of mine, L, wants to change from an advertising company to a freelancer.

She read all the answers about freelancers in Zhihu, and asked freelancers around her to know their working status. Later, she found that the most suitable position for her was a workplace writer/photographer.

And if you want to earn income only by these two freelancers, the most basic ability is to plan and operate, write, negotiate advertisements and shoot retouching.

So when she was at work, she began to keep writing, Douban, Zhihu, building up her influence and accumulating traffic bit by bit with continuous output. Take photos of friends and retouch them for free on weekends, and post them on Little Red Book and Weibo.

What really helped her get the first pot of gold was a series of freelance interviews planned by her. I didn't expect this topic to be particularly popular. The first three articles were published on multiple platforms, with a subsidy of 3000 yuan. After that, there was a platform for her to become a contract writer.

The income from photography is much less. She resolutely turned photographers into hobbies, continued to study interviews with peace of mind, and became a full-time writer.

Many people are obsessed with trying to prove themselves through difficult things, but it turns out that it is very cost-effective.

What kind of role do you want to be, you must build the corresponding ability circle. At the same time, learning to give up those parts that you are not good at and focus on cultivating your best ability will make you succeed faster.

It is said that the post-90 s generation has become an island, and it is difficult to socialize actively. Many young people around me leave their jobs not because of their work content, but because they disagree with their immediate leaders.

What I want to say is that it is an immature professional view to distinguish whether a leader is worth following by temper and personality. Whether a leader is worth following depends on whether he can achieve you. Having a good temper and being in tune with you may not be helpful to your career development.

In addition to managing the relationship between colleagues and leaders, we must also accumulate industry contacts in order to make rapid progress. I once encountered an operational problem at work, and the team discussed it for two days, but there was no feasible solution. At this time, our boss came over and said, don't rely on yourself to find the best expert in this field. He asked, 1 building has no view of the third floor.

At that time, I began to search for relevant industry articles, and through the introduction of friends in my circle of friends, I asked a peer director for advice. The next day, I spent another 300 yuan on the telephone information of another expert.

I still remember that before calling the expert, I was so nervous that I was sweating. I wrote the outline of the question twice before calling, and walked in the corridor of the company for 5 minutes, fearing that I would ask some stupid questions or express myself unclear. I didn't expect this elder to be particularly kind. He not only gave me a quick solution, but also added it to his WeChat friends. It was also because of his recommendation that I got an offer from an ideal big company.

Sure enough, sometimes it is not enough to think hard, but to actively expand valuable contacts. Only with the help of other people's story experience can you quickly improve your understanding of working methods and seize those industry opportunities that you simply can't see.

When is it easiest for a person to stay in the comfort zone? When the people around you are at the same level as you. Without breaking through the social level, it is difficult for you to have a desire for advancement. Only when you get in touch with the contacts at the next higher level will you be attracted by those resources and then drive yourself to progress.

Finally, I want to say that we often go through a bottleneck period of 3-5 years in the workplace, but don't fight these confused and anxious emotions, let alone try to get rid of them. When a problem has been bothering you, it is an opportunity to break through and find yourself.

First of all, adjust your mentality, re-examine your own advantages inward, improve your ability in a targeted manner, and then actively explore opportunities outward. When you really want to change your job or industry, ask yourself first, can the current problem be solved by job-hopping/career-changing? If yes, replace it in time. If not, there will be many problems.