What is it like to be an INFP?

INFJ and INFP are easily misunderstood and the most similar types, and they are also the easiest to attract each other. The contrast between Ni, Fe, Fi, and Ne makes the two look the same like the front and back of paper. But they are worlds apart... This contrast will cause them to behave in subtle ways.

P and J: P is always lazy and quits when he is in a bad mood. J always has many plans and can’t wait to act.

Wake up with startle and wake up naturally: INFP always thinks too much based on Fi+Ne, most likely suffering from severe insomnia, INFJ seems to be able to wake up on time even if he stays up late, excellent biological clock... On the other hand It also shows that INFJ's ability to handle emotions is very first-class and worthy of being a psychological mentor. INFP's ability to control emotions is simply vulnerable. They often have mood swings and are capricious.

Isolation and loneliness: INFP feels lonely because of being isolated, so they are very troubled by this feeling, avoid problems and develop a sense of inferiority, and are forced to stay away from others. INFJ chooses to be alone, takes the initiative to keep distance from others, and is usually relaxed and content. So INFP has an avoidant personality, and INFJ has a similar personality (not personality).

Introverted Feeling and Extraverted Feeling: Fi-dominated INFP do not take the initiative to reveal their inner feelings. "Retaining strength" is their motto. INFP is also a type that is not easy for others to understand. On the one hand, this is because On the one hand, they are not good at expressing the complexity of their inner emotional world. Fe-assisted INFJs are relatively revealing. It is easy for people to understand what they are doing, how they are feeling, whether they like or dislike them, and it is easy for people to understand their difficulties. Of course, the premise is that they are not closed-minded.

Fragile mode and invincible mode: INFPs are easily defeated by external factors when their persistence is criticized, and become unable to fight back. They are usually in a position of being in the wrong (without Fe support). INFJ is firm in what it believes in, can face everyone's doubts without fear, and can state the facts in a reasonable and reasonable manner (with Fe as the backing), and can argue fluently, and others cannot easily change the INFJ's intention.

Implicit expression and direct implicit expression: INFP expresses love very implicitly. They like to hide their love in places where most people don’t notice, waiting for others to discover it. Therefore, INFP is very good at preparing surprises and using a special way to express love. And shy ways to express love, such as poetry, music, and artwork. INFJs are also reserved, but this implicitness is somewhat direct. For example, the INFP puts a special love song for INFJ among hundreds of songs and pretends to give it to the INFJ. After seeing through it, the INFJ directly drags the INFP to the KTV, clicks on the love song and sings it together... but they will not admit it even if they live or die. It's a kind of confession...INFJ conveys love more accurately, while INFP is vague.

Defense and Offense: When an INFP likes someone, they will be shy and nervous when they see their sweetheart, seeming to pay too much attention to her, but not taking the initiative, always hiding first. When an INFJ likes someone, they will inexplicably ignore that person and become enthusiastic about the people around you. They talk a lot when they are with others, but they remain silent for a long time when they are with you. In a normal relationship, INFP is the most passive and INFJ is the most active. It is often the INFJ who brings the two closer together.

Procrastination and action: Influenced by fi, INFP likes heartbeats but dislikes action very much. They like to control, play psychological warfare and reminisce about that feeling. They will not take action, confess, or break the status quo, which is to say, focus on The process rather than the outcome. INFJ likes action, well-planned and goal-oriented. Failure to act is very painful for it. Unless INFJ is not sure whether this love is real, it will take action as soon as it sprouts... that is, focusing on results.

(I happened to have done a psychological test on INF. INFJ likes direct ways of showing love, and INFP likes creative and interesting ways of showing love)

Meaning and ritual: INFP finds something meaningful If no one knows, it may not be done. INFJ will give birthday gifts to lovers who have broken up, but will not send the gifts, or write letters or poems to the people they like but not send them, or send them to places where they cannot be received.

Affirmation and Doubt: Ni-dominated INFJs have god-like intuition and are always right. They always get straight to the point when looking at problems and give answers directly, but cannot give explanations. Sometimes they make rash decisions. in conclusion. It is said that such people are most likely to have telepathy. INFP is just the opposite. Although they also rely on intuition, they are more inclined to try multiple times to see if the results are like this, and then use statistical judgment to constantly correct the results. They can also explain why such results occur. The answers are usually hesitant and uncertain. So INFP likes to collect information, and INFJ likes to seek answers.

