Six taboos that immediate family members must know after their death.

Although people don't want to talk about death, after all, birth, old age, illness and death are objective, and no one can escape. Therefore, it is necessary to understand the taboos of funeral customs in order to avoid taboos and follow the customs.

Taboos that immediate family members must know after death.

First, the taboo of burying the dead.

1, satin fabrics are prohibited in the clothing of the deceased.

Old people are used to calling the clothes they wear after death? Shroud? After sixty, some old people began to prepare shroud. The quantity and texture of the shroud are very particular. The number of pieces is generally odd, such as five, seven and nine, but not even; The material is mostly silk, because? Silk? And then what? Houzi? Homophonic, meaning many offspring, avoid using satin, because? Satin? With what? Bad boy? Homophonic.

2, the coffin taboo with willow.

Willows are forbidden in coffins. According to legend, it is because the willow tree does not bear fruit and is worried that it will never be seen again.

Second, the date of the funeral is forbidden to be chosen on the day of heavy mourning.

Heavy mourning, heavy, repeated, double meaning, refers to more than one funeral, refers to the situation that some family members or relatives died one after another within 100 days or one year after a person died.

Custom pays attention to, the day of funeral must avoid the day of heavy mourning, so as to avoid the death of relatives at home again.

There are two situations that may lead to heavy mourning: one is the heavy mourning on the day of the death of the deceased; The other is the day of the funeral.

When are you going to have a grand funeral?

Walk with the sun and the moon

On the day of death or funeral, Sun Gan happened to walk with Jian Yue, and one of the five elements was very powerful, forming a strong impulse on the other five elements, so it was easy to have a heavy funeral. The specific dates are: January 1 day, February 2, March 5, April 3, May 4, June 1 day, July 7, August 18, September 5, 1 October 30,/kloc.

In other words, if the deceased died on Jiazi Day, Jiayin Day, Chen Jiari, Wu Jiari, Shen Jiari and Xu Jiari in the first month, it would be a mourning day, and there might be a mourning. Other months and so on.

Di Zhi Siri and Rihai

The fourth day and the third day are the days representing Tianmen and Dihu. These days, heavy mourning is easy to occur every month. If the day of death or funeral of the deceased happens to be the fourth day, or the fourth day, there may be a heavier funeral.

What if the funeral is heavy?

In the event of a heavy mourning day, it is generally committed to those who are weak, weak in numerology, or have contradictions with the deceased. However, if you are not afraid of 10 thousand, you are afraid of one thousand. In case of heavy loss, it is best to take preventive and rescue measures to ensure safety.

Specifically, after the death of the deceased, please first ask professionals to see if the funeral was heavier on the day of the death of the deceased; If you commit the crime of heavy mourning, you should take targeted preventive measures, such as special equipment, according to the advice of professionals when entering the coffin? What happened in town? , small coffins, etc. ; It is also necessary to choose a suitable funeral day to ensure that the living will not be threatened by heavy mourning.

If you have to choose the day of heavy mourning under some special circumstances, you should tell the owner in advance the problems you should pay attention to and take preventive measures, such as wearing amulets for your family and making special arrangements for cemeteries and coffins.

It is forbidden to visit relatives and friends during the third year of filial piety, especially to attend happy events.

Within 0/00 days of the death of immediate family members, it is best to be filial at home. Don't travel, visit relatives and friends, etc. unless necessary. So as not to bring your sadness to others.

Especially weddings, business opening, celebrating the birth of babies and other happy events, it is best not to attend.

Fourth, during the period of filial piety, children should avoid wearing red and green.

During the mourning period, ancient children paid attention to wearing filial piety and white mourning clothes within 100 days; After a hundred days, wear dark clothes such as black and blue to show filial piety, and avoid wearing red and green heavy makeup.

In modern society, although many friends don't wear mourning clothes for so long because of work and life, they wear them instead? Filial piety? The word to be replaced; However, you still can't wear red with green.

Five, during the period of filial piety, children should not participate in recreational activities.

In ancient times, when parents died, children generally had to observe filial piety for three years. During these three years, marriage and auspicious celebrations are not allowed.

Ancient exquisiteness? Rule the world with filial piety? An official, no matter how old the official is, will take time off to go back to his ancestral home to fulfill his filial piety after his parents die. Ding, you? . If officials don't go back to their hometowns to observe filial piety, they may be impeached by the censor, punished, or even never hired.

If an official gets married, has children, breaks up, has fun, etc. During his anxiety, he will be regarded as unfilial and impeached.

In modern society, many people shorten the time of filial piety to one year or even less, but they are afraid that their children will have fun.

In the first year, the immediate family members died, so it is forbidden to post red couplets before the Spring Festival.

Sticking red couplets during the Spring Festival is a custom in most parts of China.

However, if a family member dies, it is forbidden to post red couplets in front of the door during the first Spring Festival.

Funeral customs in Europe are very different.

Why don't the French want to be cremated?

France is a country with a long Catholic tradition, and its citizens are used to burial. The reason is simple: Catholic faith? Final verdict? (le dernier jugement) Christians should lie still after death? Resurrection Valley? (la Vall？ E de Josaphat), waiting for God's judgment as the final destination: going to heaven or going to hell. If a person's body is cremated, he can't go to the valley of resurrection, and he loses the opportunity to go to heaven. Obviously not what devout Catholics want. Catholics refuse to be cremated, preferring to be direct? Buried? .

Cremation is not a common choice in France. Historically, most French funerals were held through churches. It's just that times have changed, and now the funeral ceremony of cremation is gradually becoming secular.

