A mother's accomplishment

I watched a video yesterday, and I was deeply touched.

A cleaner mother forced herself to become the "world champion" of pole dancing within two years in order to get the recognition of her children.

It is very exciting to watch her wonderful performance. Although I don't understand it, I also know that pole dancing is difficult to learn.

/kloc-The mother of a 0/3-year-old child is Lei Wenjiao, who turned out to be just a rural woman. After the divorce, she worked alone in the city. When she went back to see the children, the children refused to accept her.

In addition to sadness, she also turned sadness into action. In order to set an example for her children, she began to set goals. When she was a cleaner in a dance school, she regarded her salary as the tuition of pole dancing and trained while working. Two years later, she won the international pole dancing championship.

Lei Wenjiao just lightly ended this experience. Who can't imagine the hardships behind her? Now, she has completely changed. With her eyes, knowledge, appearance and vigor, where can we see that she used to be a clean rural woman?

Now, she has become the pride of children.

I used to chat with a friend, and she told me that it is not men but children who can change women.

Although some of this is absolute, it has been confirmed by Lei Wenjiao.

Women are weak, but mothers are strong.

This video inspired me to read a parenting book I read before last night. 99% of a boy's growth depends on his mother. I'm going to read it again.

In the circle of friends, some people question that these parenting books are reasonable, but they are difficult to implement.

Indeed, everything written in parenting books is idealistic. The children in those books are real angels. They respond appropriately to the implementation of each parenting plan. In fact, most children are bear angels, and they will not cooperate with you and echo each other to make this bildungsroman perfect.

what can I do?

Honey, don't worry, do exactly as the book says, and you really lose. It is better to believe in books than to have no books, and it is better not to read them.

Reading parenting books does not mean that we should follow the steps, because each child's personality and temper will grow up in different environments. However, most parenting books are the efforts of psychologists and parenting experts, and most of them are worth learning from. We just need to learn the parenting ideas in books, root those methods and ideas in our hearts, let ourselves pay close attention to children's education from the heart, and then combine the characteristics of children to explore the parenting experience that suits us.

Seeing the title of this book, some friends also raised objections: Is this book somewhat patriarchal? Why only refers to the growth of boys and not to the growth of children? Is it true that 99% of a girl's growth depends on her father?

In fact, there is no need to take reading so seriously, but I agree that the role of mother plays a vital role in the growth of all children, not just boys.

In history, we don't mention the mother-in-law's tattoo, Meng Mu's three tricks and Confucius' teachings. Even now, when we see a child is excellent, we often wonder what kind of mother he has. And seeing a Xiong Haizi making trouble everywhere, I often want to see what his mother looks like.

I thought of taking my children out to play with my sister the other day. The children haven't enjoyed themselves yet. It's not too late. My sister urged me to hurry back. On the way, I asked her what's the hurry? She said that she just wanted to leave there because there was a little girl who was full of dirty words and her mother acted like a sister. She doesn't want her child to stay with that child for too long. She learned to curse when she came back from playing with people last time.

I really can't blame my sister for being snobbish. Those who are close to ink are black, and those who are close to ink are black, and children have strong imitation ability. No one wants their children to learn some bad habits from children with bad habits.

I remember a friend who used to make fun of Xiao Ming's little son-in-law. I smiled and said, I am so poor, and you are still willing to marry my daughter. She said Xiao Ming was relieved to see you.

Haha, I am flattered by such a compliment.

I think there is a saying on the Internet that a man might as well see his mother before he marries a wife. Like mother, like daughter, what mother looks like, the daughter is probably not too far away. Although this is a bit extreme, it still makes sense on the whole.

Of course, it does not rule out that there are many girls in life who jump out of the shackles of their families, and living high is a day. We won't discuss this survivor bias theory today.

Yesterday, the children's kindergarten held a parent-teacher meeting. Before I left, my sister urged me. I said, wait, let me put on lipstick before I go. How can I embarrass Xiaoming?

The mother of her children's kindergarten classmates probably has the same idea. Although it is only a small parent-teacher conference, it can be seen that most mothers have tried their best to fight wild. Although they are not beautifully dressed, they are all well dressed.

There is a saying: the more fashionable the mother is, the more confident the child is.

I remembered the child of a colleague before. When I was in kindergarten, I always said to my colleagues: Can my third aunt pick me up every day? If you want to pick me up, you have to wear high heels and a floral umbrella like my third aunt.

It seems that the mother is dressed in fashion and beauty, and it is also a long face for her children.

Although children don't think their mother is ugly, which child doesn't want her mother to be young and beautiful and praised by her classmates? We raise children, don't we also like to hear others praise our children for their cleverness?

There is a saying: Women in China give up on themselves too early.

Today, I also discussed with a friend that some women are fashionable before marriage. After they get married and have children, they turn around their children all day, completely losing themselves and making no demands on the outside world.

This is absolutely unacceptable. The more the stove is, the more it tests a woman's attitude towards life.

05

I read the concept of parenting in this book again, and combined with various phenomena in life, I really feel that a mother has a great influence on her children.

The long and rugged road to educating children tests a mother's vision, wisdom and foresight.

Educate children to keep pace with the times. It is difficult for mothers to keep up with their children's growth if their thoughts are not improved and their concepts are not updated. If you leave your child's thinking, you can only be a nanny after a long time, and you will be looked down upon by your own children.

A competent mother doesn't always pay attention to her children. In addition to taking care of children's lives and guiding their studies, she also has her own life pursuit and unique views on life, so that she can be respected by children.

The famous educator Sodom Linsky said: Every moment, when you see a child, you see yourself; While you are educating your children, you are also educating yourself and testing your personality.

Children are a mirror of parents, and we all have to look at ourselves through our own children.

The position of mother does not need certification, and there is no uniform standard to measure it, but we should constantly improve our own quality, for the sake of our children and ourselves.