Is it someone else's problem or your own?

Well, it only means that you are not suitable for this circle, and you don't have to force yourself into it. Sometimes, because there are few people in contact, it is just a small circle, and it will be very depressing if you can't squeeze in. Never mind, try another circle. If you do it yourself, you don't have to pay attention to them. The weak live in groups, while the strong generally live alone. I couldn't join the group for a while. It is also different from the three views. I was really depressed during that time, but it doesn't matter if I get through it later. I didn't do anything wrong. Wait for Bloom. Several friends also hold the same view. Sometimes don't question yourself just because of the status quo. Being yourself is the best, come on!

There are usually two reasons for being isolated and excluded: personality or environment. Personality problems are common, but they are also caused by environmental atmosphere, so it is impossible to simply judge whether the excluded person is a personal problem or someone else's problem. Personality determines success or failure regularly. A person's character is acquired. The process of human growth is a process of continuous evolution. According to the research results of psychologists, it is a person's promotion experience from id to ego and then to superego. The basic goal of family education, school education and social education is to transform a natural person into a social person. Social people just adapt to the big family and follow the crowd. People who follow the crowd are people with family and national cultural norms and constraints. The greatest significance of the Chinese nation is to attach importance to family ties, stress filial piety and advocate national justice. The greatest way is embodied in the way of communication, that is, cooperation, harmony, humility and tolerance. If a person can't even do these basic moral norms, he will be out of tune with social existence and it will be difficult for him to integrate into society. If you can't integrate into society, go your own way. Even if you are very talented, it is difficult to display your talents, and you will eventually accomplish nothing. Sometimes character building is more important than natural science knowledge accumulation.

Truth is often in the hands of a few people. In the white terror environment, the road choice dispute made Chairman Mao be excluded everywhere in the early days of China Revolution. Whether to copy the Soviet model, or take the road that conforms to China's reality will naturally form different cognitive groups. The lessons of blood and fire prove that Chairman Mao's road of encircling cities from rural areas is correct. Copernicus' Heliocentrism changed human's view of nature and himself, but religious forces thought Heliocentrism was a heresy. So that Bruno, an Italian astronomer who actively promoted Copernicus's "Heliocentrism", was not spared from the suppression of religious forces. In the end, truth failed to overcome evil, and Bruno was sentenced to the stake at the age of 52. These are all related to the general environment in which truth is located.

Exclusion and anti-exclusion are a contest between good and evil. If a unit is dominated by negative energy, those who uphold justice will become different. If you are corrupt, you will be excluded. In the election, if public opinion is kidnapped by evil forces, democratic forces will be used, people who have both ability and political integrity and are diligent and honest may not be elected, and people who form gangs may occupy a higher position and continue to do evil; Without the spirit of the rule of law and the maintenance of credit, legitimate businessmen will have no profits, and scammers may earn a lot of money.

In short, justice may be late, but it will come eventually. To be a man, we must first introspect and make a positive result. Let your words and deeds conform to the society, and don't give up positive energy in order not to be squeezed out and suppressed. I think: being isolated and excluded is, in the final analysis, someone else's problem, but in the final analysis, the most important problem is our own. Tell me about my feelings and opinions (the following are all personal opinions).

1. Under normal circumstances, human society is engaged in occupations that have little conflict with the interests of others, such as farmers, workers, craftsmen and so on. Most people "enjoy" isolation and exclusion in life.

Second, people who are isolated and excluded have generally had the experience of "being in power" or achieved "excellent" results. Moreover, when achieving brilliant achievements in life, people who do not pay attention to details, act cautiously, have no awareness of preventing disasters from popping out of their mouths, have no good habit of sharing weal and woe with others, and have no background and backing are particularly vulnerable to isolation and exclusion. As the saying goes, "Muxiu will be destroyed by forest air". It is because the superior trees that leave the group are most vulnerable to wind, rain and lightning.

Third, most people who are isolated and excluded have their own good wishes for perfection. Because I am wholeheartedly moving towards what I think is the best goal, I didn't do a good job of mobilization and explanation beforehand. At the same time, in social practice, there is only attack, not defense; On the way forward, although it is sometimes correct, the original intention has not been understood and supported by most people. Therefore, when there is a "loophole" in itself, it is easy to be isolated and excluded. Therefore, in this case, it is impossible to explain the responsibility to others. However, if we can realize that it is our own problem, we may make up for it later.

Four, isolated and excluded people are generally competitors within the group, the potential danger outside the group. Because the other party feels the danger, they will do everything possible to create an isolated and crowded environment; Because it is one of the internal competitors, the possibility of being isolated and excluded will always exist. Even after death, there is the possibility of being "liquidated". This is also the law and normal expression of the law of the jungle in human society.

I hope people of insight will realize that isolation and exclusion are mainly their own problems, which is conducive to the growth and progress of outstanding people.

Personal cognition, for reference only!