As the saying goes, "men pity their wives as soft as cotton, and women look forward to their ex-husbands as hard as iron." Are their predecessors all "big pig feet"?

This question is very interesting, but the old saying in the countryside should be: "Husband and wife are as hard as iron halfway, and husband and wife are as soft as cotton", but there is indeed a saying that "men cherish their wives and women look forward to their ex-husbands". I don't know if the subject intentionally confuses these two sentences or has his own understanding.

Let me first talk about the understanding that "husband and wife are as hard as iron halfway, and husband and wife are as soft as cotton from childhood". As the old saying goes, if you become a monk halfway, you are all adults, and adults will pay more attention to interests after going through everything. Both sides have their own small abacus, and the relationship is not as gentle and affectionate as when ignorant teenagers fall in love. If we have been together since childhood, and we know each other well and understand each other, plus we have been together for a long time and have experienced ups and downs together, this relationship between husband and wife will be very gentle and the two will be very affectionate.

"Men pity their ex-husbands, and women look forward to their ex-husbands" means that men who remarry after divorce will have a good impression on their later wives, because men are rational, have experienced loss, are more mature and will love their current partners more. If a woman remarries, it is easier to remember her ex-husband's kindness, because women are emotional and more emotional. After divorce and remarriage, if two people have a good relationship and marry less than her ex-husband, they will miss her ex-husband more. This is also due to the personality of men and women. Human nature is like this, and it has nothing to do with right or wrong.

But as far as the topic is concerned, "a man's wife is as soft as cotton, and a woman's ex-husband is as hard as iron" is to express that a man's attitude and character towards his remarried wife should be more gentle. First of all, they should cherish marriage more. Second, when they are mature, their temper will converge, and they will not be as hot as when they were young. And women remember that in their previous marriages, they really paid, but they didn't get what they wanted. Before the marriage broke up, a man was like a different person, talking about money and conditions, ruthless as steel.

Marriage is two people working together to maintain a happy relationship. Cherish it when you are together. Even if you want to part, you should bless each other, and don't totally deny it. After all, we have lived together and been with each other, and denying each other is actually denying ourselves. Marriage is not easy, please cherish it and wish everyone a happy marriage and a happy life.

That's my answer. Thank you.

As the saying goes, "it is difficult for an honest official to break housework." In family relations, it is actually a university question how husband and wife should live in harmony. Although the rural elderly do not have profound knowledge, after decades of worldly wisdom, they actually have a unique feeling about how to straighten out their feelings.

When they met a married couple, the old people privately advised the married couple: "The wife is as soft as cotton after the man pities, and the ex-husband is as hard as iron."

Why do you say "a wife is as soft as cotton after pity"? If only literally, we can understand it as follows: "After the second marriage, men will love their present wife very much and always treat her gently." Literally, this is a vivid Pan Renmei and a big pig's trotters! If you think so, you are all wet! The reasons are nothing more than the following:

The first reason: it takes two hands to applaud.

In life, we have all heard such a sentence: "Happiness is the same, but misfortune is different!" " A failed marriage will do serious harm to both men and women. After all, it takes two hands to make a sound. Not all failed marriages are mainly attributed to men.

The second reason: facing the pressure of reality, men must be rational.

In many people's minds, husband and wife need to communicate, and family is not a reasonable place, because they have reason, but they lose their feelings. So when you treat your lover, you should learn to turn a blind eye and not stare at your shortcomings. You will feel uncomfortable with long hair after watching it for a long time. It seems natural that women are more emotional and rational. In fact, this situation is hard-won. For men, they often have to face the pressure of reality, such as an old man, a young man and a wife in the middle. The pressure of life is everywhere. Faced with this pressure, men must rationally face the choice of life.

If the last marriage fails, men will reflect on their mistakes and make improvements in the next marriage. Only in this way can they maintain a new family and be qualified to pursue happiness again! Therefore, the phrase "a wife is as soft as cotton after pity" does not mean that the ancestors accused all divorced men of being big pig's hooves!

In the second half of the sentence, "Women look forward to their ex-husbands", literally we can understand this: "After the second marriage, women often recall the benefits of their ex-husbands and like to compare their ex-husbands with their current ones; After a long time, the relationship between the second married woman and the current husband has gradually become as hard as iron. " Literally, you may think that such a second-married woman is a "big pig's hoof"! Is the answer really that simple? Not necessarily!

