Li Jian fell from the altar? After 20 years of marriage, I have always been a dink, not buying a house: too sober or irresponsible?

Li Jian, a "music poet", is a magical existence.

Among singers, he will always be a minority, but he can't be ignored.

When I was a member of Shui Mu Nianhua Group, I became famous all over the country with a song "I have you all my life".

However, due to different musical concepts, it is said that the group did not want to do pure commercial music, and the group was dissolved.

This dissolution has quietly disappeared in front of the public for ten years.

I'm back on "I'm a singer". His musical style, his attitude towards music, his "walking hand" and his emotional and sincere singing made impetuous audience see a trace of peace and tranquility.

He is a maverick, and the big names in the music world invite heavyweight guests just to get the title of "King of Songs".

It's just that he invited Yun-peng Yue who has no musical background. What he cares about is not the eyes of the outside world, but the songs he wants to sing.

Some brands of wine and drinks sought his endorsement, and Li Jian did not accept millions of endorsement fees. He thinks it is unhealthy to drink and often drink, so he is unwilling to pay the money.

When other singers became popular after participating in this program, they kept signing new brokerage contracts, taking advantage of the current popularity and seeking greater economic benefits for themselves.

Li Jian has gone on a trip. His statement is: the more you are surrounded by fame and fortune, the more sober you must be.

Fame and fortune, people die for money, birds die for food. How many people can cross this threshold?

Li Jian usually likes fitness, reading, traveling and composing music. He has been elevated to a very high position in the public mind, but recently Li Jian was accused of falling from the altar.

Some netizens believe that Li Jian has been married for many years, but she has always insisted on Dink and refused to buy a house. This kind of behavior is irresponsible to the woman and fails to fulfill her instinctive obligation as a human being.

Obviously rich, I still don't want to buy a house. This attitude of eating, drinking and having fun makes it difficult for netizens to understand.

Li Jian once said in an interview, "I don't think my genes are so good that I have to pass them on." Come to this world and want to live high. "

Speaking of buying a house, "I didn't buy a house, but I bought a lot of guitars. Buying a guitar is more enjoyable than buying a house."

"Who are you concerned about? Everyone is different, but it is understandable if people pursue houses and cars. But I don't really care, when I have no conditions. "

If Li Jian's early economic situation is not so good that it can't afford to buy a house, the public can understand. But after success, income soared, why not buy a house?

Some netizens don't understand that Li Jian is not too sober but lacks a sense of responsibility.

These two completely different and exclusive ideas are quite interesting. These are also two mainstream concepts at present, which are worth discussing.

Li Jian's wife has a lovely name "Little Shell".

When Li Jian/KLOC-0 was 0/0 years old, he met Meng Xiaobei, a 5-year-old "little shell".

Small shell looks like a doll when she is 5 years old, sweet and lovely.

Li Jian's father said that the little shell looks like a little Russian girl with thick curly hair and mixed-race eyes. She is a CIS girl.

The two children are ignorant and have no feelings. At that time, they were too young and immature to have the complicated feelings of adults like Seeds of Love.

We met again at a wedding in high school. Small shell has grown into a slim girl. This time, the small shell planted a wonderful seed in Li Jian's heart.

When it comes to who is after whom, Li Jian said that they are attracted to each other. The gas field is the same, the feelings are the same, and naturally they come together.

Li Jian is five years younger than Xiao Bei and has been helping Xiao Bei with his homework.

But then I wouldn't be a tutor, and she became a female doctor. I can't understand the book she is reading.

He has a saying about marriage, "A good marriage will make people stronger, and a bad marriage will make people worse." I found that some music singers have a stagnant career and have a lot to do with their partners. In fact, two people grew up together and influenced each other. The appearance before the age of 30 is still inherited by parents. After 3 1 year-old, it depends on yourself and your own situation. "

When Li Jian finishes writing a song, Xiao Bei will be the first person to hear it and give him suggestions for revision.

Li Jian said, "She is better than me."

Meng Xiaobei's life shows us a talented woman who can cook foreign dishes, play the piano, take photos, arrange flowers, grow flowers, make tea and translate poems of foreign poets.

Every transformation of Li Jian, she silently supported behind her back.

When Li Jian was worried that there was no way to maintain a higher income and a stable income to give them a stable life after leaving the group, Meng Xiaobei told him: "Go the way you want, don't consider me."

