Do you often tell your children about your childhood?

I reason with children when they are very young. Don't think that children don't understand, but they are wrong. Reasoning with a child, she may not understand at once, and she will unconsciously remember it. Slowly, I will reflect what you said in my life. Let's talk about an example by example: I remember that when my child was over two years old, I came home from work and she dragged me to the bathroom to wash my hands when I entered the door. I was stunned, and then I smiled and washed my hands and kissed her. In fact, this is what we usually teach her to do. When I recall the child's age of one year and eight months, this time period is not special. It is the child's performance that makes me deeply understand. Reasoning with the child will make the child learn to think very early. One day, I read the story of "The Crow Drinks Water" to her, and read that "the water in the bottle is too shallow for the crow to drink". I didn't directly read the text behind the story book, but followed it with a question "What should I do?" The child replied "Use a straw." After listening, I held back my laughter and said, "The crow has no hands, how can he take a straw?" She stopped talking and probably went to think. One story spans more than one year. When I was more than one year old, I played with the toys with pagodas (such as pictures). I woke up after a nap in summer, and the child woke up earlier than me. I didn't cry or make trouble and played with the hoop quietly. I didn't say anything to see how she played. She will put the big hole in first, and if there is a condom that can't be put down during the process of looping, she will change the condom until the whole toy is completely set. Funny thing is, over two years old, when playing with the same toy, she won't change it one by one, but press it hard, thinking that strength can solve the problem. This story is about the change of children's thinking, so it is very necessary to reason with children. Don't tell it if you feel small. When children are young, they usually teach the minimum right and wrong, what can and can't be done, why they can't be done, and what the consequences will be. Let's make it clear first, and don't think that she may not understand, let alone. There is a set of understanding in her world. If her understanding and presentation are different from real life, it is time for adults to guide. So I think children should be patient and reasonable when they are young, and I do the same. Now children understand the truth, and there is no so-called rebellious period. Yes. My baby is only a little over 3 years old now, so I often "reason" with her. This truth, we can talk about simple, close to our lives, rather than talking about those distant truths. For example, my baby, whenever I see her throwing garbage on the ground, I will tell her that it is wrong. If she doesn't listen and throws garbage on the ground, I will spank her and tell her that it is wrong in a punishment way, so that she will know that she is wrong. Like our baby, at first, when she dropped her toy on the ground, she cried, doing nothing but standing there crying, and then I would tell her to squat down and pick it up. At first, she didn't understand, but she still stood there crying. Later, I said it several times, and when I said it, I helped her pick up the toy and wipe it clean. Many times. Now, when she drops the toy again and cries, I will continue to tell her to pick it up by herself. After a long time, she will pick it up by herself. Moreover, I think, when I was young, telling a little truth to a child, she knew in her brain that some things could not be done and were wrong, which would form a habit consciousness. For example, my baby, sometimes when I turn to look at her casually, she quickly takes her shoes off the chair, and I will take the opportunity to criticize her again to strengthen her little sense of truth. Our baby will often do similar things. As long as she does something wrong, I will criticize her in time, and when it is serious, I will spank her, and she will be wronged to know her mistake. Therefore, when we reason with our children, in fact, she can understand them. At first, she may not understand them very well. However, it doesn't matter. Say it a few times, and when similar things happen several times, she will know, so that she will have a small scale to measure some small things she has done. Therefore, we should reason with our children from an early age. Yes, don't think that children don't understand because they are young. In fact, to put it bluntly, children are very willing to listen. When my son was one and a half years old, I didn't know where he learned it. Once he asked me for something and rolled on the ground if he didn't give it. Angry, I slapped him with a fly swatter, and as a result, I beat my ass red, and I regretted it afterwards. Later, I made an agreement with my son that it is wrong for my mother to hit you. My mother will not hit you in the future, but your behavior of rolling on the ground is very wrong. If you want something, tell your mother that she will not give it to you depending on the situation, but you will roll and force your mother to buy it for you, no matter whether it is possible or not. My mother hates your behavior. My mother doesn't earn much money, so we need to spend it in a planned way. The child has never acted like that since then, and every time he wants something, he will tell me. I generally won't refuse him, and those who exceed the budget will be rewarded when he behaves well. The child is also very sensible. When he goes to the supermarket to buy things, he only takes two or three samples and asks him to take more. He says he can't buy so many, and his mother has a hard time making money. My son went to kindergarten when he was two