One of the main reasons is that in feudal society, "men are the masters outside and women are the masters inside" is the mainstream consensus. In feudal society, land was the only way to create income; Farming is a man's strength, and women are in a weak position.

In order to survive better, this leads women to constantly seek strong support and constantly compare the advantages and disadvantages of their predecessors and current ones, and this idea naturally appears! Therefore, "women are as hard as iron as their ex-husbands" is not an irony that all women who get married twice are "big pig's hooves".

To sum up, from the sentence "a man's wife is as soft as cotton after pity, and a woman looks forward to her ex-husband as hard as iron", we can not only see the ancestors' earnest warnings to the younger generation, but also see that in a specific era, the status of women is very low. Therefore, we look back on the past not for curiosity, but for history!

Nowadays, marriage is free, and every marriage is hard-won; Not only the ex-wife, but also the ex-husband, it is not easy to get together. That is a kind of fate, a rare fate. Don't haggle too much, and don't be too strong. Learn to be tolerant and learn to think and deal with problems from each other's perspective. This is the best policy. For some older men and women, don't get married just to get married. After all, "a good meal is not afraid of being late", and I sincerely wish all lovers well!

From August, 2065438 to August, 2008, a group of expression packs of men carrying big pig's trotters became popular on the Internet, and the expression packs quickly became popular. Subsequently, the network term "big pig's hoof" became popular all over the network, and gradually evolved into a general term for men who broke their promises and immediately changed their faces after catching up with girls, and eventually became synonymous with their predecessors, regardless of gender.

So now we say that the former husband or wife left irresponsibly, which is a "big pig's hoof". Marriage is a major event in life, and the relationship between husband and wife can be said to be the most difficult relationship in the world. How many couples swear to each other when they are in love, but after they really become husband and wife, they can't stand the torture of daily necessities and choose to break up.

However, after some couples broke up, their lives have undergone earth-shaking changes. This is the origin of the rural proverb "A man's wife is as soft as cotton after pity, and a woman's ex-husband is as hard as iron". A man married a second wife after his divorce. He loves it too much to want it. He regards it as a treasure and won't let her do anything.

You just need your wife to be happy every day. Why do men do this? Because of guilt and not cherishing his ex-wife, he took everything his wife did for him for granted, which eventually led to his wife's heartbreak and chose to leave.

Everything is ready at home when my wife is here. There will be hot meals when you come back, and hot water to soak your feet at night. But after his wife left, the house became cold and there was no smell of fireworks. What's the point of living like this? So after he found a second wife, he wouldn't do whatever he wanted.

Moreover, if men really get married for the second time, they must be old and young, and the pressure of reality also makes them afraid to divorce their wives casually. The same thing happened to a woman who married her second husband, but often thought of the benefits of her ex-husband. When her ex-husband is around, she always helps him make breakfast silently.

Although there was not much money at that time, it is still warm to think of it now. And now the husband, in addition to money, really don't understand amorous feelings. When I was young, I was not sensible. I didn't begin to remember my ex-husband's kindness until I really got married.

This is "women expect their ex-husbands to be as hard as iron". That's what people do. Only when you lose something do you know how to cherish it, and you are often unwilling to treat it well. No comparison, no harm. It is because of comparison that women feel better than their ex-husbands. But everything is over, and what is lost will be lost eventually, and it is impossible to come back.

Remarriage happens occasionally, but after remarriage, both men and women are particularly uncomfortable. Therefore, the phrase "a man's wife is as soft as cotton, and a woman's ex-husband is as hard as iron" is ostensibly a layer of meaning. In fact, it is a warning to everyone that cherishing the present is king, and once it is lost, it will be regretted for a lifetime.

Every marriage is hard-won. It is a kind of fate that men and women in the world of mortals find their favorite object. What is the reason for "look at this mountain, look at that mountain"? People's desires can never be satisfied. If you fall into the whirlpool of desire and can't extricate yourself, it is doomed that you will have nothing in this life.