If Meng Xiaobei resolutely refuses to support it, Li Jian may have one more fork in the road. However, the woman he met was so supportive.

Their marriage is stronger for Li Jian and influences each other.

Meng Xiaobei, like Li Jian, is also a graduate of Tsinghua University. From them, there is no worldly money breath, but it is full of books.

Li Jian worked in the State Administration of Radio, Film and Television after graduation. He could have fallen in love at first sight. Like many young people, they don't want to live this life and want to explore the infinite possibilities of life.

With a monthly salary of 4,000 yuan and excellent benefits, people were trying to grab jobs at that time and now.

However, Li Jian resigned and entered the music circle with his dream.

Li Jian wants Dink, and Meng Xiaobei supports it. Some netizens spit out "Let your wife come out if you are not angry. Many people are good. "

Li Jian responded: "I don't think it is necessary to continue my genes. It's no big deal, nor is it an endangered species. "

It is the instinct of many people, especially men, to continue genes. There is a paranoid insistence on heredity.

Dinks have different ideas, and neither side can convince the other.

Li Jian once said, "Be flexible and pay attention to it, as long as you are comfortable." .

From his words and deeds, it can be analyzed that he is a person with extremely rich inner feelings and spiritual world.

He wants to explore himself and find the meaning of life. Take a different road, a completely different road from the public.

We can't tell which idea is absolutely right and which idea is absolutely wrong.

If we go back to the ego, some people want to find the meaning of their existence.

I don't want to follow the crowd. Even if you do something slowly, you should think it over before you do it.

Instead of listening to others in a muddle, knowing nothing and doing nothing, is this irresponsible to yourself?

Back to the topic of human reproduction, it is the instinct of most people to reproduce. If no children are born, will a group gradually die out?

I'm also confused about which concept is correct. These two concepts are tug of war. On the one hand, they want to be liberated and seek liberation, on the other hand, they have a heavy responsibility. Which one should I choose?

Li Jian hasn't bought a house until now. Everyone can understand when the economic level is poor. But the economic level is high, why not buy a house?

In his home, we can see many records and books. There are no high-tech home appliances, only fitness equipment.

He doesn't play smart phones, and he doesn't surf the Internet much. His time is spent reading, composing music and savoring life.

In his early years, he spent all his money on guitars and musical instruments, which were very expensive.

He said, "Desire trumps reason".

It's not that he doesn't know that buying a house is more practical and renting a house is unsafe, especially when a man's marriage involves buying a house and a car.

However, Li Jian still chose to follow his heart and roam in the world of music. No matter what the outside world says or thinks, no matter whether the money is tight or not.

Li Jian thinks that buying a guitar can make him happier than buying a house, which is his idea.

There used to be a controversial saying, "I would rather cry in a BMW than laugh in the back seat of a bicycle."

Then Li Jian may be the one who can laugh in the back seat of a bicycle.

Everyone has different pursuits and different logical views, so it is not so easy to understand each other.

Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei especially like drinking tea and chatting in the teahouse. This is their happy time.

Everyone likes reading books and discussing life. "A friendship between gentlemen is as light as water" is poetic and carefree.

Meng Xiaobei is an independent woman in spirit and economy. Beneath her seemingly gentle appearance, she is a very strong heart. Seemingly behind Li Jian, in fact, "moisten things silently".

How many couples have nothing to say after seven years of itching and ten years of pain.

But it is extremely difficult for the two of them to maintain long-term spiritual contact.

It is difficult for onlookers to understand and empathize with other people's marriage feelings. Everyone has his own way to go.

Do you choose to live in the mouth and eyes of others, or do you choose to live your true self according to your own heart and find the meaning of life?

There is no standard answer.

Many people have lost their way and lost themselves in this era. Unprecedented confusion and loss have made many lost lambs unable to find their way home.

Li Jian is too sober or too irresponsible, there will be an answer. It's just that people who are still confused at present, including those who are still in the "Zhuang" environment.

I don't know if I am a dream guest, but I am insatiable in one day. I don't know if I'm a butterfly or something.

Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei are discussing whether Dink is worth it, what is the boundary between sticking to himself and living himself, whether a house and a car are the pursuit of a person's life, and whether following the pace of most people is the best choice.