I didn't arrange my trip with my boyfriend, which made him very unhappy.

I don't think we can break up because of this. In a two-person environment, if something goes wrong and is not carried out as planned, many people will blame themselves and begin to feel that they can't even do this well. When there are more and more mistakes, people will start thinking in reverse. I'm not the only one traveling alone. Why does he look so relaxed? At this time, the person in charge of the trip began to feel disgusted, and later, it would produce anger. At this time, the friction between the two people began to break out. The two sides began to blame each other and the contradiction gradually intensified. The gentleness of getting along with each other before became a kind of deception, and I became more and more convinced that this person turned out to be like this, and everything before was an illusion.

But have you ever thought that beauty is the moon in the water and unhappiness is the normal state of life? You take a person's personality status in a stable life as a benchmark, then you actually subconsciously think that this person should be like this under any circumstances. This idea is actually very dangerous. What you see is the upper limit of a person's personality. Once you encounter a little difficulty, just keep it up. If you don't keep it, it will collapse. In all likelihood, this relationship will break up.

Breaking up is nothing. The problem is that most people's personality state is peaceful when they encounter setbacks and difficulties, and it is often much worse. If you always judge by the upper limit, you will only be sad in the end.

I always think that a symbolic psychology from liking to liking is that I know what this person is like, but I still accept it. The essence of this sentence is that you not only know the upper limit of this person, but also know the lower limit of this person, and accept this person's lower limit. And many people accept that the beginning of the lower limit is travel.

In the known strategy, in the face of unknown journey and unknown difficulties, everything you encounter during this period may be unknown, which is when you know the lower limit of a person's personality. At the end of the journey, you know the unacceptable side of this person's personality. All you have to do is calm down and think about whether I can accept this person's current lower limit.