How should we choose between love and bread?

Hello everyone, I am Teacher Xu. I am very happy that you are here to share with me how we should choose between love and bread.

I have a good friend named Yong Son, when she was in college, she had another very good boyfriend named A Feng. Afeng is a very ordinary boy, but he is very considerate to Yong'er. Except when he was studying, he wanted to spend the rest of his time with Yong'er.

I still remember when we were still in college, when we occasionally went out to play together and chatted and drank together, we would always ask them what they would choose between love and bread?

Yong'er has always said that she must choose love no matter what, because Afeng around her is very kind to her. Every time she was unhappy, she would talk to Afeng immediately. Afeng is not a particularly wealthy boy, so every gift he gives to Yong'er is something made by himself, such as making a plush doll for her, or making her some delicious food to make her happy. Seeing their sweetness made me intoxicated, and I wanted to have a warm relationship like them.

But gradually, the two graduated and went out to work, and this society was like a big dye vat. Thinking back to when Ah Feng only bought a rose for Yong'er, she was already very happy. But I don't know since when, no matter what Afeng did, he couldn't satisfy Yong'er. Maybe Yong'er started to learn to compare when she was working. She saw that many of her colleagues around her had many material things, had many brand-name things, and ate a lot of high-end food. She also wanted to experience it for herself. These things.

Once, Yong'er told Afeng that she was interested in a very expensive watch, and Afeng worked very hard. He found several part-time jobs at the same time and worked hard to save money to buy this watch for Yong'er. Because of this, the time he spent with Yong'er was reduced a lot.

Until one day, Afeng finally saved enough money to buy this watch. He made an appointment with Yong'er to go to a restaurant, intending to give her a surprise. But that night, he saw that Yong'er had already put on that expensive watch.

Yong'er told Afeng that she felt that Afeng would not plan their future. She felt insecure with him, so she found some very casual excuses and left Afeng.

Afeng did not take out the watch. He put away the watch. No matter what, he wanted to become a more accomplished person because he did not want to lose to material things.

In the days that followed, Yong'er was with her boss. She felt that her boss was very powerful and could broaden her horizons and teach her many things. She began to feel that bread was actually more important than love. Her boss never praised her or gave her any surprises.

When Yong'er was unhappy, her boss would only say some ambiguous words, which was obviously to deal with her. But Yong'er didn't care, because this boss often gave her some expensive gifts and took her to travel and eat high-end food.

Yong'er began to check her friends circle constantly to show off some things that she had never experienced or obtained before. At first she felt very accomplished and happy, and she began to understand a popular saying a few years ago: It would be better to cry in a BMW than to laugh on a bicycle. She felt that her life was nearing its peak.

But then she slowly realized that everything seemed a little wrong. Friends around her began to distance themselves from her, thinking she was showing off. Once when she was traveling with her boss, she kept taking pictures of some beautiful scenery and recording some of the travel process.

She saw some wonderful performances, but she did not feel very happy because she was not involved in them and did not fully invest in them. It turns out that the reason why she keeps checking Moments like this is that she wants to use some likes from her friends to support her decision to give up love for bread.

She asked herself, had she ever been truly happy during the year she was with her boss? When she got home, she saw piles of designer bags, many of which were new. She couldn't help but feel a little disappointed when she thought that when she and Afeng had planned to go to the beach where she had been today when they got married.

What embarrassed her the most was that there was a like from Feng in her circle of friends. She found that the boy she left was still paying attention to her, and the new boyfriend around her started paying attention to her again. In the end, I never really cared about myself. During this time, she also discovered that her boss's boyfriend had cheated on her more than once, and she began to regret it. So she got a little excited and rushed out of the bathroom to ask her boyfriend if he had thought about their future.

And her boss’s boyfriend said: “Actually, you already had a boyfriend, and you were only with me for money.” So he never thought about going through this period of life with her. The rest of the way. For Yong'er's boss, this relationship is actually a transaction.

After that night, Yong'er left her boss and returned all the gifts he gave her. She began to realize that what she had always wanted most was not these material things. She missed the happy days with Afeng.

