My daughter-in-law went on a trip while her mother-in-law was in confinement. How did her daughter-in-law treat her mother-in-law?

In the minds of many people, the mother-in-law must take care of a daughter-in-law during confinement. If the mother-in-law does not take care of her daughter-in-law during confinement, then the mother-in-law should not expect her daughter-in-law to help take care of her or provide for her in the future. . Although this idea may not necessarily make sense, it is an old and deeply ingrained idea that is really difficult to get rid of. So, when the daughter-in-law is in confinement and her mother-in-law goes on a trip, how does the daughter-in-law treat her mother-in-law?

While the daughter-in-law was in confinement, the mother-in-law went on a trip. This shows that there should be disharmony between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law, otherwise most mothers-in-law would not choose to travel at this time.

Let’s analyze what are the reasons why a mother-in-law travels while her daughter-in-law is in confinement?

1. Maybe the daughter-in-law asked the confinement nanny to help, but there is no extra room at home for the confinement nanny. All the mothers-in-law choose to travel at this time and give up the room for the confinement nanny.

2. Maybe the mother-in-law signed up for the tour a long time ago. At that time, she only thought about traveling and ignored the daughter-in-law’s due date, or the expected date of delivery has been advanced, and the tour cannot be cancelled.

3. There may be conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In order not to serve her daughter-in-law during confinement, the mother-in-law chooses to avoid it, and the best way is to travel.

4. It may be an activity organized by the mother-in-law’s elderly group, but the mother-in-law can’t shirk it, so she has no choice but to go on a trip with her friends.

5. Most mothers-in-law will find helpers in advance, or the family will decide who will serve during the confinement period early in the morning.

So, for different situations, we have to have different ideas, for example:

The first point: Such a mother-in-law is rare, in order to allow the confinement nanny to better serve the mother. , I can only choose to leave home temporarily.

The second point: Such a mother-in-law is ill-considered, but it cannot be said to be intentional.

The third point: Such a mother-in-law is intentional. As a daughter-in-law, you don’t need to be too nice to her in the future, just keep a certain distance.

The fourth point: Mother-in-law may be more face-conscious, and it is difficult to avoid group activities.

The fifth point: For such a mother-in-law, if I were my daughter-in-law, I would let her go out and play without worrying about things at home.

If my mother-in-law went traveling while I was in confinement, I would be very angry, but there was nothing I could do about it. After all, that is her freedom, and we as juniors cannot restrict her activities. . However, I won't be so kind to her in the future. People's hearts are made of flesh. If you are good to me, I will be good to you. If you are not good to me, why should I fawn over you.

Actually, this happened to me recently. My mother helped me during both confinement periods, but my mother-in-law didn’t help. On the one hand, she didn’t know how to help during the confinement period; People are really lazy. She never mentioned her help during confinement since I was pregnant, so I didn’t dare to ask her to help during confinement.

Now, she had a minor surgery due to illness and needed someone to accompany her in the hospital. Because I was not at work, at first the whole family regarded me as a target to accompany them, but I just refused to go. My husband can ask for leave and I can take care of the logistics. I really can't do anything like peeing and feeding her in front of her hospital bed.

In short, everyone is equal.