years old and eight months old. Before that, I was afraid that he would be uncomfortable and unaccustomed to entering the kindergarten. I often took him to the kindergarten gate to see the children, telling him that when the baby grew up, it was time to learn something, and when he grew up, he would become very powerful. I also told him that there were many children in the kindergarten who could play together. The teacher also taught singing, dancing, eating delicious food and playing hide-and-seek. But I can't see my mother, because my mother has to go to work to earn money and buy delicious food for the baby. My son basically didn't say that he didn't adapt to the life in kindergarten except that he held my neck on the first day and said that he was so sad that he didn't see his mother for a day. Children grow up day by day, but basically everything will be told to me. Because he knows I love him and understands him, and he will teach him what to do when he is wrong. So we have always had a good relationship. The child's rebellious period also passed smoothly. This is a matter of course. She must be instilled with some principles of being a man, some manners and living habits at a very young age, so that she can wait for the principles of being a man, often tell her some manners, and then tell her some great principles from an early age, so that she can develop a good habit and habitually treat everything politely. Tell some stories about celebrities when they were young, and tell some inspirational stories. That's how I teach children. No child is born with a lot of truth, mainly by example. This is desirable. When I was very young, I liked to listen to my parents' reasoning, which made me think twice before you do anything. Many children actually need their parents to tell them the truth, instead of just throwing them into school to learn ancient poems and what the ancients did when they died. It's no use. China education needs to be improved. In fact, this kind of teaching is the best education. In the early Qing Dynasty, there was a famous scholar named Wang Shiyun. He is the author of a book "The Motto is Only Recorded", which contains a sentence: It is important to teach your son by example, not just by words. It means that teaching by example is more important than teaching by example. It is generally believed that today's children are more difficult to discipline than in our previous era. Why? In a word, there is too much time to teach and too little time to teach. Today's families are mostly one child. Of course, there have been more second children in recent years, but there has not been much change. Children are expensive. A child, loved by grandparents, grandparents, parents, is reluctant to cry, and even more reluctant to suffer. Seeing that the child is sick, I can't wait to be sick on myself and take his place. When a child makes a mistake, it is usually a matter of criticism and education. Not convinced, right? Not convinced. But did the child really learn anything? Have you learned your lesson? Adults are still unwilling to admit their mistakes, let alone children. You criticized and reasoned for a long time. The child only remembers that you talked with him endlessly. As for why you criticized him, he has long forgotten. If you can't help but move your hand, he will only remember the fierce look when you hit him, and he won't remember the mistakes he made at all. In "Ordinary World", my little sister Lan Xiang quickly helped to cook at home when she came back from school. Something happened at home, and my little sister silently fed the pig when everyone forgot. Father Sun Yuhou is taciturn, and he is a very good crop. He doesn't know how to educate children at all, but several children are very sensible. This is the importance of example. Sun Yuhou is hardworking, filial and sincere. Although his family conditions are not good, he still sells iron, marries his brother's wife, and even gives his cave to his brother's family. These qualities are all seen and heard by children, and they all develop the character of diligence and care. Zhu Yuanzhang, the Ming emperor, paid great attention to children's education. He has 42 children. In order to cultivate children, he not only invited famous teachers, but also often organized princes to go out for inspections and go deep into the grassroots to observe the people's feelings. He said that the dangers of the road are easy, and the diligence of the pommel horse is known; Look at Wang's career to know the difficulty of food and clothing. Observe the likes and dislikes of people's feelings to know the beauty and evils of customs. To know that it is not easy for me to start a business. Is to emphasize the importance of practice. In fact, this is also a kind of example. Through personal experience, tell the children that it is not easy to start a business. We should cherish the happy life now and hold on to Daming Wan Li. Be reasonable, don't chatter over and over, it's just a temporary addiction. The truth should stop there, try to create conditions for children to experience in practice! As a parent, I will have a choice. When my child is very young, he makes sense. Why? Because the reason is too much, it becomes pale, and it becomes annoying, but it runs counter to parents' expectations. The reason why parents will reason with their children must be based on certain things, which are more or less emotional. Parents want their children to realize their mistakes or learn from this matter. And children's growth is not benefited for life because of how many truths you speak. The only thing that can benefit him for life is the truth he has learned from what he has experienced in growing up, and the truth he has learned is enough to be his strength to move forward. After all, everyone knows the truth, but small emotions can't be controlled by