How to prevent my husband from cheating?

As a wife, are you also afraid that your husband will have an affair? What about us? First, it is better to improve women's carefulness, seriousness and sensitivity by imagining things, so that they have an advantage over men in some aspects. But on the other hand, women also have shortcomings such as narrow-mindedness, paranoia, perfectionism and emotional fragility. In our psychological counseling clinic, we often encounter such examples: Case: When Rong Er moved, she accidentally found a diary of her husband's past and learned about some previous relationships between her husband and her lover. From then on, she questioned her husband every day what was going on. She read the diary many times, memorized it, and wherever she went, she would recall whether her husband had been here with others in the past, what she had done, and so on. This made her miserable. She couldn't sleep all night and didn't want to work during the day. Their children are in primary school. Rong Er doesn't want to divorce her husband, but she can't forgive him, so she tortures each other and makes her husband miserable. Analysis: Although many women don't have this extreme behavior, they often doubt the loyalty of their husbands or boyfriends and spend a lot of energy thinking. They not only lack trust in each other, but also lack self-confidence. I often ask them, life is limited, how much time do we have to really think about our life, work and entertainment? Is it worth spending so much time thinking about irrelevant people and things? Some people will suddenly realize that they should pay more attention to their own growth. Instead of looking at her husband like a thief, we should pay more attention to improving our quality and perfecting ourselves. Comments: It is often impossible to look at people, and it is most important to grasp yourself. A confident and self-loving woman is very attractive! Second, you can't give without yourself. Half of your personality comes from heredity, and the other half is due to acquired environmental influence and education. When women grow up, their parents will unconsciously give them too much protection. It seems that girls are more delicate than boys, and men have to help women. Therefore, women are more dependent than men. After marriage, many women put their husbands and children first, and feel that it is enough to have a husband working hard outside. If a husband is rich and his wife is proud, they will not strive for progress and gradually alienate themselves from the outside world. When her husband's career develops and her children grow up, she becomes redundant and unattractive in the eyes of others. She feels very inferior. Women's maternity makes them willing to give selflessly, but women don't consider their own growth, career and hobbies at all, so they are soon given up and finally lose themselves. Even if the family has money, women should have their own career and space, because women's self-confidence comes from self-reliance. Case: Qin Fei became a full-time housewife after she got married. Her main job every day is doing housework and shopping. Her husband is busy with work and has no time to take care of her loneliness. Her friend is going to work again, and there is no one to entertain her. Qin Feiyue became more and more depressed. Why does she feel like a yellow-faced woman? Later, with the help of psychologists, Qin Fei became a SOHO woman. She is relaxed and busy all day, and has no time to pay attention to her husband's phone calls and face. Therefore, her husband often pays attention to her whereabouts and appreciates her new life. Comments: Some people compare women to a book or a school, but if there is no fresh content, what is the attraction? Therefore, women should pay more attention to their career development and personality cultivation while caring about their families, so as to enrich their lives. Third, a woman's happiness comes from her own woman's emotional richness and easy to be sentimental. Then who should a woman's happiness come from? Many women complain that their husbands don't love her enough, are not romantic enough, are not considerate enough, and don't understand enough, which makes them feel annoyed. Case: Xiaoyu's husband used to take care of her and often sent her small gifts, cards and love letters, which made her feel very happy. However, after several years of marriage, her husband became more and more busy at work, became more and more indifferent to her, and even forgot their wedding anniversary and her birthday, which made her particularly sad. Does the husband not love himself? Or is there another love? She began to doubt whether there was eternal love. Analysis: In fact, the relationship between husband and wife is not static, but developing and changing, from romance to reality, from flower to fruit. In the past, my husband often sent cards, but now I have to consider earning money to buy a house and a car to support my family. Within three years before marriage, the two were in a infatuation period and then entered an attachment period. Women should consider creating happiness by themselves, instead of waiting for others to give happiness, and don't become emotional beggars. Women can have their own social contacts, go shopping, exercise, travel, learn new skills, make themselves more valuable and happier, and affect their husbands' happiness. Comments: Remember! Women's happiness comes from themselves. Fourth, don't isolate your husband with love. No matter how you go out, women still pay more attention to the family than men and are more dominated by the family. The relationship between women and in-laws is more difficult than that between husbands and in-laws, because some women are very sensitive and pay too much attention to their own feelings. In fact, women care more about other people's feelings, and many relationships can get along well. Many people unconsciously think only of their own needs and hobbies, and are unwilling to consider the needs of others, especially those who grew up under the care of everyone. Case: I have only been married for more than a year, and the relationship between husband and wife has been very good. Mr. Wang is recognized as a good gentleman. Recently, my mother-in-law moved in from other places to live with them. My husband is a very filial son. Because of his busy work, he hopes that his wife can take care of his mother more. But Ling Lin has always lived in her husband's favor, and now there is another person in the family who shares her husband's love. She suddenly felt psychologically unbalanced, and naturally she was out of place with the old lady. All she can think about is how she was ignored by her husband, trying to win a sigh of relief, but completely ignoring his needs and feelings. In fact, as long as she is kind to her mother, she will definitely return more love. Some virtuous wives are especially kind to their husbands' ex-wives' children, and as a result, they get twice the result with half the effort and win twice the love of their husbands and children. But some people don't think of this. Comments: The idiom "Love me, love my dog" should be very suitable for couples' life. Competing with her husband's immediate family is likely to upset the balance of his love in the end. Don't let yourself become a broken mouth. Women's attitude towards love will change after marriage, and they unconsciously show that they want to subdue their husbands instead of respecting them. The newlyweds can't avoid many quarrels while being sweet, and the focus is on "who is in charge". Case: Xiao Guan and his wife have just been married for more than half a year, but they are arguing over some trivial matters. They are all highly educated intellectuals. They are usually gentle, but quarreling at home changes their faces. Why? It turned out to be for the "leader" at home! My husband used to be very free and easy, putting things casually and not paying much attention to details. He can't stand it and must be reformed. As soon as her husband came back, Xiao Guan stared at him. Sometimes I feel that my bowl is not clean, and sometimes I feel that I have thrown my socks everywhere and become more and more nagging. The husband thinks that home is a place to relax, and as a result, he is more nervous than work, less and less fond of going home, and his wife complains more and more, forming a vicious circle. Comments: In fact, my wife did a lot of housework, but the credit was offset by nagging. The husband is not only ungrateful, but also disgusted. The wise choice is: 1, and your word is broken; 2, two people do it together; Leave him alone and let him do it himself. In short, don't be too demanding of perfection in everything, but turn a blind eye. In this way, neither of them will feel tired. ? If you can do this, I believe your husband won't have an affair.