The first time I heard the word "big pig's feet", I read The Story of Yan Xi Palace. Everyone teased Nie Yuan that Emperor Qianlong was a "big pig's hoof" to describe his romantic feelings.

So, the meaning of the word big pig's feet is simple:

Emphasize that men are not single-minded, inconsistent with feelings, and their words don't count.

Comparatively speaking, women are more devoted to feelings, which sets off the truth that "men are all big pig's hooves".

Including "a man's wife is as soft as cotton after pity, and a woman's ex-husband is as hard as iron"—

That is to say, a man has great love for his newly married little wife, but he is ruthless to his ex-wife, which makes people lament the changes in his face.

However, I don't think so.

Emotion is not a constant thing. We should pay more attention to the feelings of the present than forever.

You should promise your feelings, but don't blindly believe in promises.

Just like Emperor Qianlong in The Story of Yan Xi Palace, he loves his wife's voice, but it doesn't prevent him from liking Suzhou talented women and pure princesses, and Wei has always been full of possessiveness and love. This is the feelings of the ancients and cannot be measured by today's standards.

Times have changed, so have our feelings and concepts. Don't cling to men.

I don't know what that means. I just cherish the present. There are many excellent and beautiful women in this world. But there are a few who can look at each other. The village was demolished when I got married. Three years later, my first house came down, my parents and my brother moved back, and it was three years since the second suite came down. By the time we move back, the child will be three years old. Special thanks to my wife for never giving up. Wandering with me for six years.

In the final analysis, love is just a spiritual opium. Only you know the feeling after smoking. My friend's sister is a beautiful, intelligent, warm and cheerful girl, and one of the best beauties in the company. Married to an executive of a company.

Senior executives are well-off, charming and handsome, and friends' sisters are as beautiful as honey. Like all marriages, the young couple respect each other, love each other, live in harmony and live a quiet and smooth life. A year later, their love crystallized and a baby was born. Having children makes their lives sweeter.

In an instant, the baby is two years old and everything is safe. But not long after, the original sweet little life was quickly broken by a disharmonious thing. It turns out that her husband, as a company executive, holds some real power in his hand, and he is handsome and natural. Of course, everyone is envious, especially those female colleagues, who try their best to curry favor with others, especially a young beauty, and often take advantage of his work to be nice to him. In the long run, the two developed feelings and made a big fuss about it. Finally, the two divorced and the house and children were awarded to her.

Although he has his own house, it is really inconvenient for his sister to take care of the children at work alone. So, after being introduced, I found a second married husband. Although this husband is not as good as his predecessor, he is more practical, straightforward and a little stubborn.

It is said that "men pity their wives as soft as cotton, and women look forward to their ex-husbands as hard as iron", but in fact, people who have been married twice have their own "careers" in their hearts, and they are generally not as single-minded as their first marriage. Why do you say that? Because both men and women have been married, and generally speaking, marriage symbolizes the maturity of life, which is the most unforgettable first time in my heart. "It's not easy to meet by chance in a vast sea of people, and what kind of fate it is to hold hands."

My friend's sister has divorced her predecessor and lives with her current "brother-in-law", but her predecessor called her sister more than once to say that she missed her children and wanted to take care of them. Sometimes when a child is ill, my sister takes the initiative to find her predecessor to see the child. Some time ago, the children were going to kindergarten, and they were still looking for a suitable kindergarten for their children. At the same time, his sister's "current" treatment of his sister is also "casual and casual". No matter what happens, you can spend whatever you want after you pay the completion capital at home, but your "pocket money" must be enough, and people will be reunited with their families every weekend.

We are deeply impressed by the ghost, but we also know that few people in this world can keep a lasting relationship, especially in today's advocating individuality and freedom. Start a new relationship and forget an old one. However, it is difficult to completely erase this old one from my heart.

Thanks to Wukong for inviting me! Thank you friends!

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As the saying goes, "it is difficult for an honest official to break housework." In family relations, it is actually a university question how husband and wife should live in harmony. Although many rural elderly people do not have profound knowledge, they actually have a unique understanding of how to straighten out their feelings after decades of worldly wisdom.

Especially when they meet a married couple, the old people will privately advise the married couple: "The wife is as soft as cotton after the man pities, and the ex-husband is as hard as iron." What does this proverb mean? Are all predecessors big pig's hooves? The answer is actually not that complicated!

