Don't borrow money easily when traveling with friends: it's really unacceptable to pay you back in three days.

Tell a true story that can ruin your three views. I broke up with my friend of 10 because of a trip. What he did was really shocking. After this, as long as I travel with my friends, I will tell you: you should bring enough money! Don't call me too direct. I just don't want to face humanity. I'm so tired.

What happened:

An hour before the tour group set off for the coast, friend A suddenly said, "I don't have enough money on me. When you go to withdraw money, help me get an extra 5 thousand yuan. " The girlfriend wondered, "Why did he wait for you to withdraw money before saying that he didn't have enough money?" I said it should be careless, but I didn't expect this to be just the beginning of a nightmare.

That year, three of us took our girlfriends to a tour group in Thailand, which was a so-called low-priced shopping group. The external price was 1999 yuan. We all know this rule very well. Of course, we don't care how much it will cost later, but we are also mentally prepared to bring more cash. Traveling out of Thailand also has this standard requirement for tourists (at that time, everyone was required to bring 4000 RMB in cash). Because we may be spot-checked when we go through customs, each of us has a minimum of 4,000 yuan in cash. If it is not enough, we can take the bank card to the ATM after arriving in Thailand. I didn't expect the problem to start from this first link, but we haven't noticed it yet. This is just the beginning of a nightmare.

At the last hour when the team will gather at the port, I'm going to the ATM next to me to get cash. My friend A suddenly told me that he didn't have enough cash on him, only enough for one person. Let me borrow another person's. I don't think it is a big problem. Look, they all lined up for customs clearance. Don't have any more accidents, so I gave him five thousand more. His girlfriend muttered, "What's the matter? He didn't say no until you went to withdraw money. " I said I might have forgotten the possibility of spot checks. After all, it is not convenient to carry more than 10 thousand cash with you. Although my girlfriend looks unhappy, she doesn't talk much. After all, that's my friend and the money is mine. I have been a friend for many years, and the problem is not big.

After customs clearance, I waited for the plane to board the plane and successfully boarded the flight to Bangkok, Thailand. It was already afternoon 12 when we arrived in Bangkok, and the tour group took the shuttle bus arranged by the ground agency and went straight to the hotel to check in.

Friend A took part in a self-funded travel project, spent all the 5,000 yuan I borrowed, and borrowed money from me, only to know that he didn't have any money. His girlfriend said she didn't bring it, thinking that everyone was in Thailand, so I couldn't ignore it. This is not the way to be friends. Well, I'll pay their expenses first. At this time, my girlfriend looked gloomy. She said, "Is this intentional?"

On the first day, the tour group arranged three scenic spots and two shopping spots, one of which cost 1 000 yuan per person. We stayed in it all morning, went shopping for two hours in the afternoon, and then moved freely. In the end, friend A and his girlfriend only spent 5000 yuan, while we only spent 2500 yuan.

Every two days, we will go to another scenic spot at our own expense. Play for one day at a cost of 1800 yuan. Those who don't participate can go to the free scenic spot next to us 1800 yuan. At this moment, friend A leaned in and said to lend him another 5,000 yuan. Before I could speak, my friend B said, "Didn't you take my 1000 yuan?" Why borrow 5000? 3,600 yuan is enough for both of you. " Friend a looks a little embarrassed at this time. He said, "I forgot my money." The friend came and said, "You are really good. You can travel without spending a penny." At this moment, my girlfriend turned away from her friend and didn't even look at her. I think how disgusted she is, but she can't ignore it when she looks at it. Why didn't she just return the money when she came back? So I had no choice but to give him another 5000 yuan.

At this time, my girlfriend couldn't help but say, "You have to leave some flowers. Don't buy useless things at random. We only spent 2500 yesterday. How can you still spend 5 thousand? " These things are available in China, and we didn't buy them. We brought so much money. "

At this time, friend A's girlfriend was unhappy and scolded him: "Why didn't you bring money?" He was embarrassed to explain that he lost his wallet when he went out and found it when he left. Another friend of mine had a helpless smile on his face. I didn't care at the time. When I was playing, he pulled me aside and said, "Don't lend him any more money. This 6000 yuan is enough for both of them. " I asked him what was going on. Does he have a problem? He said he didn't want to affect the mood of the trip. Anyway, don't borrow any more. In short, just give him some information that is only enough for him to spend.

