There are more and more children in kindergarten who love to be pretty! Correct guidance methods for parents during the aesthetically sensitive period

"Ai Ai, why are you using your mother's cosmetics and secretly wearing your mother's high heels?" As soon as the parents entered the bedroom, they found 5-year-old Ai Ai trying out her mother's cosmetics and holding her own I painted my little lips red with the lipstick I usually use for makeup, and I took out my mother’s new high-heeled shoes that I haven’t worn yet, ready to try them on!

"Mom, do I look good?" The child took the mirror and looked at it repeatedly, and smiled naughtily at the parents!

In a survey of kindergarten teachers, it was found that today’s children are becoming more and more precocious in their appearance and behavior. Teacher Chen, a kindergarten teacher in Changsha City, believes that some children in large classes now like to be pretty. Dress up, even imitate adults and wear a pair of high heels. Sometimes, they will compete with each other, who is dressed more beautifully today or who wears better shoes.

Case: Xiaomi is a five-year-old middle school student. One time, her grandma made her braids unsightly. As a result, she was laughed at by other children for a long time. So Xiaomi had to let her mother take care of her hair when she got home. He took her to the barber shop to get some new hairstyles, and he didn't go to school until he was satisfied.

Many parents find that when their children reach the age of four or five, they become very fond of beauty and particular about it, especially girls, who love beauty to the point of obsession.

Wearing mom’s high heels, using mom’s cosmetics, and opening mom’s closet to find new clothes are behaviors that many children will do not because they have become vain, but because their “aesthetically sensitive period” has arrived!

Children's aesthetically sensitive period is generally between 2.5 and 5 years old. At this stage, children have their own standards and requirements for new things, and they also become very particular about their own clothing and grooming. Sensitive and picky. For children, the aesthetic sensitive period is a necessary stage for the development of children's aesthetic ability and is of great significance to their growth.

The famous psychologist William James once said:

The improvement of aesthetics can make children become more sunny and confident, and gain more recognition and appreciation.

5-year-old children are in the sensitive period of their love for beauty. Children’s requirements for beauty are rising and developing in a spiral. Whether it is daily dressing or trivial life, as they grow older, they are all Certain changes are taking place.

Some parents are quite nervous about this. Influenced by traditional ideas, parents are afraid that their children will pay too much attention to dressing up and affect the development of other aspects.

In fact, at this stage, in addition to providing scientific and appropriate guidance to their children, parents also need to accompany and wait as much as possible. To spend the aesthetically sensitive period with your children, your children's education needs to be guided by the situation and subtly cultivate their dressing temperament and dress suitable for their own age.

1. Respect the child’s beauty-loving nature

Parents need to pay attention to the fact that this stage of the child requires us to understand and respect it. Everyone has the love for beauty, and this is not a bad phenomenon. If your child is used to appearing slovenly in front of others without knowing it, wearing ill-fitting and inappropriate clothes, then this means that the child’s beauty-loving nature has not been discovered and established, and their perception and judgment of beauty will not be fully developed. It has become more and more dull due to parents' lack of attention and ignorance.

Therefore, parents should fully understand the needs of their children at this stage, seize this critical period, teach their children correct and reasonable dressing needs, and cultivate their children's good aesthetic taste!

2. Help children expand the scope of beauty

Children’s love for beauty is a necessary stage of psychological development, and parents need to respect their children’s love for beauty. At the same time, we guide children to develop their own clothing beauty in a broader direction, such as calligraphy, painting, sports, photography, etc. that children are interested in. Try to enhance children's recognition and positioning of self-worth from multiple angles and channels. Instead of just improving on dressing up, you can take your children to appreciate the magnificence of nature and the beauty of museums in their spare time!

At the same time, children need to understand that true beauty is not only physical beauty, but the most important thing is spiritual beauty. The two are indispensable and can guide children to spend more time on other things. In terms of aspects, let children feel different beauties!

3. Don’t impose your own aesthetics on children

For humans, aesthetic standards are a relatively refined system. In addition to our daily dressing, quality and Taste also includes multi-faceted standards and requirements such as artistic appreciation, humanistic cultivation, and moral character.

When children establish their own aesthetic standards, they need parental guidance, but this does not mean that parents can impose their own aesthetic standards on their children.

In fact, some parents themselves have not established good aesthetic standards during their aesthetically sensitive period. If such a highly subjective aesthetic concept is forcibly instilled into their children, for example, "I think pink looks good." , then the child must wear pink."

Such requirements will not only hinder the formation and development of children's aesthetic ability, but also cause certain misunderstandings for children.

When today's children go to kindergarten, getting along with their classmates is also a process of learning and mutual influence. Clothes that parents think are good-looking may seem earthy and vulgar to children.

Therefore, parents must adopt an objective attitude, carefully observe their children in life, and provide their children with correct and objective guidance and education. Help children establish healthy and correct aesthetic concepts.

4. Resolutely stop children’s unreasonable needs

In the process of educating children, words are better than teaching by example!

When parents find that their children pay too much attention to external grooming, such as using cosmetics and clothes that are not suitable for them, they must first learn to self-examine whether they have done a good job for their children in their speech and behavior. set an example! Have you ever put on all kinds of heavy makeup and tried on various styles of clothes in front of your children at home? If so, try to avoid children next time when putting on makeup.

At the same time, children need to be told that adult cosmetics are not suitable for children's skin and will have bad effects on the skin. Children must be fresh and clean, so that everyone will like them.

When dressing up their children, parents should also pay attention to clothing that reflects the characteristics of the child's age and personality, and show the child's health and natural beauty. Especially when going to school, try to give the child a space to choose. This space is filled with clothing suitable for children.

Let them have their own right to choose, and at the same time, they can avoid clothes that are not suitable for them!