The secret of making a man love you all the time: break up. Do you know why?

A very important way to recover from your initial pain is to break the chain, which has many advantages-it can reduce his "bad impression" on himself, give himself enough time to change and improve, and arouse the possessiveness of the other party.

So, disconnection is everything? How to operate the disconnection? This article will tell you.

Xiao Tian and his girlfriend broke up because Xiaotian was too possessive. In his words, "I even hope my girlfriend doesn't talk to other men, and I know it's wrong, but I just can't control myself." After that, Xiaotian tried many times to save it, and his girlfriend also promised to come out and talk to Xiaotian. But every time we met, I saw his girlfriend's cold face every day, and then broke up without saying a few words.

In this case, Xiaotian can use the method of "disconnection".

First of all, let's make sure that not all breakups can use the method of "breaking up". You can't break up with someone who just quarrels with you and wants you to bow your head and admit your mistake, because she doesn't really want to be separated from you. However, for Xiaotian, repeated recovery was fruitless. If you are sure that your girlfriend is determined and really intends to break up with yourself, you can try to break up.

What is the specific operation method of starting disconnection?

First of all, you can try to send her a message as the beginning of "breaking off diplomatic relations", such as:

The message goes like this: xxx, I thought about it for a long time last night, and I found that we may never go back. You don't love me anymore. I don't think it's good for both of us to continue like this, so I decided to accept the fact and accept your's breakup. I will live my life slowly and leave you alone. Finally, I hope you live well, because I still love you.

What did this message say?

First of all, tell him that he accepted the reality of breaking up, making him feel that you have changed, and reducing the previous "stalking" and bad impression.

Secondly, tell him "I still love you, but I respect your choice and leave you". He will always refuse you before, because he knows you won't really leave.

What you can't get is always in turmoil, and what you are optimistic about is fearless. You should make him feel that you want to get through it and really want to leave him, and make him feel that he will lose you and stimulate his possessiveness.

The purpose of this short message is to make him feel "unable to control this relationship".

Next, the break-up period.

The period of disconnection is about two weeks to three months.

You can't disconnect for 2-3 days. Even though he didn't feel that you left you, he came back, giving him an absurd feeling that "he said he was going to run away from home, but he was actually going out to buy a dish."

1-2 years is useless. Over time, he forgot what you did for him. Maybe he has a new love. At this time, it is difficult for you to recover.

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What to do during disconnection

During the break-up, you should temporarily put aside the idea of contacting her, examine what you have done badly in this relationship, and then correct it.

I know it's hard. Every time you make a little progress, you want him to feel it. But for this relationship, you are the one who needs it strongly. At this time, you need to restrain yourself and let him show his "need" for this relationship.

Try to exercise, make up, dress and match. Change your external image. No one will peep into your beautiful heart through a sloppy appearance. Learn what you have always wanted to learn. If you have time to pester him, you might as well read some books. Go out for a walk, travel, go to the exhibition and enrich your poor experience and life.

Through various channels, such as circle of friends, relatives, friends, etc., show that there is no need for your change. And make sure he feels that you are really different and better after breaking up. The effect of breaking off diplomatic relations depends on the degree of your change.

Disconnection is a short recovery period. When there is no complete recovery plan, it is recommended not to try blindly.

Before reading this article, you may have invested too much in this relationship and tried many ways to save it, so please cherish the opportunity to save it and try not to make mistakes. Every time you make a mistake, the difficulty of recovery increases by one point!

Are you in love with him still? Do you want to get back together? Is it necessary for him to continue his relationship with you? Now that we've been disconnected, no matter how long or why. It just means that we don't love each other so much anymore. If one of you still loves each other deeply, you can't keep in touch.

After a period of calm thinking, the other person wants to get back together with you. It shows that he still has feelings for you and is a little reluctant, so now the initiative is in your hands. You need to get to know him again. After this period of calm thinking, is he the one you want to spend your life with? Maybe you are not sure, let me help you analyze it!

Each of us is like a computer, and everything on the computer screen is provided by the host. And people are the same, the temperament of external performance is supported by the inside. Is his character, knowledge and personality integrated with you? Do you feel particularly happy with him? What I want to tell you in particular is that only a marriage based on love can last.

Do you know anything about his family besides these basic things? Of course, this cannot be ignored. What I said above is something to think about on the premise that you still love him.

If you still love him, try to rekindle your love! But I hope you can get along well for a while and see if they are really suitable for each other.