everyone. It is more effective to give children correct emotional guidance and timely reasoning instead of reasoning throughout. The truth spoken by parents is far less profound than that realized by children themselves. Let's take a look at real examples in life. One of my nieces, a child in a large kindergarten class, had a child in the same class who peed her pants. She followed her close friend and laughed at the child. As a result, the children's self-esteem was hurt. The parents of the children came to my brother for an explanation, and my brother quickly apologized and made amends. Later, my brother told her a lot of truth, and my niece felt that her little best friend had led the joke on the child. Why was she the only one to be held accountable for the two people's faults? She felt wronged and cried, and she didn't have the heart to listen to what my brother said. I winked at my brother, and my brother didn't go on. After less than a week, I took her to a piano class, and the teacher asked her to repeat what she learned in the last class. My niece was at a loss, and then her little best friend could laugh at my niece loudly and say, You are too stupid to remember such a simple score, and the other two children laughed loudly. My niece couldn't hold back any longer, crying out of class. I didn't force her to finish this class, but asked the teacher for leave and took her to the square behind the community to calm her down. When she was in a better mood, I brought up the matter that she laughed at the child who peed her pants at the right time. She said that she would never laugh at others again, because being laughed at would make her feel very sad and want to cry. Then I asked her if she thought what dad said that night was reasonable, and she said that what my dad said was right. Therefore, only when you feel pain in yourself can you truly feel empathy. It is better to let your child understand the truth than to reason. Parents only need to give timely guidance. After all, the growth of a child is a process and cannot be achieved overnight. In fact, no matter how young a child is, he understands the truth. beginning of life's goodness in nature is not empty talk. A child is a blank sheet of paper at the beginning, depending on how you lead by example to guide him. Recently, there is a very popular saying: today's children are all rich second generation. Parents themselves endure the hard work, always pretend to be happy in front of their children that "I am not very hard, you don't have to feel guilty", and also anesthetize themselves to say "No matter how hard you are, you should try your best to give your children the best". Then, in order to buy an Apple mobile phone, the mother was forced to kneel down, and naked loans were made to satisfy her vanity. Because of parents' criticism, parents committed suicide by jumping into the river, and parents felt that they had paid everything for their children in exchange for their children to blacken their parents. Do you think these parents are unreasonable to their children? There is absolutely no shortage of truth, but how can a child know what you said without seeing it or realizing it? What you said is just a lot of nonsense with shackles in the child's place. Rather than saying so much, you might as well choose one thing to take him personally to participate in the hard work. Just like people who have never experienced hunger ask hungry children why they don't eat meat since they have no food to eat. You let this person who has never experienced hunger experience the life of that child once, and she will know why the child doesn't eat meat. There is also a Thai mother who felt that learning was very hard because her children didn't like learning, so she took her children to pick up garbage, and then exchanged the garbage for money to see if the reward he got after a hard day's hard work could fill his inner expectations and little luck, so that he knew that all happiness needed hard work to support. If you tell this truth to your child, he can understand it, but he is not branded, because everyone can tell it, but few people can experience it personally. Therefore, it is better to give a child a reason than to take him to experience. Only the truth you have experienced is the best truth you can tell him. Truth is the product of life experience, experience accumulation and logical practice. Underage children can only accept simple truth, and more depends on the power of image stories and role models. Parents often reason with their children. First, they forget what they looked like as children. What can they listen to? Second, I forgot about trivial matters, and I didn't have time to work hard on my children. How to ponder over the children's little heads and accept them? I want to cut the gordian knot! Third, I didn't put myself in the other's shoes from the victim, and I didn't prepare myself as a educator. I always take you as my parent, and I say you have to listen to the customary routine! Fourth, children in today's era are not the past. They are rich in information, smart and willful, but their parents have not kept pace with the times. They are under great pressure outside, and they are impatient with their children. As a result, they have a vicious circle! Therefore, if children really want to become useful, parents should first change their roles, be a good teacher who is persuasive and arouse their inner enthusiasm! Psychologist Piaget said: "Children can only see the world from their own perspective." Teacher Sun Ruixue, an education expert, put it more easily: children know through feelings. Cut off children's feelings and tell them the truth directly. Even if they tell the truth 1, times, they won't listen. It is not unreasonable to talk to children, but to meet certain conditions before they can accept it. So reason with the children.