According to a survey conducted by Dangdai magazine in the spring of 20 15, 83% of funerals have certain etiquette, but the ranks no longer follow the religious road. The funeral home has a funeral hall where the families of the deceased can hold a secular farewell ceremony. Pastor? Preside over the handling. As a result, being a priest has become a fashionable profession. In fact, the proportion of the dead who were sent for burial has dropped to only half (52%). Because, whether Catholics, Jews or Muslims, making this choice is mostly related to religious beliefs. In Paris, most people who choose to be buried in the ground decide to go directly to the cemetery after they die in the hospital. The same is true for Jews and Muslims in France, and it is not necessary to hold religious ceremonies through mosques or synagogues.

Spaniards have been working hard for funeral insurance all their lives.

Spain and France belong to the Roman language family and have a long Catholic tradition. The characteristic of funeral is that most residents have joined a funeral insurance since the age of 20, and paid for it for decades until their death! ? Funeral insurance? It is a social insurance project, which is integrated with housing insurance and vehicle insurance. For the vast majority of Spaniards, it is normal to automatically pledge this insurance, and there is nothing strange. The funeral industry in Spain is naturally prosperous, and contractors benefit from it. Insurance companies directly control several major funeral homes, and there are many policyholders, so the funeral expenses can be relatively cheaper. Today, Europeans still maintain the custom of wake, especially in Spain. There, there will be a funeral the day after death, because the deceased can't feel lonely for a moment, and all the family members will come to the wake to accompany them. There used to be a mourning hall at home, but now the funeral home has opened a single room for rent, and all kinds of equipment are convenient for people to mourn.

Italy's heavy obituary

In Italy, another country with Latin culture, especially in the south of Apennine Peninsula, it is an important event to publish funeral obituaries, which is highly valued by people.

In suburbs or rural towns, it is faster and more effective to post the obituaries of the deceased on the bulletin board of the authorities' office, often in a place not far from the deceased's home, as close as possible to the business district, church, market and post office than to post the obituaries in newspapers. The purpose is to hope that more people know that someone has passed away and strive for as many people as possible to attend the funeral. Attending funerals is a basic collective activity in Italian social life. Obituaries are usually written within a few hours after the death of the deceased, printed on white paper with black edges as notices, usually accompanied by icons and quotations from the Bible, which are posted by the personnel of funeral enterprises. The size and printing quantity depend on the contribution of the deceased's family.

British people's sense of returning.

In Germany, which pays attention to environmental protection, do the dead enjoy it? Green cemetery? (les cimeti？ Res verts), but Britain has done better in this respect and let the dead rest in peace? Natural cemetery? (les cimeti？ Res naturels)。 In the British Isles, the number of such ecological cemeteries has reached 200, accounting for 10% of the whole cemetery. In the ecological cemetery, the remains of the deceased are wrapped in natural fibers, and chemical spices and preservatives are prohibited. Coffin is raw wood, stone tombstone is quite hidden, surrounded by trees.

Choice? Natural cemetery? Burial embodies a philosophy of life advocated by the British, that is, people leave as few traces in the environment as possible after death. It can be seen that in Shakespeare's old country, modern environmental awareness has penetrated into all areas of people's lives, including proper placement after death.

Pay attention to reality and change customs.

Belgians are quite avant-garde in dealing with death, and funerals are quite free. Not only euthanasia is allowed, but also the urn cremated by deceased relatives can occupy a place in the home, so it may be placed in the cabinet of the salon without disturbing the normal life of the owner. This custom is completely different from France, where it is forbidden to put cremated urns at home, let alone scatter ashes in the back garden. If family members want, they can scatter it in the sea or nature, as long as it does not spread to public places such as streets, parks and gyms.

In Scandinavian Denmark, burial is an exception. Among the residents of Copenhagen, 93% choose to be cremated after death, which exceeds the high proportion of 90% dead in London. In other European countries, the proportion of cremation has gradually increased, with Czech 865,438+0%, Switzerland 80% and Sweden 77%. In contrast, in Europe as a whole, French funeral customs are somewhat conservative. However, France is also changing. 1980 The cremation rate of the deceased was only 1%, and now it has risen to 32%, and the city has reached 35%.

Europeans gradually change their ideas and accept cremation because some elderly people realize that they should not be a heavy burden on their families after death, and cremation is obviously the simplest form. Another reason is that European cemeteries occupy too much land, especially in Britain, and it is forbidden to put coffins in graves or take them out to make room. There is not much empty space left, so it is difficult to build a new grave.

Buddhist weddings and funerals

The funeral customs of the East and the West are different. Cremation is practiced in all Buddhist countries to make funerals lively. People presented fruits, vegetables and various tributes to the deceased, showing the festive atmosphere. Funeral in Asian vocabulary? Red and white wedding? People attending the funeral don't wear dark black clothes, and the monks who sacrifice are all wearing saffron robes, which are dazzling. This is to make the dead happy? Did you have a nice trip? , reincarnation in the future; Obviously, it is quite different from the idea that Europeans want to stay in heaven forever.

Religious funeral custom

Christianity

Christian funerals are presided over by priests or priests, and prayers are held around the graves to wish the deceased rest in peace and ascend to heaven. Sometimes the first half is held in the church. Catholicism also holds a memorial mass for the dead. The main color of Christian and western traditional funerals is black.

Islamism

Islam believes that a simple funeral should be held as soon as possible, right? Dead people rush like gold? Said. Usually held within three days after death. Relatives of the deceased or other Muslims washed the body with water and wrapped it in white cloth. Pray for the dead. Then it was transported to the cemetery for burial. The body faces the Kaaba (Kaaba) in Mecca, and there are no coffins or funerary objects. Participants were asked to keep quiet throughout the funeral.

Buddhism

Buddhist funerals are generally cremation, and some monks sing chanting texts, which will cross over the dead.