For children, the biggest misfortune is what five kinds of families do they live in?

It's really worrying to talk to my best friend about the drama "Everything is OK". We spit out the defeat of our second brother Su Mingcheng and lamented Su Mingzhe's cowardice, poor Su Mingyu's miserable childhood and Su Daqiang's affectation. Every character in this play reflects the different influences of different childhood on children.

The second brother Su Mingcheng is loved by his mother. He won't give anything as long as he wants. His sister Su Mingyu was bullied and abused by her mother and her second brother. Her mother's strength made her afraid to be nice to her. Even if she was admitted to Tsinghua, she wouldn't be allowed to study. Her mother can give her money to travel to her second brother, but she won't give her money to buy information. Her eldest brother Su Mingzhe has been addicted to reading for a long time and wants to study abroad, but she is also controlled by her mother's strength, thus forming this cowardly character.

How a family treats children can be seen from children. The child is a mirror, constantly reflecting the educational achievements of parents. If you think there is something wrong with your child, parents should also reflect on whether there is something wrong with their education methods.

Happy families are always similar, but unhappy families are always different. The following family patterns are simply children's misfortunes:

1, nagging mother

Every winter and summer vacation, the children will vomit a stalk: I just got home and my mother greeted me. After a long time, their mother will start nagging. Their mothers will nag their children not to go out to exercise and stay at home every day. When their children go out to play, their mothers nag them to play outside every day. In short, no matter what children do, they can find something to nag about.

Although I know that many of my mother's nagging is for my own good, boredom always arouses my rebellious mentality. Some mothers say ugly things, and often complain about their families, husbands and children, always saying how difficult they are. Children live in a family full of grievances every day. Where does happiness come from?

2. A strict father

Since ancient times, strict father has been the educational principle of loving mothers, but now it is in the form of "cat, father and tiger". When a child makes a mistake, the mother will educate the child, and the father will coax the child afterwards. Relatively speaking, families with "cats, parents and tigers" will be more effective in educating their children. Mothers are close to their children. Even if they are strict in educating their children, they will be close to their mothers afterwards, but fathers are different. Many children are no longer willing to be close to their fathers after being bullied by their fathers.

Dad shouldn't play an overly strict role. If he is too strict with his children, it will not only fail to educate them, but will have a negative impact on them. A truly qualified father should constantly switch between the roles of brother and father and son, talk about everything with his son and be his daughter's umbrella.

3. Utilitarianism family

"You don't study hard, what will you do in the future? The hope of the whole family is on you. " This sentence is what Zhu Lusha's mother often said to her daughter in "Taking Dad to Study Abroad". The family that said this sentence is too utilitarian, which is not conducive to the growth of children and the development of mental health.

Many families regard grades as the only topic with their children. When parents communicate with their children, they will end up learning this topic. Parents are worried about their children's study and eager to know about their recent study, but they don't know how to discuss this topic with their children. They will express their anxiety and anxiety as their attitude towards children's learning, and even communicate in the wrong way. In the end, it will only make children hate learning more, unwilling to discuss this topic, and close themselves up.

Parents should not say similar things to their children. This puts a lot of pressure on children. Many family tragedies begin here, so parents should learn how to communicate with their children and discuss embarrassing topics with them in the right way.

4. Workaholic family

Parents want to create good conditions for their children, work hard to make money, and let their children go to the best schools, the best cram schools, the most expensive interest classes, and work day and night. But did parents find that they satisfied their children materially, but spiritually? Where are you when your child needs company most? What do children want besides those things that money can buy?

A workaholic family is very insecure for children. Children can't feel the companionship and love of their parents, and no amount of material satisfaction can compare with the companionship given by their parents.

5. Excessive background

I have to say that families with backgrounds now have more green channels than ordinary children, and teachers and leaders will pay more attention to such children. Parents are eager to prove themselves and try to give their children the best conditions, but the children know what their parents are like and play with them outside. For a long time, children can't see their true self and don't know which one is their true self. They are arrogant in front of poor families and like to be superior to others, but they will only be respectful in front of good families and form two faces.