They never said "I love you" all their lives, but they really loved each other all their lives.

Recently, I often think of a video that my cousin shared with you on WeChat a year ago:

The warm afternoon sunshine gently sprinkled on the ground. Grandpa, who is over eighty years old, is sitting in his "exclusive" dark red painted wooden chair in the living room, with his left arm resting on the same dark red table with no age, and his right hand leisurely sipping a cup full of big leaf tea and putting it down. Grandma standing at the table took a sip of the cup and put it down. When she remembered something, she said something to grandpa. If not, she drinks tea quietly. When she saw that Grandpa's cup was empty, she picked up the teapot and quickly filled it for Grandpa and herself. The sunshine is gentle, and the old man is serene and leisurely. This is a normal life scene for two people. It looked normal at that time, but now it hurts to think about it.

Six years ago, in May of 20 13, my grandparents traveled to Beijing and lived in a community arranged by my uncle. Several fitness equipment were installed in the square of the community, when our village was not popular. My 80-year-old grandmother longed to see those "strange foreign things" for the first time. She is full of curiosity and plays with them. My uncle and I were very nervous around her. I was afraid that something might happen to her, but my grandfather, who had been very serious in my heart, looked at my grandmother happily. At that time, I thought it was nothing. Now that I think about it, the coquetry eyes are no less affectionate than those of young couples, and they belong to their "post-80 s" version of "You are making trouble, he is laughing".

When they got married, I'm afraid few family members know. They won't take the initiative to mention their wedding to their children, and maybe children are too embarrassed to ask about their past. In that age when marriage depended entirely on "parents' orders and matchmakers' words", it was not they who decided two people's lifelong events. Maybe everything will be settled and they will get married one day. It's just that they would never have thought that the poor couple has become a big family of nearly 50 people in four generations today! It is amazing to think that these two old people with children and grandchildren don't even have a marriage certificate. Without legal restraint and protection, two people can walk hand in hand for more than 60 years with a simple wedding. What do they rely on?

Others may be puzzled, but for them, what does it matter if there is no paper engagement, no engagement ring and no grand wedding? Two people, Qi Xin, work together to take good care of and develop the family, which is better than anything else.

In that vigorous era, it was also a luxury to have children and lead a dull life. As an accountant in the village, grandpa should take care of things in the village and not delay farm work in the field, but in fact, most of them can only be managed by grandma's family inside and outside. Because of poverty, a small sweet potato, grandma had to be divided into three parts, one for her mother-in-law, one for her son and one for her daughter. Aunt accidentally dropped the sweet potato skin on the ground, so she quickly picked it up and stuffed it into her mouth. Grandma takes the children to do housework and farm work during the day and sews clothes and shoes at night, so ten fingers in one hand have long been deformed, with prominent joints and short and flat nails. But no matter how hard and tired the days are, grandma never complains, because grandpa is around, who supports her and is the backbone of grandma.

Grandpa never dared to kill chickens and fish all his life. Grandma prepared all the meals. It's not grandpa's male chauvinism, but grandma won't let grandpa do it. Grandma, who is deeply influenced by traditional ideas, thinks that walking around the stove should be a woman's business, but not a man's. But grandpa is in charge of everything at home. My aunt's dowry for my mother will be used to make a new quilt. As long as my grandmother tells him the size, the size of the color my grandfather bought can guarantee my grandmother's satisfaction.

Everyone in my family thinks my grandmother is "stubborn" and always sticks to the old society. Our impression is that the two of them never walked side by side when they went out. My grandfather has been in the front, and my grandmother followed behind with a distance of 100 meters. Even if there is a bicycle and motorcycle, it is grandpa's exclusive car. Grandma would rather go by herself than sit in the back seat of grandpa's car. However, my grandfather never practices "men are superior to women", and major family matters, especially children's marriage, are always discussed with grandma, who basically has the final say.

Sometimes I wonder how they get along. Grandpa is so "respected and unsmiling", but grandma is so "approachable and amiable". How can a seemingly opposite character not quarrel or even blush all his life? Come to think of it, everything is in time.

They traveled to Beijing that year, and I went to the Summer Palace with them. When my grandma and I walk forward with flying steps, grandma always looks around at the flowers and plants and inadvertently looks back. After a while, I stopped to "wait for your grandfather, he walks too slowly". I don't know my grandfather who is two years younger than my grandmother. In fact, his feet and physical strength are not as good as my grandmother's. In hindsight, I quickly found a place for my grandparents to rest. I opened the lid of my own water and handed it to my grandfather to drink, while teasing him: "Why are you not as good as me?" My tired grandfather picked up the cup, drank it and smiled happily. It has nothing to do with it. Although grandma "doesn't like it", she is actually worried about grandpa all the way, and grandpa enjoys taking care of her. The ups and downs of my life have come. Why should I care if you make fun of me?

It is the forbearance in grandma's character and the persistence of the old concept of "sticking to women's morality" that makes them stick to it; It is grandpa's open-minded and decent style of doing things, so that they can be honest with each other. They may never say "I love you" to each other in their whole lives. In the marriage without any vows, in the dullness without any sweet words, they supported each other and fell in love for a lifetime. Maybe everything is God's will. When Grandpa died, only Grandma was by his side.

According to the custom of my hometown, my grandfather will be given a five or seven holiday at home. That night, I dreamed of my grandfather: my grandmother slept soundly as usual in a single bed near the western wall in the middle room of their house. I saw my grandfather sitting by the bed looking at my grandmother. I asked my grandfather, "Are you worried about my grandmother?" Grandpa nodded and I said, "Don't worry, we will take good care of grandma!" " "Then I looked out of the window at the yard and looked back. Everything is empty.

My grandparents met in the cardamom years and spent more than 60 years in the Spring and Autumn Period. In the eyes of our younger generation, they are the representatives of the most beautiful love, and they will never be separated through thick and thin; They are the best love that my husband and wife pursue. They are honest with each other and never quarrel. They are the role models that our parents imitate, filial, virtuous and beautiful.

They are the love we yearn for, holding your hand and growing old with your son.