Maybe it was the girlfriend's words that worked. Friend a never borrowed money again, and kept it until the end of the tour, and everyone lived in peace. On the fifth day, we flew home. Before boarding the plane, that friend didn't forget to say, "I'll pay you back within three days after I get home."

After returning home, the nightmare began, and this friend finally showed his true face. Everything he did is hard to understand, completely subverting your three views.

After traveling, I didn't care too much about my friend A's three-day repayment, because I didn't lack that 10000 yuan. But three days later, my friend B who borrowed 1 0,000 yuan to go out had tea with me and talked about it. He said, "I don't want my 1000 yuan, and I won't have any money in the future." He said that he wouldn't be willing to lend him that 1000 yuan if he weren't abroad, and then he told a story of his own experience.

Half a year ago, he and his girlfriend traveled to Guizhou. They thought that there were too few people to be bored, so they made an appointment with their friend A. Friend A was supposed to bring his girlfriend, and suddenly something happened to her, so the three of them set off, but something that puzzled friend B appeared. On the first day he arrived at his destination, when he booked a hotel, the expenses were all paid by his friend B. This is not a big problem. He thought they were all adults.

The next day, regardless of the meal or the ticket, friend B paid the money first. He thought that the first day's expenses were all paid by one party first, which was convenient for calculation. Let's take turns to come. Just add up AA, no problem. But on the third day at lunch, friend B waited for him to check out, only to find that he was playing with his mobile phone and didn't mean to check out. Friend B is also a good-looking person, and friends also avoid talking about money. Seeing that he didn't move for a long time, he had to pay the bill.

In this way, whether it is meals, tickets, accommodation or tickets, it is basically friend B who pays the bill at the back. In his mind, he wants to solve it himself and share it when he goes back. Needless to say, everyone understands this rule, and there is no way. Friend a is either slower than him or doesn't return it at all. Finally, friend A simply said, "Let's solve it first." But I didn't say I would go back and calculate. Friend b thought it was acquiescence and didn't need to say it clearly.

Things are not what he imagined. After he went back, his friend A never mentioned the cost of traveling together, let alone sharing the cost. Friend a was in a bad economy at that time, and 3000 yuan was not a small sum. Besides, no one's money was blown away by the strong wind. Moreover, this practice is very cheap, and it is very uncomfortable to treat others as fools. This is no longer a question of money. There has to be a saying, right? However, after all, he usually has contacts, and he doesn't want to make things so embarrassing. He has to find a way to get that 3000 yuan back. Today, he said that WeChat had no money, so he quickly turned 200 to cheer me up. Tomorrow, he said that he would need 200 yuan to pay for a friend's dinner, so as not to lose face. The day after tomorrow, he sent a message in the middle of the night saying that he would quickly switch to 100 to make Didi. . . . After half a year's struggle, I got the 3000 yuan back.

After listening to his words, do I think this is a mountain out of a molehill? Why don't you just ask him? He said, "You'll know what's going on if you try."

My nightmare has begun!

After listening to my friend B's words, I thought that something was really wrong. It seems that someone else set me up. Didn't he say he would pay 10000 as soon as he came back? It's been three days now. Why haven't you seen me say hello?

So I called directly, and he didn't answer the phone for a long time. Before I could speak, he quickly said, "I just saw your information and will give it to you in three days." I happen to have something to use. " Ok, I'll wait for him for three days.

Three days passed, and nothing happened. It's too stingy to rush him at this time. Give him another chance, and then he will do something else. It took 10 to think of it, and he sent another message asking how it was. This time, he replied, "I'm sorry, I forgot to tell you." I lent 10000 to someone else and haven't paid it back yet. Give me three more days. "

I said, "OK, let me know in advance." At this time, I still have some confidence in him, but things are not what I imagined. This time, I waited patiently for him for a month. I think anyone with a little bottom line principle should take the initiative to explain the situation in this case to eliminate the other party's concerns and misunderstandings. He is still nothing.

On the 30th day, I called him directly and asked him what was going on, but he said that his father fell to his death, and the three brothers pooled their money to buy a cemetery! I just received a tour group to Thailand. I want to borrow my 10000 yuan to book a plane ticket, and the money I earn should be just enough to pay off my bill.

Well, someone else's father is dead, so I can't be unreasonable. Let's wait until he has arranged the tour group properly.

