Make a fatal mistake from the beginning to teach you how to chat with Momo WeChat!

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As the saying goes, "Know yourself and know yourself, and you will win every battle". This sentence was originally used on the battlefield, and you need to know the enemy you are facing deeply. Now, I will teach you to use it on girls.

Recently, I saw many PUA's faces were distressed when chatting with Mo Mo, and they didn't know how to continue the chat. Some of them made fatal mistakes at the beginning, for example, they liked to play jokes on girls at the beginning, some didn't know how to start, some didn't know what topic to talk about, and some didn't know how to attract girls. Here I want to share my thoughts and experiences, hoping to help you.

generally speaking, chatting like momo wechat is called networking, which is divided into three parts: 1. prologue 2. expanding the topic 3. closing the number.

First, the importance of the opening remarks

Let's talk about the opening remarks first. It is very important to have a good opening remarks. As the saying goes, a good beginning is half the battle. If there is no good opening remarks, girls will naturally not be attracted and will not pay attention to you; Some of them don't look back, and some simply don't look at it. The reason is that your opening remarks are not enough to attract her, such as what we often see, hello, can I know you, etc. Put yourself in the other's shoes and think about how you would react if you were a girl. You should know that girls who like to play Mo Mo are often accosted. They have more knowledge and experience in ordinary opening remarks, so just skip those who don't like them. So what kind of opening remarks are attractive enough? . Here I listed several opening remarks with high response rate,

2. Classic opening remarks

1. Arouse girls' curiosity. This is very important, for example, uh, your head. . Uh ... . Your clothes, etc. (This opening remark is very useful, and ordinary girls will be curious to reply, what happened to my head/clothes).

2. See the confession. I was surprised to see that the age of the girl Mo Mo was written relatively large or relatively small, such as 5~1 and 1~18. Hello, fairy sister! Or how are you? (Generally, girls will smile back or ask a question mark, and some will play role-playing with you).

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3. Look at the pictures and talk. If your X photo seems to be the legendary X, or I have been to this place in your X picture, where did you buy that thing in your X picture, etc., remember to add your own feelings and opinions after you finish (this opening remark is generally applicable to girls with bright pictures).

4. praise and care. Some girls have puppies and kittens and children's pictures, so you can praise them appropriately. Your puppy is so cute and looks so cute. How old is it? Children are so cute. You look like you like children very much./You look very kind and should be very popular with children. . Remember, after the compliment, be sure to ask the other person's opinion and opinion. Otherwise, some girls will think that you are deliberately complimenting her after you praise her, and usually skip it without looking at it. . (Because girls who often play Mo Mo hear too many compliments, they will show disdain for these compliments, so it is very important to remember to ask each other's opinions and opinions.).

5. exaggeration and intentional misinterpretation. If your bangs are invincible in ancient times, your skin is so white. I can hardly open my eyes, and so on (this follow-up is not good, it is necessary to test your ability to pick up words). Remember, don't dwell too much on the opening remarks after the chat starts, and cut to the next topic when the time is ripe.

6. A diversion. Send her three words "you are crazy" or you are a bad guy, and the other party will definitely feel puzzled and will definitely reply to you. Although you don't know her, it's a good choice to get her attention.

Third, how to expand the topic

(1) Expanding the topic can be divided into three stages: primary stage, intermediate stage and advanced stage.

1. Primary stage. That is, at the stage of just knowing each other, we are not familiar with each other. At this time, it is best not to make jokes casually. Some girls will be disgusted, but a proper humor is still ok.

2. Intermediate stage. The two sides are gradually getting to know each other, knowing what kind of person the other is, they can let go a little moderately, and the scale of jokes can be bigger. Remember, but don't overdo it (especially the topic about sex). Even open girls can't adapt, because they haven't reached the stage of familiarity.

