What should you pay attention to when transitioning into a date or chasing a girl?

Taboo 1: The tragic image of a good man. Have you ever noticed that really good girls never like "nice" guys, you definitely have.

Just like me, I'm sure you have some very good girlfriends who often date people you consider to be pure "bad guys", and for some reason, these girls never will be interested in you. Why is this?! It’s actually very simple. The reason why a girl chooses a man is not "whether he is a good man." The men they choose are actually instinctive. Being a good guy doesn't attract girls' interest. Being a good man will not make women gravitate towards you. I know this statement is indeed ridiculous and difficult to accept. But it is what it is and we just have to accept it. Only by accepting this fact can you win in the emotional battlefield with girls, otherwise...

Taboo 2: Trying to convince girls. Most men do when they meet a girl they like, but girls don't think so. This is why men always try to convince girls.

Let me tell you, we can never change a girl’s instinctive reaction to the concept of attraction. Never possible. You can't rely on so-called "logic and reason" to make a girl feel "different" towards you. Think about it carefully. But in reality, what do we do when girls are not interested in us? We pray, beg, stalk, and do everything we can to change their minds. This is definitely the last resort. Let's never do this again.

Taboo 3: Seeking a woman’s consent. In our traditional concept, if we want a girl to like us, we must obtain her consent and approval for everything.

This is another bad idea. Women never like men who are obedient to them and talk nice to them. Don't get me wrong, it doesn't mean that in order to win a girl's affection, you have to abuse them. But if you think that the font size for girls means: always be patient and obedient for girls. You will never win a girl's heart. In fact, girls hate men with such behavior. If you doubt me, why not ask the girls around you if they like such a man.

Taboo 4: Trying to buy love through "money"

Think about how many times you have taken a girl out to eat and bought her gifts and flowers. And at the same time, she rejects you and accepts a bad guy who doesn't treat her half as well as you? Does this happen from time to time in your life? This is actually a very natural thing.

But when you do these things, you think they are sending a very clear signal: I know you don’t like me, so I want to spend money to gain your attention and favor. Your such and obvious attempt has just encountered the "defense system" of girls. This is because they lack that sense of wholeness and feel controlled by others. Yes, women see these things as "control."

Taboo 5: Talking lightly and talking deeply

Another big mistake is that many boys "share" their emotions with girls too early in the process of getting along with them. Thought.

Excellent girls are scarce, and they deserve more attention from men. Many people don't realize it, but the fact is: outstanding girls are targeted by others all the time.

Excellent girls will be "disturbed" by men many times every day. How about dozens of times a week? Hundreds of times a month. We continue to think: girls naturally interact with some boys, which means they must have a lot of experience in this area. They know what's coming.

After one or two dates, you can’t wait to pick up a girl, so you say to her: You know what? I actually like you very much. It is such abrupt words that scare girls away. They leave you and never look back.

This makes girls think that you, like other boys, "get hot quickly" and can't help themselves.

Don’t be so reckless, take a step back and relax...you will find that the effect will be better.

Taboo 6: Not understanding what “charm” women refer to

When it comes to the concept of “attractiveness”, women have a completely different “mode” from men. . You have to accept it first and then take action.

When a man sees a girl with a good face, plump figure, beauty and kindness, he will immediately have an instinctive reaction. Does the same instinctive reaction also apply to women?

Are women animals that only use their "eyes" to judge men? After a long period of research on this issue, I can tell you that relatively In terms of "appearance", women have their own unique "attraction mechanism".

We have all noticed that we often see the phenomenon of "beauties with pig heads", and it happens from time to time. Think about this carefully. Women pay more attention to the "quality" of men. Women like men who can make them have a "feeling" beyond their appearance.

If you know how to use your body language and communication style, then when you see outstanding girls again, you are destined to win their favor.

However, there is no free lunch, you must continue to learn and improve yourself from now on.

Anyone can succeed if they work hard.

(Learn more about the techniques to chase girls,

Taboo 7: Forceful penetration by yourself, Beauty Psychology

Beauty Psychology Series:

< p>Whether it is psychological or physiological, a woman's change in feelings is a relatively long process. Many previous articles have already made a lot of comments on the accumulation process of women's feelings, so I won't go into details here. In other words, women don't. Will make arbitrary conclusions about a man within a short time of meeting, especially positive conclusions. You can use a failed invitation to ruin the emotional future between you and a girl, but you rarely use a successful invitation to completely. Conquer a girl. (Note: It’s not that there are none, it’s very rare.) In Vita’s view, the order of women’s emotions is exactly the opposite of that of men. Women put their emotions first, while men put their emotions first. The specific explanation can be as follows. It is said that women do not characterize each other's emotions in the early stages of a relationship, and women are more concerned with examining and observing to see whether their interactions are harmonious and whether their ambitions are the same. More mature girls also need to consider their family background and economic conditions. A lot. But once women confirm a man's status in their mind, they complete the stage of transformation from rationality to emotionality. This stage is often achieved based on girls' sufficient understanding of boys. There is no doubt that men are visual. Animals always say "I like you". In fact, these four words are so irresponsible. They should be changed to "I like your (appearance)". When chatting with a customer, I mentioned that the customer comes first. Seeing a girl is really "astonishing", so his heart is full of joy, and flowers and praises are flying everywhere (of course, there is no denying that his intentions are real, not to play with the girl's feelings), and after getting to know each other for a while, he suddenly discovered that they are actually in love with each other. There are big differences between them in personality, hobbies, living habits, etc. I remember what Xiang Nan and Hua Zi said in the swimming pool in "Struggle", saying that they liked Yang Xiaoyun who was all white, but her expression was vulgar while watching TV...

It seems to be a truth. So I advise all comrades to show their charm in the early stages of emotion, but when it comes to emotional expression, slow down and learn to think with your brain, not just your eyes. What you see may not be true.

Taboo 8: Forcefully make up lessons and talk about confessions

Confession itself should be a confirmed action, an established fact, or something you believe. The fact that there is a high success rate allows you to make the final confirmed move, but a lot of people regard confession as a "notification"

or as a "weapon of pursuit"

"Um...I like you, can you be my girlfriend?" Do you know what many girls are thinking?

"I'm not very familiar with you, right?" Or "We're just A very ordinary friend, how do I know if I'm suitable for you?"

Many girls' reactions are: A. Directly avoiding you because they don't want to agree to you; B. Not directly agreeing or rejecting, because they want to test, or I want to feel whether this boy is suitable and whether he is willing to give.

If I don’t want to agree to you today and continue to accept your kindness or pursuit... that’s called bad intentions.

Many times, girls want to extend the observation time, so situation B happens. If a girl just wants to know if she is suitable for you, continues to keep in contact with you, and gives you a moderately friendly and ambiguous response, then she wants to observe...

If she is using "not good for you" to It depends on you "whether you are willing to continue to be nice to me", then there is something wrong with the girl's brain. But in this world, too many people have no confidence in feelings and want to test the weight of feelings, so there are bad temptations.

Taboo 9: I treat you badly, but you continue to treat me well - wow, you really love me. If I treat you badly, you just run away - look, look, you really don’t really love me.

Boys and girls will do this kind of thing. I am not good to you, but you continue to be good to me. That is not true love, that is true harm.

If a boy is bullied, tortured, and squeezed by girls, but he still treats girls wholeheartedly, what level of man is he? Are you sure he is still a "man"?