Three days later, I was very shocked by his behavior. He frequently updates the dynamics of Thailand tourism in his circle of friends. He looks high-spirited, he can't see the sadness of losing his father at all, and he can't understand that the whole trip can be arranged by the operating agency. Are you in sales? Wouldn't it be nice to save that 5000 yuan? Your father wants you to take money back to buy a cemetery? You still owe money to others?

To tell the truth, so far I don't know whether his father is true or not, or even whether his father is still alive.

I have begun to believe what my friend B said. After he came back, I contacted him for a long time, only to find that he kept turning off his phone. The fourth day, I contacted him. He said that he caught a cold for three days as soon as he came back. This really makes sense. I talked about the money directly, and he said to pay me back 2000 first. I said you have no money, so you still want to play? Hung up the phone and didn't find that the account was transferred. Three days later, I sent a message: "What about the promised 2000 yuan?" Half an hour later, I received 2000 yuan from him, and I didn't mention the remaining 8000 yuan.

Since then, the arduous process of recovering 8000 yuan has become a nightmare in my life and ruined our friendship for many years.

The remaining 8,000 yuan tested my patience. I no longer believe his mantra of "within three days". I really can't understand why I have to promise each other frequently when I know that I can't keep my promise within three days. This is beyond my comprehension, but he enjoys it. This can only be said that the attitude towards honesty is related to people's personality.

In fact, to this extent, it is not a question of money at all, but a question of a person's dignity and the principle of face bottom line. His rudeness violates other people's principles and bottom lines.

Later, I will only adopt the practice of my friend B, and make up an excuse to ask him for money every now and then. Today, the car ran out of gas, and WeChat just had no money to transfer 200. I sent a message in the middle of the night and took a taxi to turn 50, and my mobile phone was about to be disconnected. Please charge 100 phone bill for me! . . . . .

After two years of hard work, I got back 6000 yuan, but I really didn't have the leisure to ask for that 2000 yuan, so I didn't continue and didn't contact him. He didn't mention it until the fourth year, when I got married, my daughter-in-law needed 2000 yuan for a birth check-up that day. Remembering that he still owed 2000 yuan, I took the video of the hospital and said, "My wife is doing a birth check-up and asked for money. Take that 2000 yuan.

I didn't expect him to turn around at once and scold me with his voice to the effect that we are all friends. As for writing, is it that ugly? He thinks I did something wrong!

At first, we were even. Three days later, he hoped that history would repeat itself. I made a decision quickly.

Things have come to an end, and I didn't mention it again, so I didn't care so much, but I didn't expect him to call me three days later and ask me to lend him 20 thousand yuan. He still said, "I'll pay the bill and pay you back in three days."

I refused decisively and told him that I was 30 years old and it was time to do something reliable.

Since then, we haven't had much contact. We just say hello when we meet. I used to get together with a few familiar friends every once in a while. Since this incident, I have never deliberately contacted, and the silence of adults is the alienation of relations.

@ 嗱嗱嗱嗱嗱嗱嗱 Summary:

Reflecting on this matter, if the problem of cost was explained clearly from the beginning, this unpleasant thing should not have happened.

But things involving money in life are far more than traveling together, and considering the human relationship, it is not a refusal to solve the problem. In many scenarios and situations, the parties are often in a dilemma. Whether it's human feelings or money, one party will suffer. What should I do?

The best way is to stay away from people with low moral bottom line and avoid contact from the beginning.

No matter what you do, human feelings belong to human feelings, the number should be clear, and things should be frank and clear. As the saying goes, you don't blush when you say ugly things.

There is an old saying: "There is no true gentleman in wine, but there is a true gentleman in money."

Don't be shy about talking about money. Many people care about face, because they care about face. Their happiness seems to be built in the mouth of others, but they don't know if others have given them face.

Face is skin, dignity is bone, dignity is in your own hands, but face is given by others, so some people say that people with dignity must have face, and people with face may not have dignity.

You will also find that people around you who seem to be capable are shameless, those who are incapable are shameful, those who are proud will lose face in the end, and those who are shameless will lose face in the end.

For those who don't give you face from the beginning and bully you in other ways, you should correct your attitude and safeguard your interests by your own means.

Your escape will only breed the recklessness of the other party, and your thoughtlessness and kindness will only stimulate the viciousness of human nature. Only when you treat the world fiercely will the world suddenly become gentle.