Why do you say "a wife is as soft as cotton after pity"? If only literally, we can understand it as follows: "After the second marriage, men will love their present wife very much and always treat her gently." Literally, this is a vivid Pan Renmei and a big pig's trotters! If you think so, you are all wet! The reasons are nothing more than the following:

The first reason: it takes two hands to applaud.

In life, we have all heard such a sentence: "Happiness is the same, but misfortune is different!" " A failed marriage will do serious harm to both men and women. After all, it takes two hands to make a sound. Not all failed marriages are mainly attributed to men.

The second reason: in the face of realistic pressure, men must be rational.

In many people's minds, women are more emotional and male rationality seems to be taken for granted; In fact, this situation is hard-won. For men, they often have to face the pressure of reality, such as an old man, a young man and a wife in the middle. The pressure of life is everywhere. Faced with this pressure, men must rationally face the choice of life.

If the last marriage fails, men will reflect on their mistakes and make improvements in the next marriage. Only in this way can they maintain a new family and be qualified to pursue happiness again! Therefore, the phrase "a wife is as soft as cotton after pity" does not mean that the ancestors accused all divorced men of being big pig's hooves!

In the second half of the sentence, "Women look forward to their ex-husbands", literally we can understand this: "After the second marriage, women often recall the benefits of their ex-husbands and like to compare their ex-husbands with their current ones; After a long time, the relationship between the second married woman and the current husband has gradually become as hard as iron. " Literally, you may think that such a second-married woman is a "big pig's hoof"! Is the answer really that simple? Not necessarily!

One of the main reasons is that in feudal society, "men are the masters outside and women are the masters inside" is the mainstream consensus. In feudal society, land was the only way to create income; Farming is a man's strength, and women are in a weak position.

In order to survive better, this leads women to constantly seek strong support and constantly compare the advantages and disadvantages of their predecessors and current ones, and this idea naturally appears! Therefore, "women are as hard as iron as their ex-husbands" is not an irony that all women who get married twice are "big pig's hooves".

To sum up, from the sentence "a man's wife is as soft as cotton after pity, and a woman looks forward to her ex-husband as hard as iron", we can not only see the ancestors' earnest warnings to the younger generation, but also see that in a specific era, the status of women is very low. Therefore, we look back on the past not for curiosity, but for history!

Nowadays, marriage is free, and every marriage is hard-won; For some older men and women, don't get married just to get married. After all, "a good meal is not afraid of being late", and I sincerely wish all lovers well!

The rural proverb "a man's wife is soft as cotton after pity, and a woman's ex-husband is as hard as iron" means that after divorce, the husband and wife have completely different attitudes, and the man will forget the past and be kind to his remarried wife; A divorced and remarried wife can't forget the past and bears a grudge against her ex-husband.

This proverb shows the attitude of men and women towards marriage.

In other words, men tend to treat marriage rationally, while women are emotional animals, and it is difficult to give up marriage from beginning to end.

"Hard as iron" means hate. Sometimes "hate" is another expression of "love". There is a saying that "love is deep and hate is cut", and "stagnant water, stagnant water, neither love nor hate" is the most terrible.

It is generally believed that men change their minds easily, but they are very rational. In the eyes of these men, the highest state of marriage is "the red flag at home is not falling, but the red flag is fluttering outside", and treating women outside is more of a fling.

Therefore, men will feel guilty about the failure of marriage, and even after divorcing their ex-wives, they will not hate it.

Women are the opposite.

Men pay more attention to the present and reality. Once they remarry, they will enter the role, learn from the past and be kind to their remarried wives. Men pity their wives as soft as cotton.

Scientists believe that there are differences between men and women in accepting new things. Men accept quickly and forget quickly, which is what we call the fast-heating and fast-cooling type.

Women, on the other hand, are slow to accept things and forget them, belonging to the type of slow heat and slow cold.

In marriage, since men don't love, they will accept the reality and let go at once.

Women, on the other hand, are obsessed with the past, immersed in the past and unable to extricate themselves, so there is a feeling of complaining and looking forward to love.