Afeng did not develop into a super rich man like the Korean drama, but Afeng is still waiting for Yong'er and is still so good to her.

If it were you, would you choose love or bread? Do you want to live a life you have never experienced before, or a love that is placed in front of you, and you may not be able to get it back if you miss it?

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Regarding the two choices of love and bread, which one should you choose? We women must have chosen love in the past, but now women are smarter and will choose bread. Of course, you can choose both, but such a perfect state is usually difficult to achieve.

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Look at this issue from a man’s perspective.

In fact, I have also heard that many women will start to miss love when they are able to fight for bread.

On the surface, women nowadays are very smart. When asked about love and bread, they will definitely choose bread. In fact, when true love comes, I think women should go straight to love.

On the other hand, men seem to be ruthless, because when faced with love and bread, they will definitely choose bread without hesitation, so there are heartless men like Chen Shimei, and modern heartless men are also a lot of.

We have heard many stories about men who ended up marrying women who were richer than themselves, or who had a higher social status than themselves.

Ha! I think women are very conflicted. If an emperor loses his power, beauties will definitely think that he is a useless man, and their love for him will probably decrease.

Have you never heard that money and power are the most powerful aphrodisiacs? In fact, we men have an instinct to strive for these two things, hoping that all women will continue to be crazy about us!

Many women associate love with the bread and life they need. They all hope that their significant other is a superman, with power, status and money, so that they can protect their lives, so they choose love. Wrong, because her definition of love must have bread toppings. Anyway, love and bread, after one bite, I feel full and my stomach is full.

But it’s hard for a man to get a woman’s love and then ask her to provide bread, right? There may be many such men now, but for me, this is impossible. I would rather provide bread to women in my love. I am this kind of man.

The point is here, I think I must provide bread to my beloved woman, so do you think bread is important to men? To put it more clearly, "I have bread, so I can get the woman I want! Since women all think that men must provide bread in addition to love."

In fact, many men feel that they cannot give women a good life without money, and this is why they dare not get married.

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Life without love is like a pool of stagnant water, lacking vitality and passion; life with love is a trickle of water from a source, making your life full of happiness and hope. In today's society, many couples get married not because of love, but because of bread, which is the so-called "suitability".

I remember chatting with a beautiful friend. She was nearly 30 years old and had never been in a relationship. She started dating when she just entered the queue of older leftover women. During a leisurely chat, she told me: "I must marry myself before I am 30 years old."

I asked her: "Do you have a boyfriend?"

She said: "No, there is no need to talk about love when you are older. Finding a suitable blind date and getting married is a lifelong event."

In the days that followed, she really started to go on blind dates like crazy. After meeting several boys on a blind date, it still failed.

She complained to me: "If I had known this, I should have fallen in love when I was in college. Now I want to fall in love, but my age does not allow it."

I asked her about blind dates. How the battle went, she told me: "Failed after repeated battles."

I was puzzled, I have met more than ten blind dates, how could I not meet the right one!

Then he asked her: "What kind of boy are you looking for?"

She said: "As long as the appearance is acceptable, the hardware must be passed, for example, a house must be bought. A stable job is a must, and it’s best to have a car.”

I said, “Which one do you choose, love or bread?”

She said: Of course, bread. What is the use of love? Love cannot be eaten as food. ”

Well, after hearing this, I didn’t ask any further questions. In the next two years, we rarely contacted and communicated due to work. Some time ago, we chatted and I asked her about marriage. How?

She only said, "Don't say anything. If you give me another chance to choose again, I will definitely marry love."

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In real society, love on campus is pure, because we don’t consider many practical issues. We only know that when we fall in love, we pursue it. However, after living in society for a few years, we feel that bread is more important than love. Therefore, more people who want to get married in Ben will choose bread.

Marriage life is not only supported by bread. Two people live together every day without love, do not know how to tolerate, and do not know how to communicate feelings and time. The longer the time goes by, the more serious the dislike for each other will become. In the end, the small quarrel will turn into a big quarrel, and the big quarrel will escalate to the breakup of the marriage.