3. Finally, the advanced stage is also called the in-depth stage. At this time, the directionality and depth of the topic can be aggravated, because we are already familiar with each other. . Within her acceptable range, she can tease each other appropriately, make jokes and win the favor of each other. If you joke casually when you come up, the average girl's first reaction will be very surprised, and she will think that you are such a person, not serious or an idiot. This is mainly because girls are generally very self-protective and will not accept strange boys casually. Both sides must have a preliminary understanding stage, and at this stage, they must not joke casually from the beginning. We must first throw some appropriate topics to test each other's details. After you have a preliminary understanding, you can have a proper humor, and the cold reading method is only applicable to this stage-the intermediate stage, not to any stage, so the stage of chatting up is very important, and it is necessary to step by step.

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(2) Selectivity of topic

Many men are worried that there is no topic to talk about, and some people will be overwhelmed when it comes to finding a topic. In fact, the topic itself is not what you are talking about, but whether you are interested in MM itself. This is the most important thing. As long as she is interested, you can talk about any topic. As for how to talk, it depends on your play. Remember, don't talk too much in the process of chatting, otherwise MM will feel stressed. Speaking of this, we might as well look back at our own chat-up experience. Do you find the following similarities, that is, when you feel speechless, you especially like to ask MM questions, such as:

"What do you do?"

"where are you from?"

"Do you come here often?"

"what do you usually like?"

"Are you alone?

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If you use an interview to explain the chat-up, everyone will immediately understand how wrong this conversation is-how can candidates keep asking questions to the examiner? Are people choosing you or are you choosing others?

This is a very simple and obvious truth, but it has always been ignored by everyone. The root cause is that you are confused by the courtesy and politeness of the other party because you have too little experience with strange MM. The result is that before you know it, you have entered the blacklist of boring men.

Applying the theory can also be explained as follows: Asking questions to the other person means being interested in her (IOI), so when the other person is not interested in responding, but you keep asking questions, it becomes your own low-value display (DLV).

The perfect conversation only asks two questions: start one, such as "I want to know you" or "Have you eaten"; One at the end, such as "your phone" or "meet"; The middle process requires all dialogue or she asks me to answer.

It's not easy to do this, but once it's done, you'll find that the success rate of chatting up people will be greatly improved, and most of them want valid numbers.

how can such a goal be achieved? Or how to "talk more" after "asking less"? My suggestion is associative and divergent thinking. Because they are strangers and have limited understanding of each other, we should seize every keyword thrown by the other party in time and start the topic. Don't ask a series of irrelevant questions. In the end, you know her a lot of superficial fur, and she thinks you are actually a straw bag. OK, this chat-up will never work. Here's an example. . Last time I met an 8-point beauty in Momo, after a primary chat, I began to ask her name, and she said humorously, "My name is music. If I say, "Music, is your occupation related to music?" This is another mistake of asking questions and letting the topic go at the same time. At this time, the other party will definitely find chatting with me boring and always ask questions. The essence of our chat is to make girls feel comfortable and not oppressive when chatting with us.

this is my answer;

"Oh, hello, music, then my name is architecture. It is said that architecture is solidified music, and music is flowing architecture. Does it mean that I solidified as soon as I saw you, and you slipped away as soon as you saw me? "(Seize the opportunity given by the other party to make a joke, instead of making a blunt and nonsense joke).

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(3) Keywords

Pay attention to the chat itself, not the topic. Many people don't know how to chat with girls, and often there is no topic when they talk. And I think: chatting doesn't need to prepare a topic at all! Topic-based chat method: When we chat, we always want to focus on the topic we thought in advance, but we don't pay attention to the chat itself. So we often have the following situations:

For example: Me: Have you eaten? (bring up a topic)

MM: Eat me: What are you doing? (Bring up another topic)

MM: Get online. Me: Is the weather good there? (Bring up another topic) MM: Not bad. Me: Are you busy recently? (bring up another topic)

MM: I'm not busy. . . . (There is no topic to talk about, because the topic is always finished)

