My boyfriend invited me to travel soon after I fell in love. Should I go or refuse?

? Just after work at noon today, my colleague Xiao Zhao trotted up and grabbed my arm, with a tearful expression: "What should I do?"

? I was shocked and asked with concern, "Don't worry, speak slowly, what's the matter?"

? Xiao Zhao wriggled shyly, but after a long time, he said helplessly, "Brother Xu said he wanted to go to Hangzhou with me for the Dragon Boat Festival ..."

? I paused, then suddenly. Xiao Zhao's boyfriend just confessed his success to her two days ago, and now he has put forward an invitation to travel together, which really embarrassed her. But Xiao Zhao is a soft-hearted girl who won't refuse others. She is afraid that the words will make her boyfriend upset and affect her feelings. So she was in a dilemma, tangled and helpless, and came to me for an idea when she was in a hurry.

? I looked at Xiao Zhao's youthful face and I didn't know whether it was anxious or hot and covered with sweat, and my heart was tender. Then I solemnly gave a suggestion: "If you haven't identified this person and decided to go with him for a lifetime, then, let's put the travel thing aside first."

? We are all adults, and we should know very well what tourism means to a pair of lovers who have just been together for a while.

? If you have thought that the person in front of you is the future lover, or that further relationship will not affect your judgment of feelings in the future, then traveling is a good opportunity to enhance feelings and deepen understanding, and there is nothing to criticize.

? But if you feel a little hesitant when you receive an invitation to travel, please don't worry about taking care of each other's feelings and speak your mind boldly. Because, your little hesitation may be just your heart reminding you, hey, are you sure he is really the right person?

? Maybe your boyfriend will tell you, don't worry, we will live in two rooms then. Girls, where's the chicken soup you usually watch? What about the romance novels you usually read? Has it repeatedly warned you that you would rather believe in ghosts than men's mouths? The word "when the time comes" is really the most insecure word. I even thought about eating potatoes at noon, but I couldn't guarantee that it wouldn't happen. How dare you trust the boy's will easily during the trip? What's more, the most important thing is that if something really wants to happen, it doesn't have to be a room! Why do you talk about two rooms as if it were safe?

? Of course, this may be biased. When some boys say this, they are probably really sincere gentlemen and open-minded. For example, Xiao Zhao's boyfriend, seeing that Xiao Zhao did not immediately agree, immediately thought of her scruples. So he frankly explained his travel plan: they can stay with another pair of lovers who are friends. When staying at the hotel, he will be with another boy, and Xiao Zhao will be with another girl, so that they can take care of each other and dispel Xiao Zhao's concerns. It's really not a good idea. However, the other pair of lovers are not necessarily lovers who have just been together, and they have not yet broken the window paper. In case these two people are so affectionate during their travel that they want to live together, can Xiao Zhao and her boyfriend still forbid it? Moreover, a girl like Xiao Zhao, since she will be entangled in the fact that refusing to travel will hurt her boyfriend's heart at first, will be entangled in the fact that refusing her boyfriend's request will hurt her boyfriend's heart at some moment. But you and I both know that we really can't hesitate at such a moment. Once you hesitate, everything that follows will not only make this hesitation meaningless, but also appear particularly melodramatic.

? Xiao Zhao is silent. She is not an inexperienced girl. But girls who have just fallen in love will probably be a little cautious when dealing with lovers. She asked me to help her think of a decent excuse, but I advised her to tell the truth. Although excuses can resist for a while, even the perfect excuses are in danger of being exposed. At that time, it is the real source of cracks in feelings. The boy who really loves you is unwilling to see you struggling. He will only understand your self-esteem and think you are a good girl. If he really snubbs you and is angry with you because you refuse to travel with him, then it is one thing for this boy to be petty, and I am afraid the sincerity of his feelings for you needs to be considered.

? When we were young, we thought that tourism was really just tourism. Others may have warned you, but you always feel impossible. Later, when you finally understand the meaning behind travel, some things are already irreversible. Maybe you haven't regretted it, but when you make a decision again, you must learn to bear it. Kind girl, please be kind to yourself, don't care what others think, but ask your heart honestly. Are you ready?