In my opinion, the longest-lasting marriage is the one that stays together because of love. , two people who have love but no bread can work hard together and make their own bread together. That will be "you will be with you in difficult days, and I will be with you in happy life." ”

In TV dramas, we often see such plots. You can only choose between love and bread. Someone who originally had love gave up love for bread. This is also the background of many tragic TV dramas. There is no Will love based on material things really fall apart? Among the twelve constellations, what will each constellation do if faced with the choice between bread and love?

Twelve constellations, the constellations face each other? When it comes to love and bread, I choose

Aries: Love is the most important, bread is secondary

If Aries choose between bread and love, they will choose love. Aries does not value bread. People who believe that bread should be earned through struggle in life can do so in many ways. Only love can bring happiness to Aries. Of course, love is the choice.

Taurus: Bread comes first

Taurus is the messenger of bread. There are many ways to collect bread, and they care about it very much. However, Taurus is a person who does not believe in love. They think bread is more real than love. Taurus believes that people are all material. As long as there is enough bread, love is a natural thing

Gemini: Choose one of the two, and you will choose love

When Gemini faces the choice between love and bread, If they can only choose one of the two, then they will choose love. Gemini is a person who does not know how to live without love. Gemini believes that people themselves are emotional animals, and life without love is imperfect.

Cancer: Love is the most important thing, family is the most important thing

Cancer will also choose love between bread and love, because Cancer is the person who wants to have a family, and they believe that the prerequisite for building a family is With love and longing for home, you can give up all obstacles, including bread.

Twelve constellations, when faced with love and bread, I choose Leo: bread. More suitable for you

Leo is just a lump of wood in front of love. They think love is difficult to understand. They hit a lot of walls for love. Leo will choose bread when it comes to love and bread, yearning for power. Leos cannot live without bread. They know what they want and will continue to make themselves stronger. This is their mission.

Virgo: Bread comes first

Virgos will choose bread between bread and love. They are very utilitarian people in life, and because of their virginity, they will keep a distance from many people. If they are close, many problems will arise. These headaches feel very troublesome, which is often the reason for choosing bread.

Libra: Dilemma of Bread and Love

Libras are born with good looks, which is their pride. , Libra will not be willing to only love, and they are equally reluctant to face bread, and Libra is not the kind of person who makes decisions easily. In the face of bread and love, Libra usually makes a choice after weighing it. of.

Scorpio: I want both bread and love

Scorpios are people who want both love and bread, but they are often people who have neither love nor bread. Scorpios have illusions about love. At the same time, they are also very eager for bread and feel that they cannot live without bread. It is difficult for them to choose between the two, and they often have both or neither.

Twelve constellations, zodiac signs When faced with love and bread, I choose Sagittarius: I prefer love

Sagittarius is a sign that yearns for freedom, and it is also a person who does not like to fight for power. If you want bread, you will often When there is intrigue and competition, and when there is a trade-off between interests and bread, Sagittarius will choose love. Sagittarius' bread requirements are not high, but freedom is more important.

Capricorn: It all depends on yourself

Capricorns have no fixed choice between bread and love, but Capricorns who yearn for love are still inclined to love. The final choice depends on Capricorns The mood of Capricorns will affect their judgment and choices. When they are in a good mood, they may choose love, and when they are in a bad mood, they may choose bread. The final choice depends on their mood at that time.

Aquarius: Emphasis on bread

For Aquarius people, it is difficult to impress them even if they swear by each other and die forever. And they feel that it is really difficult to meet true love in this life. Therefore, Aquarius does not put more emotions into love, but puts it into bread.

Any practical issues involving bread are what they really care about!

Pisces: The sign that is easiest to lose

Pisces are people who don’t know how to choose. They seem to be greedy and want everything, but their abilities are not enough to support them. greedy. When faced with a trade-off between bread and love, Pisces tend to be very hesitant. The result of their hesitation is that they often get nothing. Love cannot withstand hesitation and questioning, bread cannot withstand waiting, and Pisces often miss opportunities in hesitation.

Everyone’s choices are different, and life may not be the same. What the teacher wants to say today is that happiness is good. There is no right or wrong when it comes to love and bread, only whether they are suitable, just like when we choose shoes, Not only does it look good, but it also needs to fit well.