How to identify a scumbag when traveling?

It depends on personal choice.

The tenderness and considerateness in the past is not necessarily a disguise. It should be a normal character state in a stable life. There are no ups and downs in life and there are no changes. Being gentle and considerate is something you can do without spending a lot of effort. Many people will choose to maintain the appearance, so there is no need to doubt this.

It is normal to not be as gentle and considerate as usual when traveling. It's not that the person's personality has changed drastically, but that when faced with the unknown and dissatisfaction, the bad side of the person's personality emerges. If you just travel alone, the psychological pressure may be less. If you don't do it, you haven't done it, and no one will blame yourself.

But if two or more people travel, the psychological pressure will naturally be higher, otherwise the person's sense of responsibility may not be that high.

In an environment of two people, if something goes wrong and they fail to implement the plan as planned, many people will blame themselves and start to feel that they can't even do this well. The more people come, the more people start to think in the opposite direction. I’m not the only one traveling. Why does he seem so relaxed? At this time, the person in charge of the itinerary begins to feel resentment, and later becomes angry. At this time, the relationship between the two people Friction began to break out, both sides began to blame each other, and the conflicts gradually intensified. The gentle appearance when they got along before turned into a kind of deception. I became more and more sure that this person was like this, and everything before was all an illusion.

BUT, have you ever thought that beauty is the moon in the water, and unhappiness is the normal state of life. If you take a person's character state in a stable life as a benchmark, then you subconsciously think that this person should be like this in any situation. This kind of thinking is actually very dangerous. What you see is the upper limit of a person's character. Once you encounter some difficulties, if the person maintains it, it will be fine. If the person does not maintain it, it will collapse. In all likelihood, the relationship will break up. .

It’s actually nothing if we break up. The problem is that when most people encounter setbacks and difficulties, their personality state is much different from usual. If you always use the upper limit as the criterion, you will only be the one who is sad in the end.

I have always believed that one of the hallmark psychology of moving from liking to love is that I know what this person is like, but I still accept it. The essence of this sentence is that you not only know the upper limit of this person, but also know the lower limit of this person, and accept this person's lower limit. The first step for many people to accept the lower limit is travel.

In the known strategy, facing the unknown journey and unknown difficulties, everything encountered during this period may be unknown, and this is the right time for you to understand the lower limit of a person's character. After the journey is over, you know the side of this person's personality that is not acceptable to you. What you have to do besides being sad is to calm down and think about whether I can accept the lower limit of this person's current display.

If you can and there is love, why give up this relationship? If not, my suggestion is to break it off. When the lower limit cannot be reached, one person in love will definitely suffer.

Emotions do arise from sensibility, but for people who can go on for a long time, rational management is also an indispensable link.

Have a happy life!

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