Make a living, be an entrepreneur, be an entrepreneur, where is your life?

If you look at entrepreneurship from the perspective of an entrepreneur, a person's road to entrepreneurship is divided into three stages: earning a living, entrepreneurs and entrepreneurs.

At the stage of making a living, I regard my work and myself as tools to make money. Even if I do nothing, I feel very hard. My back aches every day, and I live with complaints every day.

At the start-up stage, I just regard my work or career as one thing, and I find it difficult to do things, and no one helps me.

Entrepreneur stage: I feel that life is hanging all the way, and everything I do is like God's help, and all the nobles and resources will come to you like an avalanche.

In retrospect, I have gone through the stage of making a living and now I am in the stage of starting a business.

I was born in a remote and poor mountain village in Yixing, Jiangsu. My parents taught me that reading is my only way out.

From primary school to junior high school, I have always been a "child of other people's families", obedient, capable and with good grades. I was the first child in the village to be admitted to the university. Just when my dream was about to set sail, my mother left us because of illness when I was a sophomore.

With the pain of losing my mother, along with my college life, I was assigned to Wuxi, which is close to my hometown, to engage in the financial and insurance industry in order to take care of my father and my brothers and sisters.

Professional counterparts, good income, I get married and have children step by step, go to work, two points and one line, life trajectory seems to lead to the end.

This is my stage of making a living. I am engaged in my major in the university. I am in a fortune 500 state-owned enterprise, but I am not happy. Although it only took me six years to become a middle manager from the most basic counter service staff, in the next twenty years, I never made a breakthrough and met the ceiling of the workplace. I do not like my job. I just use the company and myself as tools to make money. I often work overtime in the early stage, leaving early and returning late, and I have no time to take care of my family. I feel that children grow up in their sleep. In the next few years, I don't have to work overtime often, and I am numb to nine to five, and I live in complaints every day.

In this way, 26 years have passed, and I have entered middle age in a blink of an eye.

Drucker said how to spend the rest of his life in "Middle Age is an Encounter":

When people reach middle age, they are faced with the bottleneck of their career, mental fatigue and physical burnout, but they have an unwilling internal drive and even a sense of urgency to re-examine the meaning of life.

As a nobody, it is inevitable that the workplace will encounter bottlenecks and produce job burnout. Especially in a state-owned enterprise where you can't control your own destiny, your position is not up to you. No matter how talented you are and how hard you work, because of the limited position, there are all kinds of complicated relationships, intrigues and interests, which need you to adapt.

My father died in 2009, which made my midlife crisis further. The sadness that children want to raise but don't kiss, and the burnout in the workplace make me physically and mentally exhausted.

At this time, my father-in-law was admitted to the hospital because of cancer, accompanied by surgery, radiotherapy and chemotherapy 12 hours every day. My husband and I are on the verge of collapse.

Four elders and three cancers have made me realize the value of health again and again.

As the saying goes, I don't know which comes first, the accident or tomorrow. When I could see the heart of my retirement work at a glance, the accident came. 20 16, 10 year18 October, I handed over my work and went back to my family.

I was "off duty" because of my age! I was 48 years old.

My father's illness needs continuous treatment, my son's study in America costs money, and I am laid off in middle age. This midlife crisis almost depressed me.

Maybe this is fate. At the lowest valley of my life, I met the opportunity to start a business, and I started the second stage of the road to entrepreneurship-entrepreneurs.

By chance, I saw a case shared by my former colleagues in the circle of friends. I took the initiative to ask her for advice, because I simply believed in the products recommended by her and I began to try. Unconsciously, my severe constipation and sensitive gingival bleeding for more than 20 years, my daughter's dysmenorrhea, my mother-in-law's hypertension, and my husband's inability to donate blood because of sub-health have all been improved. This makes our family very recognized for the products.

Such a good product, I want to share with my friends. In addition to the benefits of the product, the most important thing is the pressure of life, the crisis of middle age and the dream of life, which forces me to want an extra income and change the status quo.

Although I am a wooden and quiet "handsome man" on the outside, I am actually a "little girl" who pursues freedom and dreams in my bones. When I was in college, my favorite sentence was "Give me liberty or give me death". I have always had a dream. I will carry a bag with my husband, join hands with the world, travel around the world, see beautiful scenery, taste delicious food and record what I think, see and hear.

I don't like the rigid and boring workplace, and dancing in square dance, traveling, cooking with children and taking care of the third generation of elderly people are even more undesirable. I don't want to live step by step anymore. I hope to be an interesting person with stories and tastes, help more people and make my life meaningful.

However, the ideal is full, but the reality is very skinny. When I tried to roll up my sleeves, I was misunderstood and obstructed by my husband and family. Due to the lack of correct communication methods, we went from fierce quarrel to silence, to escape, and finally to the brink of breaking up.

This is not the result I want. I long for the understanding and support of my family, but I don't know what to do. A deep sense of powerlessness haunts me. At the most helpless moment, I began to embark on the road of self-growth and self-redemption. I began to study everywhere and take various courses, but with a little help, I felt I had caught the straw.

For three years, I groped my way forward in the dark, but I ran into a wall everywhere, confused, anxious, afraid, helpless and unable to find the way forward; I am eager to bloom myself, but I feel inferior and helpless.

Fortunately, I attended an offline reading meeting under the law of attraction in June 2020. At that time, I thought I saw a glimmer of light again. I thought this ray of light might illuminate my life, guide my fear in out of the dark, and find myself who was carefree, naughty and happy all day.

So on July 7, 2020, I decided to continue the road of entrepreneurship. This time, I will use my brain to attract the resources I need into my life, get out of the confusion of starting a business, embark on the channel of rapid energy improvement, find my life mission and realize the value of life.