Matters needing attention of funeral guests

Although people don't want to talk about death, after all, birth, old age, illness and death are objective, and no one can escape. So what should I pay attention to when I invite you to dinner at the funeral? The following are some matters needing attention of funeral guests that I collected and sorted out, hoping to help you.

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Matters needing attention in funeral

First, the taboo of burying the dead.

1, satin fabrics are prohibited in the clothing of the deceased.

Old people are used to calling the clothes they wear after death? Shroud? After sixty, some old people began to prepare shroud.

The quantity and texture of the shroud are very particular. The number of pieces is generally odd, such as five, seven and nine, but not even; The material is mostly silk, because? Silk? And then what? Houzi? Homophonic, meaning many offspring, avoid using satin, because? Satin? With what? Bad boy? Homophonic.

2, the coffin taboo with willow.

Willows are forbidden in coffins. According to legend, it is because the willow tree does not bear fruit and is worried that it will never be seen again.

Second, the date of the funeral is forbidden to be chosen on the day of heavy mourning.

Chong sang means heavy, repeated and double, which means more than one funeral. Refers to the situation in which someone in his family or relatives dies one after another within 100 days or one year after death.

Custom pays attention to, the day of funeral must avoid the day of heavy mourning, so as to avoid the death of relatives at home again.

Third, during the period of filial piety, it is forbidden to visit relatives and friends, especially to attend happy events.

Within 0/00 days of the death of immediate family members, it is best to be filial at home. Don't travel, visit relatives and friends, etc. unless necessary. So as not to bring your sadness to others.

Especially weddings, business opening, celebrating the birth of babies and other happy events, it is best not to attend.

Fourth, during the period of filial piety, children should avoid wearing red and green.

During the mourning period, ancient children paid attention to wearing filial piety and white mourning clothes within 100 days; After a hundred days, wear dark clothes such as black and blue to show filial piety, and avoid wearing red and green heavy makeup.

In modern society, although many friends don't wear mourning clothes for so long because of work and life, they wear them instead? Filial piety? The word to be replaced; However, you still can't wear red with green.

Five, during the period of filial piety, children should not participate in recreational activities.

In ancient times, when parents died, children generally had to observe filial piety for three years. During these three years, marriage and auspicious celebrations are not allowed.

Ancient exquisiteness? Rule the world with filial piety? An official, no matter how old the official is, will take time off to go back to his ancestral home to fulfill his filial piety after his parents die. Ding, you? . If officials don't go back to their hometowns to observe filial piety, they may be impeached by the censor, punished, or even never hired.

If an official gets married, has children, breaks up, has fun, etc. During his anxiety, he will be regarded as unfilial and impeached.

In modern society, many people shorten the time of filial piety to one year or even less, but they are afraid that their children will have fun.

In the first year, the immediate family members died, so it is forbidden to post red couplets before the Spring Festival.

Sticking red couplets during the Spring Festival is a custom in most parts of China.

However, if a family member dies, it is forbidden to post red couplets in front of the door during the first Spring Festival.

Matters needing attention during mourning

(1) Wear simple and dignified clothes, don't wear jewelry, men don't wear trousers, women don't wear skirts, don't wear long hair, don't wear heavy makeup, especially don't wear slippers and show your toes, so be patient even in summer.

(2) During the wake, don't gossip, especially for future generations, and don't quarrel about the funeral of ancestors in the coffin shed. Even if future generations have great grievances, it is not too late to let the ancestors walk the last stop of their lives with dignity and then solve them.

(3) During the wake, men and women in the mourning shed should not be ambiguous, and there should be no promiscuity in the mourning shed, mourning hall and filial piety room, otherwise the light person will be unlucky, and the heavy person will die of lotus flower.

(4): During the wake, pregnant women, parturients and abortionists are not allowed to enter the mourning hall, even the lineal blood relatives of ancestors should avoid it. If you really can't avoid it, you have to leave. Pregnant women, parturients and abortionists must wear clothes with more than five colors in order to pay homage to the funeral.

(5): During the wake, if there are descendants who have not been married for a hundred days, the newlyweds must bring red, white and filial piety cloth to avoid be in heaven. As a result, not only the ancestors failed to travel westward smoothly, but also the descendants were affected by exhalation.

(6): During the wake, if the dead bodies of the ancestors smell, they should be dealt with immediately, and it is forbidden to say disgusting words. Otherwise, no matter how it is handled, the odor will not be reduced, but will be greatly enhanced.

(7): At the wake, if there are timid people, it is best not to go. This is the best way to avoid it. If you are frightened during the wake, it is the most difficult to collect your soul and the most difficult to recover.

(8): Both men and women can get married within 0/00 days of the mourning period/kloc; After 100 days, it is forbidden to get married on the third anniversary. Filial piety/kloc-within 0/00 days, if a newborn is born at home, it is necessary to worship the ancestors, tell the truth, avoid filial piety and put pressure on the newcomers.

(9): During the period of filial piety, ancestors should pay appropriate sacrifices on each memorial day and never forget it. If you forget, you should contact a trusted Tangkou master to help solve it. Especially seven? Seven-day sacrifice? And then what? Hundred days festival? Don't forget.

(10): During the period of filial piety, it would be better if ancestors reported their dreams and explained some things to future generations, and understood them according to their wishes. Never fool the dead, lest you get stuck in filial piety and be plagued by bad luck.

Matters needing attention of funeral guests

Note 1: punctuality

Now big cities are congested, unless you are the biggest boss and leader at the dinner table, if not, don't be late. China is a country of etiquette. Most people wait for everyone to eat. A dozen people are waiting for you. The longer they wait, the more they hate you. There are so many such things that they don't call you at all. Stop playing? The wolf is coming? It will take you 40 minutes to get there, but you haven't gone out yet, so you have to say that you are ten minutes short-these ten minutes add up, and no one will believe you anymore. In addition, the host should be the first to be present, and others should not go too early, appearing to have not eaten for months, and should not come later than the big leader. I'd rather go to the hotel to play mobile phone in advance and enter the venue five minutes earlier than the appointed time, so that everyone can't welcome you.

Note 2: Friends and business contacts

It doesn't matter where you eat, what matters is who you eat with; It doesn't matter what you eat, the key is to eat happily; It doesn't matter who pays the bill. What matters is that people at the same level should take turns sitting in the village. Of course, there are two kinds of people who never have to pay the bill: big leaders and invited people. The general principle is: whoever pays for dinner, whoever pays for the site, and whoever has more money pays for it. Otherwise, this circle is not as good as the first time, or consciously take turns to sit in the village. Maybe someone has paid for dinner with you ten times, but you have to invite him back three or four times, or you and your host always pay for it, but you have bought a small order three or four times.

Note 3: Be disciplined.

When someone brings you a cup, you twist it twice and pretend you can't drink it. Others take food, you take food, others stand up, you stand up. After the big boss toasts, you propose a toast. Be quiet when others are quiet. Others eat soup, you also eat soup.

Whenever we eat, it must be an organized, purposeful and local war. Bullets are aimed at conspicuous people, so there is always a good impression on those who obey the rules, so that others will call you next time.