Closeness and isolation: Both are very good at listening, but there is still a difference in depth and breadth. INFPs with delicate emotions are good at listening to others' voices and work hard to understand other people's true feelings. INFPs are not good at describing how well they understand your feelings. Instead, they will take some measures and tell you about their similar experiences. They will not Simple verbal comfort (give you a gift, give you a surprise, etc.). Therefore, INFP is usually placed in the closest position as the target of appeal.

The INFJ will listen as a planner and then express empathy (Fe). She will enjoy talking about her feelings and making others happy. At the same time, INFJ is very good at helping people "deal with" emotions, giving the victim clear directions, reasons, etc. Rather than "healing the soul" like INFP, INFJ will verbally comfort. INFJs like to reserve a special place for the people closest to them, and only tell "top secrets" to this person. Fi keeps his feelings to himself, and you keeps his thoughts to himself.

Judgment and perception: Fi is the judgment function, Ni is the perception function. Fi, as the main function of INFP, makes them especially like to judge whether they like this person or hate this thing before choosing whether to integrate into it. They will spend a lot of time reflecting on the reaction and behavior of the person they come into contact with. Emotional response. INFP seems to be very distressed by this kind of obsessive-compulsive judgment...

Ni, as the main function of INFJ, does not pay attention to whether they like someone or something. INFJ's first priority is to intuitively sense whether the other person is the right person. Those who are trustworthy will be judged by Fe next.

Stubbornness and obedience: Ni-dominated INFJs trust their own intuition too much and sometimes become very stubborn and ignore the opinions of others. INFPs will only stubbornly resist when their values ??are violated. If they are friendly suggestions, they will listen. Relatively speaking, INFPs are more inclined to be obedient. INFP's stubbornness is also reflected in Fi. They are particularly stubborn about certain emotions, beauty, admiration, and self-belief. I dare say that Fi is the best in the secret love marathon.

Cats and dogs: INFP likes to raise cats, and INFJ likes to raise dogs. The reason is that cats can be too lazy to take care of themselves, and they also provide warm feedback, which is in line with INFP's shortcomings of lack of patience, casual life, and dislike of planning. Cats' sensitivity, isolation, laziness, and cuteness are exactly the same as INFP's, so birds of a feather flock together. Dogs need to be taken care of and have a "harvest" and can be called around. This is in line with INFJ's characteristics of long-term nurturing and situation control. They are concerned about the growth of children. Of course, I’m not saying that INFJ will never raise a cat, and INFP will never raise a dog...

Interests and goals: INFP focuses on their own interests, and they can’t learn anything they are not interested in. They always If you fail, you will learn the things you are interested in and perform beyond the textbook (that is, be creative). INFJ focuses on the possibility of achieving goals and can study compulsively, so he can become an academic master or expert accidentally...

Of course, questions beyond the content of the text will not be solved at all... (that is, J's Not flexible enough)

Exposed and mysterious: INFP is not ostentatious, but if given the opportunity, he will be very devoted to express himself. If someone wants to know him, he will not refuse as long as he is friendly. INFJ is a legendary mysticism, using various literary and artistic methods to maintain its mystery. If you want to know her secrets, you have to occupy that "special position" first, so many people describe INFJ as wearing an elegant mask. . Ne is outward and radiates thinking, while Ni is inward. In contrast, Ni doesn't like to express his own ideas. Ne likes to exchange ideas very much, but unfortunately it is only three minutes of heat.

On the other hand, when INFP writes explanations and the like, they are good at taking care of some "idiots" so that everyone can understand them and understand their ideas. INFJ sometimes doesn't. This is your conservative side. INFJ's articles tend to be concise and perfect.

Atheism and theism: INFPs are more likely to be atheists, because they have seen through the psychological principles of why people have gods. They cannot deceive themselves into believing in Buddhism and God. They are usually related to philosophy. INFJs generally have their own beliefs. Based on their Ni function, they are more likely to be theists, and they are usually associated with Buddhism.

What is very interesting is that many Buddhists are INFJs, such as Xuyun and Xuanzang (refer to their documentaries and biographies). As expected, abstinence is better...

But Strangely enough, although INFPs are nicknamed philosophers, in fact INFJs engage in philosophy far more than INFPs.

Friends and communication: INFPs have very few friends, but when they do have them, they are very close friends. INFJs have relatively many friends, but few have close friends, and their communication skills are relatively strong. This is the difference between the breadth and depth of Fe and Fi.

