Why is it that "frequently go home and have a look" has been criticized for being useless after entering France for many years, and why is it so embarrassing before landing?

On January 13, the annual Spring Festival Transport officially kicked off.

Because this year’s Spring Festival comes earlier than in previous years, the peaks of passenger flow such as students, visiting relatives, and workers returning home overlap, making this year’s Spring Festival ticket buying the most difficult in recent years.

Even so, many people still tried their best to buy tickets and go home. Because, for Chinese people, the Spring Festival is a day for family reunion, and they have to go home to spend the New Year with their parents despite all difficulties.

As a result, the commonplace topic of "going home often" has once again become the focus of public discussion.

Recently, a popular post about time on the Internet made many people feel "thumped" in their hearts after reading it. "If calculated based on the average life span of 75 years, life is only a short 900 months. Draw a table of 30

30, a piece of A4 paper is enough. Every month, in a grid Scratch it out, your whole life is on this piece of paper..." The post specifically mentioned that assuming our parents are on average fifty years old and you meet every day, you can spend 300 squares of time with them; if you If you meet twice a month, you can spend 20 spaces with them; if you meet once a year, you can only spend one pitiful time with them.

Many people who have read this hot post said that their noses felt sore after reading it. Home, originally an armor, has become a weakness for more and more people. People gradually find that they spend less and less time at home with their parents, and the time they spend together becomes shorter and shorter. Only during the Spring Festival can I go home to visit my parents once a year, which has become a normal life for young people working outside.

On December 28, 2012, the 30th meeting of the Standing Committee of the Eleventh National People's Congress unanimously voted to adopt the revised Law on the Protection of the Rights and Interests of the Elderly. The revised Law on the Protection of the Rights and Interests of the Elderly includes "frequent visits home" in the legal provisions. However, because the legal responsibilities are not detailed and there are no specific implementation rules, this provision has always faced the embarrassment of difficulty in implementation.

Go home often and take a look. It seems that it is not a question of "do you want to", but a question of "can you".

It is getting harder and harder to go home and see why

With economic and social development, migration and family fragmentation are becoming increasingly common. At the same time, my country's aging population is also gradually deepening. Against this background, the number of left-behind elderly people and empty-nest elderly people has increased, and elderly care has become an increasingly severe social challenge.

If in the past, children who went home to visit their parents were mostly constrained by inconvenient transportation, then with today’s increasingly diversified and more convenient transportation conditions, why does “going home often” become more and more difficult? Is it getting more and more difficult?

“This phenomenon is not unique to our country. It is a common phenomenon and trend all over the world.” Hu Hongwei, associate professor at the School of Humanities and Social Sciences at North China Electric Power University It is believed that there are many reasons why it is becoming more and more difficult to "go home often".

First of all, realistic pressures such as employment and development are important reasons. Reasons such as schooling, employment, development, etc. have caused large-scale population migration, and the pressure of life, work, development, etc. has made young people breathless in big cities. They have to increase development investment costs and sacrifice personal and Family time, including time spent going home to visit parents.

Secondly, personal concepts and social morality are also one of the reasons. With social development, changes in family structure and other reasons, in the context of nuclear families as the main body and rapid population migration, the family governance methods of traditional agricultural societies are undergoing fundamental changes. Young people who master resources, economy, and technology have a higher status in the family. It highlights that the elderly's physical strength, ability, income, knowledge, etc. have declined, and their status in the family has declined relatively. In addition, social concepts have reduced the constraints on young people's behavior, and young people's concept of personal freedom is prevalent, and they pursue self and independent life, causing some caregivers to "neglect" the care and spiritual comfort of the elderly. "Of course, some caregivers mistakenly believe that it is enough to provide financial support to the elderly and neglect spiritual comfort." Hu Hongwei said.

In addition, Hu Hongwei also pointed out that employers still have omissions in the protection of workers' rights and interests and the establishment of social regulations. "A certain number of employers have ignored and violated many basic rights of workers, including the rights to take vacations and visit relatives. However, there are still many problems in the implementation of laws and regulations to prevent employers from infringing on workers' rights and interests. At the same time, the country has There is still a lot of work to be done in protecting the rights and interests of the elderly, and the construction of legal regulations and the implementation and implementation of policies need to be strengthened."

Create a "light pressure" social environment

" Linyuanxian. It’s better to retreat and build a net than fish.” Xie Qiong, a researcher at the China Institute of Social Management and School of Sociology at Beijing Normal University, pointed out in an interview that the top priority now is to improve the elderly care service security system and relieve the elderly from worries in their later years.

Community elderly care is an important part of the elderly care service system. The daily life and care of the elderly will increasingly rely on community elderly care services. "Vigorously developing community elderly care services, enriching and improving elderly care service projects, and providing convenient and effective services for the elderly will help reduce the inconvenience and loneliness of the elderly." Xie Qiong said.

In addition, in the medium term, multiple channels should be used to promote nearby employment and entrepreneurship.

In June 2015, the General Office of the State Council issued the "Opinions on Supporting Migrant Workers and Other Personnel to Return to Their Hometowns to Start Businesses" to support migrant workers, college students, retired soldiers and other personnel to return to their hometowns to start businesses, so as to promote the prosperity of various industries in villages and towns and promote employment through mass entrepreneurship and innovation. , increase income.