The specific performance is pestering and worrying about her ex-husband, thinking that she has a feeling of suffering. (The woman looks at her ex-husband with iron eyes)

In addition, women are thoughtful, every detail will make her grateful or angry, and it is easy for them to enter the role of dissatisfied wife.

Every woman will never forget her first love, and women are more likely to stay at the original point, so they have a love-hate relationship with their ex-husbands and a feeling of constant confusion.

There are many such people in history. For example, in the book Water Margin, Yan Poxi, the outer room of Sung River, promised to divorce her, and Yan Poxi also found her lover Zhang Wenyuan, but Yan Poxi spared Sung River. She loved and hated Song Jiang and was finally killed.

The androgen flowing in men's blood determines everything, and their loyalty to marriage is far lower than that of women. I don't necessarily cherish what I get, but I care about what I lose. Once his ex-wife left her, she felt a sense of frustration, so she cherished her new life.

Women and men are just the opposite, and her ex-husband left a deep imprint on her. According to relevant data, children born to remarried women have the shadow of their ex-husbands. Scientists cannot explain why.

In a word, the physiological characteristics and personalities of men and women determine their attitudes towards marriage.

Things have yin and yang, and men and women are different, which has nothing to do with the predecessors being "big pig's hooves".

Text/candle reading spring and autumn

The literal meaning of the sentence "A man's wife is as soft as cotton after pity" means that a man will love his present wife very much and be gentle with her after his second marriage.

Men have to consider practical problems when facing a second marriage family. After all, he is the backbone of a family, with old and young, and the pressure of life is gradually increasing. The past has passed, and the future will continue. He can choose his present wife, and he is sure that she has the charm he values. He also hopes that being kind to her can win her love for her family, support herself and take care of everything at home.

As a middle-aged person, if you can't make your family stable, your happiness will drift away. Therefore, he needs to make a decision and treat the incumbent well.

"Women's expectations of their ex-husbands are as hard as iron" can be understood as "women often think of the benefits of their ex-husbands after their second marriage, and like to compare their current husbands with their ex-husbands and treat them coldly."

In real life, she will be happy if the current one is better than her ex-husband. If the incumbent is richer than her predecessor, she will miss her ex-husband deeply and neglect the incumbent, which will affect the present marriage.

People have to experience failure all their lives before they grow up and know what they really want. What should I do in the future?

When a person reorganizes his family, he faces many problems, especially the problem of disciplining two children, which will directly affect the feelings of two people.

As an adult, since we are married again, we should manage our present family wholeheartedly and grasp happiness. The past is over, although there will be a beautiful infatuation, but those have become the past. Only by facing the present correctly will happiness come.

These two sentences are about the emotional problems of the second-married family.

"A man's pity for his wife is as soft as cotton", which means that the man must love his wife more than his ex-wife, which is new after all.

One of the author's cousins is also a married family. He runs a factory. His ex-wife can be said to be his ruined wife, and he also has a boy with him, but such a wife is naturally stronger. Just at this time, an accountant in the factory often accompanied him and finally divorced. This accountant is his stepmother. Obviously, what he did was not recognized by his family, and his parents hated this accountant very much. But there is no way, the raw rice has been cooked, what should have happened still happened, and the accountant gave birth to a little girl with him.

"The woman looks forward to her ex-husband as iron", in the author's expression. After his wife divorced him, the child went to her. For a while, she didn't look for anyone, expecting him to change his mind. Until later, after my uncle and an accountant gave birth to a girl, my heart died and I resolutely remarried with my child.

So far, they have done a good job. Now, the children born to my uncle and ex-wife are going abroad to study for graduate students. Although the child is not with this uncle, he also pays most of the tuition fees. Only his mother is afraid that the boy will take someone else's surname after remarriage with his ex-wife. Because, although there are three brothers, the other two brothers are daughters, and there is only one boy among the grandchildren. He doesn't care if he changes his surname again, but his parents have a big opinion.

For men, ex-wives are generally scum wives, but scum wives are generally stronger. In China culture, strong women are not loved; Mistresses usually follow you after watching your ups and downs, and they are naturally charming and lovely, so men generally love mistresses. For a woman, giving all her youth to her ex-husband naturally gives her all her feelings; As for the remarried husband, he always feels shorter than others, which is not good.