I: Oh, well, I just want to call and ask what you are doing, so you can continue to be busy. Bye-bye

MM: Bye-bye

Because at this time, your mind is always thinking, what should I say? What topics should I talk with MM? This often leads to a dead end. When you finish the topic prepared in advance, you will find that you are dumb!

keyword chat: For example, I: Have you eaten? (bring up a topic) (key words: have dinner)

MM: Yes, I did. What did I eat? (triggered by key words eating)

MM: Beef noodles Me: Did you make it yourself? (triggered by the keyword rice)

MM: Beef noodles Me: Did you make it yourself? (triggered by keyword rice)

MM: I can't cook, but I bought it (keyword: I can't cook)

Me: You can't cook. A girl can't even cook. It depends on how you get married (caused by keyword's inability to cook, a new keyword is married)

MM: I don't want to do it. It used to be done by my mother (keyword: before) (A new keyword, Grow up Wife, was triggered by the keyword before)

MM: I haven't decided to get married yet. . . (Key words marry)

Me: Does your mother love you very much (a new key word pain is caused by the key word mother)

MM: My mother loves me very much. I am the youngest. Of course it hurts me (key words: smallest)

Me: You are the youngest? You still have brothers and sisters? (A new keyword, brothers and sisters, is triggered by the smallest keyword)

MM: My sister, BLABLABLAL. . . . (A lot) When I came here, I found that the keywords here were almost used. I immediately returned to the keyword "marriage" in the earlier conversation. Here, I can chat with the keywords that appeared in the conversation between the upper and upper levels! Me: haven't you thought about what kind of person you want to marry yet? (triggered by the keyword marriage)

MM: I haven't decided yet. . . . (a lot) (key words: I don't know)

Me: What's your standard? (triggered by the keyword not thinking well)

MM: My standard is. . BLABLABLAL。 . . . At this time, I found that there are no keywords in what she said, or the keywords here are not conducive to you to start the topic and immediately return to the keywords in the earlier conversation to start chatting! For example, the keyword "buy" in line 6

I: Do you like shopping? Do you like shopping? (New keyword shopping is triggered by earlier keyword buying)

MM: Like it, super like it (keyword: like it)

Me: What else do you like? (triggered by keyword like)

MM: I like singing, swimming and traveling (new keywords appear: singing, swimming and traveling)

Me: Oh, you like singing. Whose songs do you like to sing?

MM：。 . . . .

me: Oh, you like swimming. Can you swim? How is your swimming skill? Where do you usually swim?

MM：。 . . . . . .

me: Oh, you like traveling. Where have you been? How do you feel?

MM：。 . . . . Don't dwell on a keyword all the time, grab a keyword and start chatting to a certain extent! Go back to the last keyword and start chatting to a certain extent. Stop! Go back to the last keyword in the middle of the chat and continue talking. Stop! Go back to the top and start chatting with the last keyword to a certain extent. Stop! Go back to the previous keyword chat. . . . . . You will find that you didn't prepare any topics during the whole chat, and the chat itself will bring you countless topics! You don't need to be ready to start chatting anytime, anywhere. You won't be under pressure. You won't rack your brains to think about what I should talk about. Because you will have so many topics that you don't know what to choose to talk about. What's important is that you have something to say and have entered a good chat atmosphere. It doesn't matter what you talk to MM, what's important is that in this atmosphere, it is fun, fun and humorous. Of course, this series of verbosity seems to have no focus and no nutrition at all, but what I want to say is that this is just an example, so that AFC people who have only a few words when talking to girls can have something to say, so as not to be cold, and I won't keep asking questions like this. This process should be interactive. I can only say that this is just a skeleton for chatting, and to make chatting interesting, we must join the framework, push and pull, and be cold.

(4) the atmosphere of chatting

On the other hand, I think what topic to talk about is the second, and the real key lies in the "atmosphere". When I chat with my sister, I can't carve.