How to grasp the scale

How to grasp the scale? Please remember the following three iron laws:

1, hiding the sense of demand and creating a mysterious atmosphere

When chatting with girls, many boys easily walk into such a misunderstanding:

I want to express my sincerity and singleness, but I use too much force when chatting, giving girls a kind of pressure of "she must, she must not marry".

But what happened? Girls often don't receive your sincerity, but they will think you are too hungry.

So the taboo of chatting with girls is to make girls feel that they have eaten you.

It is no problem to meet a responsible girl. She will refuse you and say "Let's be friends". But when you meet an irresponsible girl, she will make a spare tire for you and hang you without delaying her riding a donkey to find a horse.

The key factor to grasp the sense of scale of gender relations is to show her life and not let her feel that "you are pursuing her".

To be honest, love comes from attraction, not tireless pursuit.

You have to show your life elements in the chat, show your personal value to the girl, and arouse her basic attraction and sexual impulse, so that the relationship between them can be logical.

Instead of caring about seconds for 24 hours, it is better to say "don't talk yet, my fingers itch to play the piano, and I will record it for you later" when the chat is hot.

Whether she is warm or cold to you, it is better to say, "I am very busy recently, and whether I can be promoted depends on the success or failure of this project."

Instead of being transparent, let's say, "I recently made a video of my previous trip into a vlog when she didn't feel anything for you." Please give some advice ~ "

The so-called good measure is actually whether you can effectively export your personal value, not your wishful thinking.

2. Moderately start learning to transfer driving rights.

Girls have a good impression on you, and occasionally driving to talk about shy topics is actually good for gender relations.

But you have to understand: the purpose of driving is not to speed up, but to see the scenery along the way. Try not to start without warning, and learn to give her the steering wheel.

"I want to have a baby with you in the future" is called hooliganism.

"If only my future children could have your big eyes." This is called bragging in the skin, and girls are happy to hear it.

At the same time, at the beginning of the chat, we must determine what a girl's taboo topic is, what is her acceptable bottom line in the chat, and remember to observe the girl's interest when she causes humorous topics. When a girl is not in the mood to joke with you, no matter how funny you are, she will get goose bumps.

Girls like a boy with a little humor very much and think it will be interesting to associate with such a boy.

But girls hate a skinny boy and think that "such a boy is not straight and reliable".

Remember one sentence: the biggest difference between "humor" and "skin" is that humor is that you can talk to girls about life, ideals and love through a vulgar truth. And "skin" is scratching boots and looking for trouble.

"It is said that all the beautiful women in Beijing are local, but in my opinion, you are an exception." It's called humor.

"You really look like one of my particularly beautiful ex-girlfriends." This is called pi.

Stop the car, look at the scenery, talk about childhood and talk about the future. Arrows can be shot out and pulled back, which is the best sense of scale in sex chat.

Third. Correct identity and take social measures.

When chatting with a girl, the most feared behavior is that you restrict her freedom as a "prospective boyfriend" before she has established a relationship with you or even the will to associate.

When the girl didn't reply to your message, you were in a hurry and asked her, "What did you do just now? Why don't you return to my WeChat? "

You think you care about her, but it really makes her speechless.

When a girl goes out to play with another boy, your jealousy is overturned. You ask her, "Why do you want to go out to play with him?" ? Not me? "

You think you care about her, but it really confuses her.

When a girl doesn't want to accept your gift and date you, you are so angry that you ask her, "I am so good to you, why don't you stay with me?"

You think you are touched, but it really makes her feel rejected.

Boys, remember one sentence: she just gave you a chance to get to know her by chatting with you. She is not your girlfriend, and you have no right to restrict her freedom.

The best appropriate limit in social interaction is actually to give each other 5 points of enthusiasm and leave 5 points of enthusiasm for yourself.

The wrong social scale is: you have not fulfilled your obligations, but you have to enjoy the rights of your boyfriend.

The correct social scale is: release your enthusiasm and responsibility reasonably, and let her subconsciously treat you as a boyfriend.

In other words, only when a girl gives feedback on your enthusiasm can you give her more love. When she is indifferent to you, there is no need to stick a hot face on a cold ass, but to enhance her charm and make her feel that "you are the best choice for choosing a spouse at present."

Are you clear?