Is the thinner the heart, the easier it is to be depressed?

"Caution" may tend to be cautious, introverted and sensitive, but it is not necessarily relevant.

To give an inappropriate example, the profession of special agent requires "being as bold as a tiger and as careful as wool". Wouldn't it be bad if agents were depressed because they were "cautious" !

People who play Weiqi are often cautious, but because there are winners and losers in every game, this chess game not only exercises people's careful observation, but also cultivates a strong ability to resist setbacks and becomes a Xiao Qiang-style person.

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I can tell you first: yes.

Will you struggle for a long time because of someone else's words or eyes?

You are cautious, which makes it easier for you to understand the emotions of people around you. If you are cautious, you are more likely to fall into the "high demands" of others.

To put it bluntly, the finer the heart, the more sensitive it is, and it is easy to be unhappy because of some trivial things, and it is also easy to perceive the dark side of human nature.

In fact, cautious people can be called "highly sensitive personality" or HSP for short.

Do you have a highly sensitive personality?

If you sometimes force yourself to meet your requirements, this may be a highly sensitive signal. Other signals of heat shock proteins include:

You will deeply feel the pain in the news tragedy.

Sometimes you will be shocked by beautiful things-beautiful scenery or kindness of friends.

You are sensitive to bright light and noisy sounds.

You are very considerate. If someone is in a bad mood, you can feel the atmosphere in the room.

Lonely, unwilling to associate with people.

Sometimes, when a coffee date is cancelled, you will hide under the covers in ecstasy.

Whether it is music, dance, photography, writing, visual art or interior design, it has super perception and high aesthetic intuition.

Overimagination, free association, daydreaming, very developed visualization ability.

Introspection, keen to solve problems and keep learning.

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An HSP needs to spend a lot of time and energy to adapt to a new environment. Ignoring your sensitivity will make you exhausted, even if you have paid nothing.

I used to be like this, wondering if I did something wrong. Does he have a problem with me? Should I tell him? And so on.

Say what you think and you can play several series!

Caution is not necessarily depressing, but it will definitely be more painful.

In fact, depression has a personality basis. So, what kind of people are prone to depression? To give a few examples, such as being unwilling to trouble others, being sensitive in interpersonal communication, sometimes feeling inferior, and paying special attention to others' reactions to themselves.

How to cure yourself? I think it's actually quite simple.

1. Take a rest when you are tired.

If you are determined to adapt, the first and most difficult step is to rest. When you keep moving forward and never stop to catch your breath, you may be exhausted. You can:

Walk outside for five minutes.

Look out the window and breathe deeply.

take a break

Make time for meditation.

Take a whole day off to recharge.

Spend time in nature

So start small and see if you can arrange a five-minute quiet rest today.

Know your sensitivity

We should know that people's pursuit is hierarchical, and people with allergies are relatively more likely to pursue some higher-level needs (the level here is only a classification and does not have spiritual critical significance), such as emotion or spirit, which are relatively less concentrated on the material level. This is not a problem in itself, but the development of demand levels is different.

Often in the past, due to allergies, I left an inappropriate "imprint" on myself and accumulated a lot of emotions that were not well channeled. You need to gradually establish a more objective understanding of your own characteristics, accept your own hypersensitivity, accept your own characteristics, and learn to get along with this characteristic.

The more you know about your sensitivity, the easier it is for you to ask for leave, refuse an embarrassing party invitation, or walk around the market wearing huge headphones.

Actually!

The story is not important, but the cure is the most important; True or false is not important, growth is the most important.

You go and see if the knot left over at that time is affecting the present, and then, solve it step by step instead of focusing on your story. Jesus and the farmer are the same, there is no essential difference, and the stories are unknowable and unimportant. Finally, we should return to a relatively balanced and stable inner state.

Careful babies, maybe each of you is a kind child. We are the hearts of our parents, not soft persimmons or punching bags used by others. There is no need to consider other people's feelings and take care of their emotions everywhere. Your kindness to others may not be exchanged for others' kindness to you Don't be too sensitive in life. Anyway, you are the one you should love the most.

First of all, what is prudence?

You noticed the flash of dissatisfaction on the boss's face, but no one else did, so you were nervous all day at work. The room looks clean and bright, but you know there is a lot of dust under the sofa bed, and it makes me uncomfortable to think about it. The child is in a good mood today, but you find his words evasive, as if hiding something from you, which makes you uneasy. After the other half came back, they stayed in the toilet more than yesterday 10 minutes. What's he doing in there? I can't know what?

These things that you feel carefully because of what you said will definitely affect your mood, make you anxious and sow the seeds of depression.

But is this careful? If you are careful, why didn't you notice the peach blossoms downstairs, why didn't you notice that my colleagues put on new clothes, why didn't you notice that my son liked your cooking and ate an extra bowl of rice at night, and why didn't you see that my husband brought back a beautiful vase for the flowers he bought yesterday when he came back?

Careful observation is the habit of impartial observation. You can notice what others ignore, but it doesn't mean that you only notice the negative and pessimistic side and can't see the positive and sunny side.

You will suspect that caution is related to depression, not that you are inaccurate. What you want to say is sensitivity, not whether negative thinking can make people easily depressed. The answer is yes.

It is asking for trouble to be too sensitive to other people's attitudes and speculate on the potential meaning of some small words. It's your cognitive habit. It is sunny today. Some people think it's time for bask in the quilt to supplement calcium. It's also sunny. Some people think that they wear makeup quickly, and they should wear sunscreen when they go out. It's really troublesome. The same thing, different people's cognitive styles lead to different feelings about today's sunrise.

You feel unhappy because you are careful, in fact, others may have noticed. It's just that you understand with a pessimistic and negative attitude, and others understand with a positive and sunny attitude. So you are locked in your own negative emotional cage, while others are actively and optimistically enjoying life and meeting new challenges.

The gap has just opened, because of yourself.

The same bunch of flowers, I feel happy because I feel fresh and beautiful at home. Some people "carefully" think that this is the same color as chrysanthemums, and they are taboo. At the sight of this flower, they felt uncomfortable. In the end, everything went wrong, because trivial matters were unpleasant with my family. This is the effect of self-realization. How you look at yourself and things will happen. Finally, we can rationalize it. Look, just say the flower is unknown, which makes the whole family jump. You see, it is because I am more careful than others that I am depressed. It's not my fault. I can't help it Excuse me, whose reason is that you are not responsible for your emotions?

Generally speaking, cautious feelings are also delicate, and meticulous feelings tend to care about many details in life. A little carelessness may lead to depression and unhappiness.

On the other hand, people who think things more carefully and deeply, can understand carelessness better, and are less prone to depression. From this perspective, caution is not equal to depression.

If you want to get rid of depressed emotions, you must let go of your own pattern, open your broader horizons and treat the world with a more tolerant attitude. I believe it will be more and more enjoyable.