My husband takes mistress to travel every holiday.

My husband takes mistress to travel every holiday.

Mr. Zheng:

My husband and I were married 13 years. My twin daughter 12 years old. When I found my husband and Xiaosan together, Xiaosan was not married at that time. They are colleagues. I found their ambiguous information on my husband's mobile phone. At that time, I asked my husband, but he denied it, saying that it was just a colleague relationship, nothing else. Later, they went on a trip together at Christmas, and I couldn't find any evidence.

In the year of the financial storm, their company went bankrupt, and they didn't find any contacts during that time. I soon heard that Xiaosan was married and had children, but the year before last, my husband told me that he wanted to change jobs and went to work in his current company. I just learned recently that Xiao San introduced him in, and then they came together again. Angry, they still disclosed their relationship in the company, which led many colleagues to know.

So I asked my husband, but he still refused to admit it. He also argued that it was only after he went to work that he realized that San Xiao was also working there. Of course I don't believe him, but I can't find evidence, so I can only endure the pain. He comes back very late every Saturday and Sunday. In the past two years, he said that the company had a business trip abroad.

It was not until later that I saw the photos of them playing in the cyberspace of San Xiao that my heart really bled. After a big fight with my husband, he vowed that there would be no next time, and said that he would take our mother and daughter to travel in the second half of the year. I believe it. During that time, he really went home from work, and last May he took our mother and daughter to play. I thought it was over.

But at the beginning of August last year, I found the boarding information time of buying air tickets in his mobile phone and asked him if he wanted to travel. He said that the client invited them to play and I asked him to take me with him. He said that others were embarrassed to bring a companion, and I said that I bought the plane ticket myself. He said I was unreasonable. I knew something was wrong. Later, I searched online according to his ticket number and found that Xiao San also went. I printed it out and confronted him. The client invited our department. What's so surprising about her going? I didn't go alone with her. What's the problem? I was in tears. He also told me not to be silly and not to guess. He and mistress really have nothing. Later, I secretly went to mistress's space to check the photos. No customers invited them to play at all. Just two men and two women, and the other one is playing with a mistress. I scolded my husband angrily again, and promised him that he would not have anything to do with her again. This trip was the last time, and he made it clear to her that it would have nothing to do with her. The husband also said that if she divorced, what would the two daughters do? You don't want them to live a gloomy childhood, do you? I said, if you thought about two women, why did you do something wrong to us? ! My husband swore it wouldn't happen again and made me believe him.

In the next few months, we also got along well. We visited our relatives on the fifth day of the Spring Festival this year. It was not until the afternoon of the sixth day that he went out after 3 o'clock. I called to ask him where he had gone. He said he had gone out for a walk, but he hasn't come back after 5 o'clock. I called him again and he said to come back later. I spoke to him again. Did someone drive you away? Who knows, he still said I was bored, and then hung up on me and I'll call again.

I turned off my phone until nine o'clock the next morning. I asked him where he had gone. He said that he went out to play with his friends. When he came back two days later, I asked him if he had left with that woman. He said he didn't have to go with that woman when he went out. Don't always think like this. Then he said that the phone was turned off because there was no electricity. According to my understanding of my husband, I usually call him, even if I am busy, but if I am with that woman, he won't.

I know they must be traveling together again. The third party has a 6-year-old child studying. I can't find her husband. Why doesn't her husband know her behavior? Mr. Zheng, what do you think I should do now?

The injured woman: Anny.

Reply:

Anny:

There is a saying: I don't cry until I see the coffin. 99% of men cheat in this respect. Obviously, his wife has sensed that something is wrong with him, but he just won't admit it. There is a simple reason. His wife didn't have any evidence of his cheating, and she didn't see it with her own eyes. No matter how you make trouble, he can blame you, but he can't just yell at you and say that you are puzzling and suspicious.

This requires wives to be smarter. When you first notice his "tricky" behavior, you should be good at beating around the bush in order to learn lessons. If he really treats you like a fool, then don't go crazy because of "making much ado about nothing". It is better to "catch" him once, or catch him in the light, or catch him in a jar.

When he cheated a few years ago, the financial turmoil helped you, at least breaking the "geographical" conditions for him to cheat with his colleagues. If you realize this and mend your marriage, you shouldn't find a mistress anymore. Later, he and her colleagues cooperated again, which was definitely not a coincidence, but a premeditated plan. Maybe her marriage is not happy, maybe her marriage itself is a cover-up, but in any case, they are back together, and their feelings are naturally better than that.

Now there is no room for redemption. Let's start with their company. When the time is ripe, you might as well find a good excuse to go to his company to test the reaction of their colleagues and find out whether they are all "hidden marriages" in love. When you go, you will naturally show their true colors. On the contrary, you will be blown away by the wind.

You also need to know some background of this third party, such as marriage history. I don't understand yet. All you know is that she was made up by your husband. Maybe the six-year-old child is also his illegitimate child. If she gets married and has children, she will certainly take care of them. Then you can copy the photos of her space and your husband's trip first and send her a copy to see how she explains it. If she dares to be arrogant again, she will simply come to her husband. The rest you can keep silent. As for your husband, there is no need to be polite in front of the enemy. Let him thoroughly see if the coffin cries, which is also the standard to judge whether you need to continue to maintain your marriage.