In June 2016, five departments including the Ministry of Human Resources and Social Security and the Ministry of Agriculture issued a notice to launch the five-year action plan (2016-2020) for entrepreneurship training for migrant workers and other personnel returning to their hometowns to effectively improve the number of people with entrepreneurship. Requires and trains the entrepreneurial ability of migrant workers and other personnel who desire and have certain entrepreneurial conditions or have already started their own business. In addition, many social organizations have also planned and implemented effective projects to help farmers obtain sufficient income from the land, such as the "e-Farming Plan" and "Let Dad Come Home".

In Xie Qiong’s view, these measures can not only solve the income problem, but also alleviate the pressure of employment, housing, etc., and more importantly, they are conducive to cultivating close relationships among family members and establishing harmonious and stable social relationships. .

"Finally, in the long run, efforts should be made to reduce social pressure on employment, housing, education, etc., and create a light-pressure social environment. The long-term blind pursuit of economic development and the belief that money comes first have made people forget The goal of development has been lost and the original intention of struggle has been forgotten," Xie Qiong said.

A survey shows that in today's fierce social competition, most employees are afraid or unwilling to ask for family leave because they are worried about affecting their positions and promotions; they would rather work overtime and overload than to take family leave. With the pressure of two or three mortgages or even more...

"The purpose of economic development is to make society develop better, and society develops better so that people can fully realize their desire for a better life. Therefore, by appropriately slowing down the pace of development, pursuing development quality, and creating a social environment with low pressure, more people will sincerely miss their homes, build their homes, and return home often. It will become a beautiful state that everyone yearns for." Xie Qiong emphasized.

Innovative measures in many places have brought the law into effect

Chen Aiwu, a professor and doctoral supervisor at the School of Law at Nanjing Normal University, once participated in the Supreme Court’s family-related issues. When collecting information, she found that for the elderly, In the Law on the Protection of Human Rights and Interests, various localities have introduced supporting local regulations to strengthen the content of "go home often". In addition to the encouraging provisions, some places also have some innovative measures in order to implement the law. .

For example, the "Shanghai Regulations on the Protection of the Rights and Interests of the Elderly", in addition to moral education, reiterates in terms of spiritual support that family members should "go home often" and "for the elderly who live in nursing homes, family members should often visit them" In addition to "visits", two measures, litigation and credit records, are also used. The regulations specifically stipulate that if family members such as children refuse to visit the elderly, the elderly can file a lawsuit to require them to fulfill their visit obligations. If the party refuses to implement this effective judgment, the relevant information will be included in the credit platform, which will have a certain impact on the party's economic activities such as house buying and loans. "This may not be a solution. But at least it is a direction and deserves recognition." Chen Aiwu said.

In Chen Aiwu’s view, regarding the issue of “go home often and take a look”, we still need to jump out and look at the problem. First, the state should invest more. Especially for the elderly left behind in rural areas, their needs are mainly material. On the other hand, there are more empty nesters in cities. Since they have basic security such as pensions, they pay more attention to spiritual support. Secondly, in terms of spiritual support, we must also pay attention to the promotion of traditional Chinese culture. For Chinese people, special emphasis is placed on family life, and the relationship between parents and children requires emotional ties, which cannot be adjusted by law. If the whole society does not have this atmosphere, the situation will become very bad.

In addition, Chen Aiwu also advocated that as parents, the elderly must also enrich their lives. "If parents live like an isolated island when they get older, they will have to rely on their children for comfort. Therefore, the country should also provide more spiritual products and services so that the elderly can have a rich spiritual life. "

Hu Hongwei believes that the improvement of the "Go home often" law can be viewed from the perspective of properly handling the relationships between the family, the government, the market, and society. "

Go home often

It is an inevitable choice to reflect and strengthen family responsibilities. This regulation should be adhered to and improved." He further pointed out that in our country, solving the problem of elderly care (Including spiritual comfort for the elderly), the role of the family should be maximized. The government and society will only make up for the lack of family role when necessary. More often, they should choose to support the family. At the same time, it is also very necessary to pay attention to family support and provide support for family care for the elderly, such as providing subsidies for caregivers, providing respite services, and legislating to advocate "frequent home visits", all of which are to maximize the care of the elderly in the process. A reflection of the role of the family.

Another way of thinking to satisfy spiritual comfort

The operability of the clause "Go home often" is indeed very poor, and good solutions are difficult to find. So, does being filial to your parents mean that you have to go home and get along day and night in person? Li Chao, a professor at the Business School of China University of Political Science and Law, gave an idea to solve the problem from another angle.

“The older parents get, the more they want to be accompanied by their children. During the New Year and holidays, children should rush back to accompany their parents as much as possible. This is definitely irreplaceable and the best way.

"Li Chao believes that on this basis, some alternative methods can also be adopted. She pointed out that support for parents can be divided into three aspects: material support, spiritual support (also called spiritual comfort) and life care. Among them, "Chang Hui "Looking at home" mainly belongs to the aspect of spiritual support. And spiritual support can also reflect more broadness, such as frequent phone calls, video calls with parents, sending WeChat messages, etc., which use modern communication methods to communicate. It can also meet the spiritual needs of young parents.

“Of course, as the age of parents increases and their education, occupation, etc. are affected, the requirements of different elderly people are also different. , so taking appropriate multiple forms is worth considering. "Li Chao gave an example, you can take your parents on vacation together, and there are special travel projects for the whole family abroad, which are good ways to enhance emotions.

In addition, more and more people are now Only children live in big cities. Li Chao believes that since it is difficult to "go home often", children can be encouraged to bring their parents to live with them or let their parents live near them. To this end, Some countries such as Singapore have also introduced laws and policies to provide tax and other preferential treatment.

These measures can encourage and promote the relationship between children and parents, and meet the spiritual comfort needs of older parents