Why do couples break up when they travel?

Originally, the couple were happily making travel plans, feeling that their relationship would go further after traveling together, but they didn't expect their relationship to freeze instantly after the trip, and they broke up after returning from the trip. Then why do couples break up easily after traveling together? Where is the root cause

First, the emotional foundation is not solid

In fact, the purpose of couples, especially young people, together is often based on a simple "pleasure" relationship.

On the surface, it seems that the two people are inseparable and live a vigorous life every day. In fact, they have no emotional foundation at all. It is nothing more than eating together, watching movies, occasionally playing in the secret room to escape, and sending a gift on holidays. When two people are together, they are simply enjoying the welfare of youth. Except for some trivial things in daily life, there is no practical test for feelings.

Compared with these, "tourism" is undoubtedly a comprehensive test of both sides' habits, outlook and personality, and the poorer two people are, the greater the difficulty coefficient of the test.

Before leaving, both of them thought very well. Let's take a photo together and get a card. We will go back to the hotel in rolled sheets when we are tired at night, sleep naturally the next day, and stop and enjoy the scenery along the way.

But what about reality?

Many couples travel when they have no money, which is not only physical fatigue, but also all kinds of troubles, conflicts and problems in the process, which will infinitely amplify each other's shortcomings.

So, those couples who haven't left the novice village will accumulate negative emotions in the process, and naturally think:

"What's his plan? Tired to death every day? "

"What stupid hotel did he order? There are cockroaches in the bathroom?"

"Why does she play with her mobile phone as soon as she gets back to the hotel and do nothing serious?"

"Why does she lose her temper easily? She has really suffered. Let's get it over with!"

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Therefore, all your complaints can easily be summed up in the end-two people are not suitable, or the other person's character is not good, which will give people an illusion: tourism is the most effective way to test whether two people can be together for a long time.

It is not shy to say that it is easy for a "fair-weather couple" to break up after a trip.

Because when two people are together, they are all in the "hedonic mode", and they seldom need to solve practical problems. They both show their best side to hide themselves. What we like is not a real individual, but a deliberately concealed and false image.

So, after a trip, we found all the shortcomings of the other party, and we didn't want to admit the "ruin under the cover of beauty", so naturally we would like to attribute all the reasons for breaking up to "inappropriateness" or "bad character".

In other words, we broke up because two people only have the ability to love, but they don't have the ability to love one person.