Walking and traveling: INFP is a walking person, and INFJ is a travel person. INFP is eager to experience the outside world, but is always unable to take steps due to her own reasons. INFJ can dominate the world as long as she is willing, and nothing can stop her.

Casual and elegant: INFP likes loose and easy-to-wear clothes. Although they also want to be beautiful...but they usually put convenience and comfort first, and men appear more sloppy and casual. For the sake of beauty, INFJ can accept many complex procedures of clothing...even complicated retro-style hairstyles. It is said that women are very keen to change into pajamas. They think it is atmospheric, so some INFJ women will look dignified, behave elegantly, and speak well. Literature and art.

Restricted imagination and unrestricted imagination: Ne’s imagination is limited by e and requires some external materials as a reference, so INFP’s imagination is very passive and usually consists of something or a conversation. , the imagination inspired by the scene, and some of the imaginary connections look very subtle (especially in creativity), and it is easy for people to understand the ideas of the associations. Ni's imagination has no limit, so INFJ's imagination is boundless. It is an active skill. To use it, you only need to be in a daze and do not need to be stimulated. It is also obscure and difficult to understand. Normal people will find it impossible to understand how they think. I can't figure out INFJ's weird and metaphorical thoughts, but it often captures the core of the hint that is difficult for others to grasp.

Creation and innovation: the difference between imagination and imagination. Spontaneous and creative imagination inhabits the inner world of INFP and is not bound by tradition. The creative characteristics of INFP are novel, unique, and made from scratch. What is created must have never been seen before. While INFJs are innovators and come up with truly radical and different ideas for solutions to guide the team, INFJs often take on too much.

Limited emotions and infinite emotions: the same model as above.

Incompleteness and Perfection: Fi and Ni are both functions of perfectionism, but their perfect manifestations are different. Fi is expressed in the perfection of emotions, that is, the sense of harmony. In order to pursue this harmony, INFP can sometimes sacrifice everything. At the same time, it is also very entangled in this sense of disharmony between people. Therefore, among the nine types, INFP has 9 of the peacemaker type. Your perfection lies in the realization and persistence of goals and beliefs. INFJ can also sacrifice everything for this belief. As an INFJ "Mr. Tang Monk" (whose character prototype is Xuanzang), he often says that I can feed monsters... It is because of this Perfect faith.

Faith and belief: By the way, let’s analyze the interesting difference between these two words. To read is to recite silently in the heart, and to look up is to look up. So faith lowers one’s head and recites silently, while faith looks up and looks up...ah

Actually The simple thing is Fi and Ni, one believes in himself and the other believes in others, INFP is loyal to his own beliefs, and INFJ is loyal to others' beliefs (other people should use "not their own" more appropriately)

Soulful music and simplicity Music: The distinction between Fi and Fe can actually refer to introversion and extroversion. One difference between introversion and extroversion is that one is depth and the other is breadth.

Fi pays attention to the depth of emotion. INFP’s music is like a dam, which usually holds water but does not flow out. Once invested to express suppressed emotions, the dam collapses and pours out like a flood, making people feel that INFP The emotion is very deep. Fe focuses on emotional breadth, and INFJ's music is like a river, slowly flowing into the distance, and the end of the river is the sea. INFJ's music has a very stable mood and always has a sense of direction, while INFP's is very volatile and intense. Many INFP songs have very obvious differences. Therefore, INFP tends to go berserk when singing... as if his eyes are full of tears, as if he is the person who wrote it... INFJ is very calm and cannot see any emotional fluctuations.

In addition, INFP’s music is very easy to have a dramatic style, like a movie or a classic scene, coming from life and more beautiful than life.

Passiveness and prudence: Because of Fi, INFP may adopt a negative attitude towards criticism. INFJ will put emotions behind in some situations. He is much calmer than INFP, so INFJ is also called the most Rational and emotional types, they will even agree with the suicide choice even when they are powerless.

Judgment first and make friends first: Under the influence of Fi, INFP will first judge whether he likes a person. If he doesn't like him, he will basically sentence him to death...too lazy to continue developing with you. If an INFJ is influenced by Ni, they will get along with you first, but occasionally they will use Fe to make judgments. Based on this, it seems that a sudden breakup of friendship is more likely for INFJs. As a judgmental INFP, they may be very cautious in making friends, or they may rarely make unfortunate friends.

