Loneliness of adults: not even a speaker.

"The Collapse of Adults" and "The Life of Adults is Not Easy"

This is the most discussed word about adults in recent years.

When I mentioned these words, it was like an adult hiding his face and crying, lonely and lonely.

The difficulties of adults are not only the heavy pressure of life, but also the inner depression that no one tells.

Those words that can't be said will remain in your heart and will become lonely if you can't digest them.

The loneliness of adults is incomprehensible.

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Last year, the case of a pregnant woman falling off a cliff in Thailand caused a sensation.

Wang Ling (pseudonym), who was pregnant for more than three months, was pushed off the cliff by her husband Yu Dong (pseudonym), and her life and death hung by a thread.

After a year, Wang Ling, who was still able to walk, was interviewed by a reporter and told the story behind the incident.

Two years ago, Wang Ling and Yu Dong met at a friend's party in Thailand.

Before I met Wang, I worked hard alone in Thailand. During the period of starting a business, she met customers and ran factories every day. In her own words, she is in a state of high pressure every day and doesn't even have time to socialize.

Wang Ling's parents didn't understand a girl who started a business in a foreign country from the beginning, so Wang Ling didn't tell them about it. Happy or sad, no one to share, nowhere to tell, Wang Ling's loneliness is getting stronger and stronger, especially when things are not going well, she can only cry alone with the quilt.

The appearance of Yu Dong broke the lonely situation in Wang Ling. In Wang Ling's view, Yu Dong has a high EQ, can talk and get along well with her. No matter what she said, Yu Dong especially understood and agreed, which Wang Ling longed for for for a long time.

Two weeks after they met, they became lovers. After more than a month, Yudong proposed to Wang Ling. I didn't know him for two months, but at the instigation of Dong, Wang Ling stole the household registration book from home, keeping it from his parents and Yu Dong.

After marriage, Yu Dong began to ask Wang Ling for money frequently, and even borrowed money from others in the name of Wang Ling. Yudong didn't go to work, indulged in gaming and gambling, and asked Wang Ling for help to pay off a lot of debts. Wang Ling found that they were not the same people at all. But she did not pull back from the brink, and still stubbornly wanted to seize this marriage until the tragedy happened.

I think if Wang Ling had a friend who could talk to her, or if her parents could understand her better, Wang Ling wouldn't have come this far.

There is nothing wrong with Wang Ling's dream and love of her career. The success of her career brought her a sense of accomplishment. A powerful woman is invincible to outsiders, but when she is alone, loneliness is overwhelming to her.

She wants to talk to someone when something happens, but she doesn't know who to talk to. I needed someone to help me make up my mind, only to find that I was on my own. So the strong woman put all her eggs in one basket, only to meet the wrong person and bring disaster to herself.

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Stephen Chow is a household name. Famous directors, actors, producers, and many auras.

His early film A Chinese Odyssey is still talked about by people. The movie Mermaid directed a few years ago even created a box office myth of more than 3 billion. The nonsense film style also won him the title of master comedian, but the master comedian is funny in his plays, but he has a lonely soul in his heart.

Apart from making movies, Stephen Chow seldom talks and has few friends.

Shi Banyu, the voice of Stephen Chow, once said bluntly: He only has movies in his mind, so you can't talk to him about anything else.

It is because he devoted himself to movies that Stephen Chow remained alone in his later years.

In the face of an interview with Chai Jing, he lamented: "If I could do it all over again, I wouldn't be so busy."

In 20 13, Stephen Chow's Journey to the West: Demonization was released, and the movie poster said: Ten thousand years is too long. This slogan is regarded as a distant echo of the line "Hope is ten thousand years" in the movie A Chinese Odyssey.

Chai Jing interviewed Stephen Chow and asked, "Why did you use that line many years ago when you were filming a journey to the West?" "

Stephen Chow replied, "I may have a complex about these words."

"Can I understand that this is an irresponsible idea and I want to say this sentence at this time in my life?"

