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Is it difficult to find a partner during graduate school?

I am a graduate student and I am single at present. Combining with myself, talk about my views on this issue.

During the postgraduate period, everyone is generally over the age of 23, and single young people will more or less face the urging of their families on life events. Their parents' thoughts and psychology are understandable.

At this time, many graduate students will say: Oh, where can I find it? I go out early and come back late every day. I'm too busy to have time.

Yes, I admit that this is the fact of most people, and I personally agree with it, but personally, I want to say that I don't have time, and I also want to say that I dare not accept it and take the initiative because I feel that I am not good enough and confident enough.

Here, I want to reflect on myself more, hoping to bring some help to people more like me.

Personally, I don't think it's because of the attribute of "postgraduate period" that I have been single during my postgraduate period.

At least I'm not. I think it's because I don't think I'm a pretty face and my figure is not very good, so I don't have confidence. I dare not take the initiative when I meet someone I like, and then I hint that I don't be stupid. How can people like you ... and then it's gone.

No matter whether girls are tall, thin or beautiful, to tell the truth, they will prefer good-looking boys, with a height of 178+. Similarly, boys, whether tall, thin or handsome, all like girls who look better, but how many people can have the confidence to take the initiative?

I can meet many people I like, but few people like them and have the confidence to take the initiative.

Many friends said, how did this happen? I don't like people who like me, and people I like don't like me. In fact, the person you like doesn't like you just like the person you don't like.

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Now it is really a society that generally looks at faces. Although I think this is wrong, I can't help it.

Seeing so many beautiful girls, it is false to say that you are not envious. Seeing those handsome and beautiful couples in pairs, it is false to say that they are not envious. Jealousy is not a bad thing, the most terrible thing is acid and jealousy.

Girls, it's not sour at all to see a man who looks ordinary and even thinks he is not as good-looking as himself has a handsome boyfriend. Is it sour to see a fat girl with a good boyfriend?

I'm an amateur, I admit that I will be sour.

I don't know boys, so I won't talk about it, but I asked a male friend of mine who has a good relationship. He is a doctoral student in Peking University.

I asked him, do you dislike me because I am not beautiful? He said no.

I asked again, do you dislike me because I am in poor shape or because I am fat? He said, not really.

Really liking someone really has nothing to do with being tall, thin, beautiful and ugly.

After reading so many books, we actually know this truth, and I believe that at this age, we understand that falling in love and dealing with people are really superficial, and the most important thing is to get along well with each other.

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Therefore, it is not difficult to find an object during the postgraduate period. What is difficult is to find what kind of person. Self-confident, sunny, cheerful and kind-hearted boys and girls are popular everywhere, easily liked by others and can take the initiative themselves. On the contrary, those depressed boys and girls who are very disappointed in this society, well, it is difficult to find a partner anywhere.

During the postgraduate period, most people are really hard, they really don't have much time to themselves, and scientific research is sometimes really annoying. It is no exaggeration that a bad attitude will drive people crazy. I remember when I first entered school, the graduate handbook was written at the front to give some words to graduate students, including their emotional problems, saying that no matter whether they are single or have a partner, they should maintain a good attitude.

Talk to someone, and no one should be anxious. You wanted to laugh then. Now that I think about it, I am really young and frivolous!

I remind myself that it is not because I am a graduate student that it is difficult to find a partner, but because I am not confident enough, I feel that I am not beautiful, my figure is not good, and I am not active enough to meet someone I like.

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If you are a graduate student, you don't want to be alone, want a divorce, and want to fall in love. If there is someone you like, things will be much easier. Then take courage and take the initiative to try. Happiness is to be earned by yourself. The chance of waiting for fate to come to you is slim, because everyone is too busy to come to you. Find someone else when you have time. Besides, people may still be waiting for you to find him.

However, if you want to take off the bill and don't meet the person you like, you should look for it all the more. Don't wait for fate, whether you are a college student or a graduate student, unless you are really shining, the chance of waiting for fate to take off the bill is almost zero. ...

Don't stay at home when you have time. Go out for a walk, such as traveling. If possible, join some friendships and get to know more people. You may meet someone you like. If you don't meet new friends, everything will be difficult.

In fact, regardless of boys and girls, many people can't get rid of it just because they are not confident enough, so things will be easy. If you are not confident, you must know where your confidence lies. Get to know each other, family Appearance? Figure? Wait, see what you can change, and then try to change and make yourself more confident. The terrible thing is to know what you are not satisfied with, but not to improve, and then there is no self-confidence.

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As a graduate student, everyone must know the status of graduate students, which is stressful and hard. As far as I'm concerned, it's false to see my classmates in pairs, eating, drinking and having fun, showing love and saying no envy. I also want to find someone who can get along comfortably, chat and share joy and sadness.

But I am helpless and not so confident, afraid of being rejected, but fortunately I know where my confidence lies. Now I am trying to change and make myself better, not to cater to others' aesthetics, but because I want to be better, but to cater to my own mind.

A good place for single little brothers and sisters is the gym. If you're sure you don't like exercise, forget it. If you don't exclude exercise, you can try it. Maybe you will fall in love with fitness, maybe you will meet your destiny.

The above is purely a personal opinion. Please forgive me if I am immature.