Animation style:

Sorry, I am not good at reading. I watch a lot of animation. To a certain extent, this can be considered to be the preference of animation between the two. For example, many INFJs particularly love Gong. Hayao Saki animation.

INFJ’s main function is Ni and its secondary function is Fe. Ni should be expressed first and Fe should be expressed second. INFP is the opposite. Fi’s expression is first and Ne’s expression is second. two. In other words, irrelevant imagination and metaphor are the core of what INFJ wants to express most, and emotions are placed at the back. INFP's emotional expression comes first, and metaphors and imagination are placed at the back.

So INFJ’s stories are very fond of themes such as ghosts, fantasy, other worlds, supernatural, Zen, freshness, philosophy, travel and so on. INFJ is very good at deepening the theme through symbolic things. , such as Hayao Miyazaki's animation, Rumiko Takahashi's works, Mitsuru Adachi's works, "Mushishi", "Summer Book of Friends", "Kino's Journey" and so on.

INFP stories are very fond of themes such as human depth, soul, beauty, communication difficulties (relative to Fe), human depravity, anti-war, science fiction, delusions, love, and relationships between men and women.

INFP is very good at depicting themes through characters, such as "Doraemon", "The XX of Haruhi Suzumiya", "The Disappearance of Little Nagato Yuki", "Chunibyou Still Falling in Love", "Welcome to NHK" ”, “Hyogo”, “Dianbo Girl and Young Man”, “Pseudo Love”, “Bake Monogatari”, “Everyday Life”, “How to Raise a Passerby Heroine”, etc.

This is also the depth expression of Ni and Fi, while Fe and Ne are the breadth expression.

Not only are INFP’s characters first-class, but Fi is very good at shaping female charm, so the characters in INFP’s stories all look vivid. INFJ is just the opposite in this regard. The characters are all inexplicably similar. For example, Mitsuru Adachi seems to have the same character in all his works... Rumiko Takahashi also has a similar problem. If you look closely, you will find that the characters in the works are very similar. It feels like the characters and characters of the male and female protagonists in "Inuyasha" and "Knowledge: Samsara" are carved from the same template, and the way people talk in Mushishi is similar. This also includes the fact that the contents of the stories are similar and the characters are not distinct, which is also J’s unique habit.

In addition, it is very easy for you to judge the MBTI type of the characters created by INFP, but it is very difficult for the characters created by INFJ. As a human observer, INFP is very good at grasping the personality of the character.

INFP's story structure usually has a symbolic turning point, and often the entire story pattern is changed because of an event. INFJ's story is very smooth, unlike INFP's dramatic development.

Romance and romance: INFJ and INFP are both romantics, and it is said that they have hard rontics and soft rontics.

Functionally speaking, INFJ is more inclined to "belief-based romance", which comes from other people's existing definitions of romance. For example, sending flowers is a kind of romance, and dating in a beautiful coffee shop is a kind of romance. , imitating a certain plot in a book is a kind of romance, etc. INFJ's romance has a somewhat universal sense.

INFP is not like this. They are often original, that is, they are different and have unlimited room for creativity. INFP sometimes thinks that sending flowers is romantic, but sometimes it is not. Their romantic conditions all come from their own definition. In its definition, romance must be able to arouse emotions and arouse beauty. This kind of beauty is pure, without impurities, and There is no need to meet certain standards of romance and glamorous appearance. Another important thing is that the other person must feel that this is an emotional expression he wants to express. This is the INFP's expression of love.

Opposition: INFP hates and opposes conflicts and disharmony caused by interests the most. Compared with ESTJ, INFP is always opposite to it. The one who opposes war the most is INFP. Among all celebrities, INFP A case of non-psychotic INFP was found. The existential meaning given to INFP in the human race is to check and balance human greed for material and loss of humanity. The attributes of INFP are absolutely on the side of human beings. In real life, there are many examples of INFPs ending their lives because they could not bear the guilt of hurting others. In extreme cases, they would not even dare to step on ants to death, and some even only eat vegetarian food because of this...

INFJs have war-crazy and crazy celebrities, and there are quite a few of them. Some INFJs like activities such as fighting, boxing, wrestling, etc. There are many INFJs who like football and rugby very much (INFPs think these are barbaric sports) ), they seem to have such a quiet personality. INFJs accept this to some extent and may even become obsessed with it.

Although this INFJ author seems a bit crazy...but it is indeed well-founded. The reason is the inferior function and the extreme nature of INFJ, but please note that this is not the majority of cases!