Kimchi effect of psychology in life

You can tell something about a woman's husband's behavior from her behavior. For example, in the past, women were very generous, but now when eating with people, they often advocate AA. One day, the mystery was revealed. It turned out that the husband likes financial clarity and never treats guests for no reason. A woman was careless before marriage, but now she is used to making schedules. As soon as I understood behind her, it turned out that her husband was logical and could not be wrong.

You can also see some smells of your wife from a man's daily behavior. For example, a calm man changed a pair of fashionable glasses, which is probably the influence of his wife; Exquisite men suddenly talked about which roadside stall in the community was delicious, mostly because of their wives; Also, what brand of sunscreen a man wears when he goes out will also expose his wife's preferences in an unobstructed view.

Living together for a long time, we will always become congenial. Just like the same pickles, they will taste different when soaked in different jars for a period of time, not to mention putting people in ABCD environment. This person's smell is usually closer to his closest person, because a person's taste depends not on what kind of vegetable he is, but on the taste of the marinade. This is the kimchi effect.

Of course, there are many kinds of marinades, such as sour, sweet, spicy and hemp, so a person's taste is constantly shaped with the change of marinades.

Needless to say, family broth. For example, some of your problems and bad habits can be found in your parents; Some of your quality of life and interests will find some prototypes in your partner; Some of your talents and behavior habits will be inexplicably passed on to the next generation.

A colleague, both husband and wife are studying art, and I don't want my son to go this way again. But in middle school, my son suddenly became interested in art, and his paintings were quite similar. It's hard for you to imagine that a person who has never received any professional training, with a sketch, persuaded his father and resolutely entered the Tsinghua Academy of Fine Arts.

In addition to home marinade, we can also see the influence of unit marinade on a person. When I first joined the work, I like to say this about others: at first glance, it is the face of a civil servant, at first glance it is the face of a small white-collar worker, at first glance it is the face of a writer, and at first glance it is the face of a teacher. How can you live like others when you despise this stereotyped logo face?

After a long time, you find that those energetic students have really changed their faces one by one and become the ones who are most like their majors. If you don't believe me, look around at people who are engaged in human resources, managers and sales. Does it make you feel like a template at first sight?

The small environment of a department also partly determines a person's interest in life. For example, some departments like to travel, so even if you don't like to travel before, staying for a long time will attract some interest; Some departments like to eat and drink, even if you are least particular about eating and drinking, you can count which restaurants in the city are the most authentic after a long time; Some departments like to learn cooking skills, so even a lazy housewife will spend time collecting some delicious food on the internet to give herself some eye-catching talk. Also, some departments like photography. Even if you don't plan to make any progress in this field, are you tickling some equipment?

Pickle with friends. The faces of the friends we make are also the helmsman of our mentality. Making a positive and sunny friend will neutralize your negative depression; Making friends with a wide range of interests will also expand your circle of friends; Having made a studious and enterprising friend, I am naturally embarrassed to eat, drink and be merry every day. Of course, if you make a complaining friend, you will also be infected with some complaining factors; When you make a gossipy friend, you will unconsciously start gossiping; It's actually quite difficult to be alone when you make a friend with a bad hobby.

Not long ago, my cousin said, I don't know if I should abandon that friend. One of her girlfriends is the Minister of Literature and Art of the Student Union. She is excellent, has nothing to say in her studies, is extremely popular, and is exquisite in all aspects. But one thing, I like clubbing and have countless boyfriends. Every weekend, there are different famous cars waiting for her at the school gate.

Cousin said that she gained a lot from being with that friend, but she kept pulling bars and nightclubs and met all kinds of men, fearing that she would become like her. Cousin is very upset. If you can't refuse your friend's bad aspects, should you abandon her?

I remember my experience when I was studying. A girl approached me on her own initiative because I was sunny. However, after being with her for a long time, I found that I had a little bit of her eyes. I like to look at problems from a negative perspective, and my words are easy to be mean. She kept telling me gossip about people around her, which made me feel that the world was getting darker and darker.

Once, she even picked a fault and asked me to face a girl. Finally, I decided to give up this person. Two people, either you influence her or she influences you, no matter how strong your ego is, it can't stand being destroyed again and again. Besides, you are still in the stage where your self has not yet formed.

Yes, we are all pickles. It's been there for a long time, and it smells like. Even if you resist this environment, you will inevitably be affected by it. Some things, some people, you don't touch, you don't know your vulnerability; Only when you settle down will you regret that you are not far away.

Some people say that the ego is strong and the environment is just? Me? Take off your coat if you like. I want to say that's because you haven't really entered this environment. When your body and mind are in the environment, the environment is your tattoo. You can't throw it away if you want.

Either you don't tattoo it, or you keep it with you.

★ Joint Point: Kimchi Effect

Living together for a long time, we will always become congenial. Just like the same pickles, they will taste different when soaked in different jars for a period of time, not to mention putting people in ABCD environment.

Some things, some people, you don't touch, you don't know your vulnerability; Only when you settle down will you regret that you are not far away.

The environment is your tattoo, and you can't get rid of it. Either you don't tattoo it, or you keep it with you.

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