Five secrets to prolong the shelf life of marriage

Xiaolan heard from her mother that her wife, who had a pair of lovely children with her cousin, suddenly said that she wanted a divorce, and she had no nostalgia for the children and the years of marriage. It turned out that my wife reunited with her first lover a few months ago and decided to divorce a few months later.

Xiaolan's mother murmured, "Your cousin has made so much money in recent years, and it's good to feed and live his wife and children. His wife is never soft on swiping cards. As a result, I heard that this first lover didn't have much money and a small monthly salary, but your wife chose her first lover. 」

Xiaolan remembers several times that her cousin complained that she was not interested and had nothing intimate to talk about. Although she can ask the maid to help her with the housework, there are still some things that she needs to deal with by herself, but when she says she is tired, her cousin never shows any self-attachment. Cousin said several times: maybe it's because the matchmaker's words are not free love, so she feels heartless.

Xiaolan felt very lonely when his wife said this. It's said that her first lover, though her income is not high, is very considerate, so even though her cousin personally apologized several times and asked her to go home, it's said that her wife was unmoved and insisted on divorce. Xiaolan can't help but think of her own situation. She and her husband have been "customer-oriented" for a long time. I remember that she got married after a passionate love. Why is this happening?

Sometimes Xiaolan hopes that her husband can ask her enthusiastically as before, but she feels like a roommate except occasionally when her husband wants to go to bed. Although I have to go to work during the day and take care of my children and family when I go home at night, I am very tired, but Xiaolan still hopes that there will be * * * between husband and wife. She also knew that her husband was not fooling around outside, but one day when she heard her husband say, "After a long time, husband and wife have changed from lovers to family. Lovers can change, but family members can't! " Although she knows that her husband said this sentence is an affirmation to his wife, she doesn't want to be just a "family" from now on, but she also wants to have * * *!

Reignite * * * 1. I always feel that novelty is cruel, but it's a fact that lovers get married. Xiao Tong, a gender expert, said that with the passage of time, everyone's age will increase and get old. It is impossible to stay in a state of * * * like a young man all the time. She suggested that couples should always keep fresh. She likes to take a pair of her good friends as examples. The 5-and 60-year-old friends are still inseparable.

Second, keep in good shape. My good friend Amore has been working hard to keep fit since last year. She never moved. She reports to the gym almost every day. Originally, her husband didn't think highly of her, and even blamed her for leaving a lot of housework to go to the gym. Even the children's homework has become his responsibility, and she is often told not to go. Unexpectedly, after only half a year, many good friends said that Amore had become beautiful.

I asked Amore, "Does your husband think you have changed? At that time, Amore called her husband "insensitive", and I was still sorry for her wrist. Not long after, Amore secretly told me that her husband later strictly controlled her dress. Every time she wears a short skirt, her husband will loudly say, "Is this too short? "Later, I couldn't help but praise her figure for getting better. Now I must hold her hand when I go out." Of course, from the beginning, he deliberately held my hand when crossing the road. We haven't held hands for a long time! 」

Amor said that since holding hands across the street, her husband has been holding her hand more and more often; For example, when a car passes by, her husband will deliberately hold her shoulder. Now slowly, she will hold her hand as soon as she goes out, and now she feels young again.

Third, we should communicate everything. Why do subsequent marriages treat each other as "guests"? In the past, it was considered good to treat people with courtesy, but the courtesy was too thoughtful and made people feel like outsiders. Marriage counselor Mai Lixin said that in fact, we should talk about some tacit understanding from the time of love. Don't wait until our relationship has fallen to freezing point in old age. If you want to melt each other again, you will feel unable to let go of your face and body.

Mai Lixin reminds: If couples feel that they have problems getting along, they must speak out. Maybe everyone will think that it may not be too big. It seems like a mountain out of a molehill, but in fact, marriage is to get along with each other every day, and all kinds of small things make a mickle.

So as long as you feel something is wrong, you should say it. "Talk" means not quarreling, but communicating. If you get into the habit of communicating from time to time when you are in a good relationship, you won't feel that communication is like quarreling. If we can talk about everything, our feelings will not fade away.

Four, often close contact with Hollywood star Brad Pitt and his close lover Angelina Jolie, often ignoring the camera lens, simply kissing and making out in public places. My good friend Lily and her husband are actually the same. Lily has been married for more than ten years and the relationship between husband and wife has always been inseparable. They just often ignore their friends. When you meet or want to be apart, you will hug and kiss warmly.

Lily said that the relationship between husband and wife can only last. When she was young, she was embarrassed that her husband wanted to kiss her at first, but later she found out that her husband was willing to show his love for her in front of everyone, in fact, he was also publicly announcing to other women: "I am a husband, she is * * *". Everyone saw that their feelings were so sweet that no one dared to interfere with their feelings so far.

When Tutu, the best friend of each other, is also a model couple who has been married for many years and still remembers her feelings, everyone asked Tutu about the way of marriage management, and she said, "Being the best friend of each other is the most important thing! Rabbit said that she and her husband talked about everything since childhood. Sometimes they don't necessarily agree with each other's opinions, but in this case, they will express their opinions to each other and often accept each other's opinions, making them more tactful in dealing with people. No wonder both of them are considered as good friends that everyone loves.