Stephen Chow said, "Yes."

For Chai Jing's understanding, Stephen Chow even said "thank you" twice.

Some people say that Stephen Chow had tears in his eyes when he said thank you.

"There was a sincere love before me. I didn't cherish it. I regret it when I lose it. The most painful thing in the world is this. If God can give me a second chance, I will say three words to that girl: I love you. If I have to add a deadline to this love, I hope it is 10,000 years. "

This is a line from 1992 Stephen Chow's film A Chinese Odyssey, which was written by Stephen Chow himself.

With the growth of age and experience, Stephen Chow has a new understanding of feelings, so he deliberately borrowed new movies to express his inner thoughts: 10,000 years is too long, so do what you want.

Rumor has it that Stephen Chow has been in love several times, but all of them have gone away. It is not difficult to see that being busy is one of the important reasons.

Because I am too busy, I can't take care of each other's emotions and feelings, I can't really understand others, and I can't let others understand myself.

At the publicity meeting of "The Demon of Journey to the West", Ma Yun asked Stephen Chow fans: "When will you get married? The audience cheered, and Stephen Chow paused for a moment before slowly saying, "I don't think I have a chance at my age." There is a sense of loneliness between words.

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I have seen a French film called Asphalte.

In a shabby house, there lived a boy, a middle-aged man and an old woman.

Boys ride bicycles to and from school alone every day; Middle-aged men live in seclusion and even exercise at home; The old lady goes out occasionally and sends cigarettes, coffee and sugar to her son in prison. They lived in silence until one day they met three other people.

The boy Charlie moved into the new woman's house across the hall. This person's name is Jenny, and she is a washed-up actress. Jenny is withdrawn and doesn't like to be disturbed. However, her life is constantly in chaos. She can't drive the elevator or forget her keys, and the boy always helps.

Jenny was drunk when she came home late at night. After a while, she burst into tears and kept shouting her lover's name. Seeing that Jenny, who has always been indifferent, is as fragile as a child at the moment, the boy chooses to accompany him silently. Jenny was very moved. The next morning, Jenny knocked on the boy's door for the first time and invited him to watch a movie together.

John, a young American astronaut, was forced to land on the ground because of a calculation error. He knocked on the door of Hameda, an old woman who lives alone. John was very nervous when he first arrived in a strange environment, but soon, the old man's kind and leisurely attitude relaxed him.

At a dinner party, the old man talked about his son's wet eyes. John saw the old man's loneliness and comforted her with songs that everything would be all right. Because of this unexpected visit, the old man enjoyed a brief "family happiness"

In the evening, Berkowitz, a middle-aged man in a wheelchair looking for food, met a female nurse smoking alone in the hospital. In order to look decent, he lied that he was a photographer.

However, on the night of the appointment to take pictures of the female nurse, he missed the time because of the elevator failure.

Berkowitz dragged his sick leg day by day. After seeing the female nurse again, he finally broke out and confessed that he was not a photographer she admired, had not photographed various celebrities and had no colorful life. He is just a poor guy who comes out to eat potato chips in the hospital vending machine at night.

Berkowitz's frankness touched the female nurses, and for the first time they had an emotional voice.

At the end of the film, with the encouragement of the boy, actress Jenny regained her confidence in performing and showed a smile on her lonely and sad face that she had never seen before. Hameda, an old woman, has new expectations for her son's return because of John's liberation. Berkowitz has made friends, maybe she can get a love.

Liang Shiqiu said: "Only immortals and beasts like loneliness, and people want friends."

There is no denying that a short loneliness can really bring a person inner peace and thinking; But long-term loneliness can cause loneliness and depression.

People's true feelings are actually waiting for their own Asphalte, waiting for someone who can understand themselves and communicate their inner feelings.

In this case, slow down the hurry.

Real understanding is by no means a friend in a circle of friends and a welcome in the business field.

Don't keep yourself so busy, leave some time for your heart and others.